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| caprycorn |
Fuck me but its going to look like an abattoir by the time I've finished.
1. People who won't consider switches for relationships are missing out.
I am a switch who most likely could not submit to another switch. If I can flip the dynamic then I will, and knowing that my partner is a switch would not work for me. That does not make me a bad person. It does not make me a bad switch. It just means I know what works for me and mine.
2. YKIOK
Fine and dandy but fucking hell it's dull. And it's not adhered to. So can we just dispense with it and carry on with the bitching, or is it only applied when people need a shibboleth to hide behind?
3. BDSM is a community
No it isn't. It's an acronym
4. BDSM practitioners are more open minded than vanilla people
Hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!! Only when it suits them.
5. If you don't fancy thin / fat / tall / short people then there is something shallow about you as you cannot see the "inner beauty" of someone who doesn't appeal to you.
Bollocks, it is what works for you Although I'm a fat person and if you don't fancy me then there is obviously something wrong with you.
6. BDSM kit is always expensive
Nonsense. Pervertables don't have to be pricy although some are. Rope isn't dear, nor are crops, canes or a thousand and one other little gems out there.
7. BDSM kit can all be bought on the cheap
Nonsense. With some kit, you really do get what you pay for. Cheap is not always cheerful. One of my biggest chuckles was when someone compared a £10 whip with my Tasmanian babies - arse, and talking out of as there really is no comparison.
8. BDSM is “above” sex
Not for me - it's all intertwined and rather deliciously so. It's part of my sexuality and sensuality - why would I deny my own arousals and desires?
9.D/s people are humourless and twue
Arse again and talking out of.
10. D/s people are superior to those who don't get D/s
It's that talking arse again.
11. Pretending to be into edgy things makes you look cool and people will like you for it.
No it just makes you look like you are pretending and people will laugh at you for it.
12. BDSM practitioners aren't judgemental and anything goes
Not until you mention that you are married anyway. Then the gloves are off. Or that you have an "untrendy" kink. That just makes you freaky.
13. Poly people will fuck anyone
I won't. Does that make me less poly? Shit, that's me sunk then.
14. Poly people are better at relationships than monogamous people
Remind me of that when I've managed to piss off both J and lucky simultaneously. It's a hell of a skill I have, very finely honed too.
15. There are rules on how you have to “do” BDSM
Not so but there are some traditions. You don't have to adhere to them but don't cast them out just because you can. People who have been kicking around for longer aren't better than you but they sure as hell might be more experienced. Up to you whether that experience is useful or not.
So that's those cows polished off. More beef than an agricultural show. Steak, anyone? It'll go with the chips on all those shoulders.
