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| 5 Mar 09, 4:49 PM night_porter UK(G), 4 yrs   |
Yeah, it's weird canes aren't something I'd given a great deal of thought to - well certainly no more than any other cp implement - until recently when I was introduced to them by someone who is something of an enthusiast with much experience. That's changed everything really. Yes there's still fear, trepidation and ultimately general 'ouchy stingy-ness' but in the right hands a fabulous sensation.
Cause Holy Cow I Love Your Eyes And Only Now I See The Light | ||
| 7 Mar 09, 10:26 AM Adverse_Camber UK, 3 yrs |
i agree completely - i had only previously received the cane as punishment and i really hated and feared it.
But now i am being shown (in the hands of the experienced some changes are external, some are internal: all can be assimilated | ||
| 7 Mar 09, 12:50 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Quite agree. I go through phases, sometimes I'm right up for it, other times I just do not like the idea at all. But a general sensuous light working over, more a percussive massage, sort of thing, is always nice. Recently got a pair of miniture (2') schoolroom style canes, and they are great for that. JDL leathers, by the way. Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you? | ||
| 8 Mar 09, 12:56 PM The_Perfect_Sadist UK(PO), 4 yrs |
I think you should know that this is not only a sub's dilemma but a two-way thing. Several subs I know, like the cane. As a Dom, however, I don't really like it at all, and much prefer to use other instruments.
It seems to me to be an insensitive and brutal tool with no subtlety and little eroticism. Whereas a rubber belt or tawse, or a dressage whip, on the other hand . . .
There may be more than one way to skin a cat - but there is only one try per cat. | ||
| 8 Mar 09, 2:23 PM JimNixon UK(CA), 8 yrs |
The cane is not the easiest of instruments to get used too! I was caned at school (1960s) and didn't enjoy it one bit so it was a surprise to find in later years that the cane could be good if the Dom made sure that my bottom was thoroughly prepared for a caning at the end of the session. Good preparation always involved a prolonged and relatively slow hand spanking with maybe a progression to a hairbrush, small paddle or rubber ferula. I find that it takes about an hour of spanking to get a really good afterglow burning in my backside. When that point is reached you can move on to an alloted number of strokes of the cane. If you don't like the sting of thin canes then don't use them! A senior rattan or kooboo will hurt more but there is less of sting and more thud which will leave stripes and cause bruising but that's part of the fun of caning! When you are being trained to take the cane try to give the caner as much information about how you are feeling throughout teh caning. The 'One to Ten' question used by the caner is far more telling, to the caner, than having a traffic light system which is much less sensetive to the canee's limits. A good trainer will take you close to your limit and push you gently at each session. Only by your own efforts though can you attain a position where you'll be able to take a hard caning withou uttring the safe word! It took me about four months of fortnightly canings to get used to the cane. The great problem with the cane, and other impliments for that matter, is that if you don't train regularly you loose the ability to soak up the strokes and have to train up again! A former playmate introduced me to the rubber ferula for use as a self spanking instrument. This I was instructed to use on days between my training sessions. Being easy to apply and quite painful if only took a few minutes each day to get a red hot glow on both cheeks. Its use quickly conditioned my buttocks and I was soon able to take more and harder strokes of the cane during punishment training sessions. Self spanking also works for other instruments such as the tawse and martinet. Good luck with your training. | ||
| 8 Mar 09, 3:26 PM Clyde1 UK(NW), 5 yrs |
The cane has never been a particular favourite of mine... i've taken a few strokes now and then but never really appreciated it. That is just beginning to change... i won't say i like it yet... but i might yet get there... What's changed? i found a Domme who loves it and in wanting to submit to Her... and in enjoying Her response when she uses it on me... i'm beginning to allow my submission to transform my feelings toward the physical sensation...
ps Don't let Her know this clyde Edited 8 Mar 09, 3:27 PM by Clyde1 | ||
| 8 Mar 09, 3:46 PM WickedWizard UK(NN), 3 yrs |
Far from it - very far indeed: it is an instrument of great subtlety. | ||
| 8 Mar 09, 5:48 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
I have a love/hate relationship with canes. I hate the pain, being more into thuddy play than stingy, but I love the anticiptaion, fear and the fact that it cranks my submission to another level because I can't take a caning as well as, say, floggers or paddles. We have several canes, including the recent addition of a traditional crooked handle school cane (stings and stripes like a bastard). If I had to pick a 'favourite' it would be the kooboo one from Quality Control, as it's the closest to being thuddy.
I've only ever been caned by one person, although I now wonder if he'd like to loan me out to BV after *that* description I'm a threadkiller, twisted threadkiller | ||
| 8 Mar 09, 6:01 PM vellan_drang 5 yrs |
Just to nuance what an earlier poster said: I love and hate the *pain* of the cane. Generally the cane happens after a good warm up, but even then it can send stars through my central nervous system, it can hurt but be slightly pleasurable, or very, very occasionally, it can send me off with the fairies. I don't think I'd ever want *not* to feel the pain of the cane. What's the point otherwise?
 And to respond to a previous poster, the cane can be used in myriad ways. I'm not into school scenes or CP scenarios, so perhaps it's also important to say that the context, as well - of course- as the caner - can make all the difference. v._dr | ||
| 12 Mar 09, 9:05 AM nataliemerch UK(N), 3 yrs |
Thank you Persia.
I usually find that after six of the best.....tears are flowing. On a few occasions I feel twelve strokes is necessary.......and yes..there has been a time when someone needed sixteen strokes of the cane. It took her longer to learn her lesson, but learn it she did. All the bottoms..were very well welted for sure.
amused muse |
