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| 5 Mar 09, 9:33 PM iamafls 6 yrs  |
Hmmm. I do not dislike myself because I am submissive but I do struggle with my submissive nature from time to time. I'm still learning about the depth of my submissiveness, and I'm not discounting the reality that I MAY, at some point, hit a point that I'm not willing to go beyond. Presumably if I did push past that point I may end up disliking myself. All about balance, isn't it? I may not be as submissive as another sub but it's what is right for me, and of course what is right for Mistress, I do so want to be the slave she wants and deserves. | |||
| 6 Mar 09, 12:02 PM Kookie UK, 4 yrs |
Hmmm.....well you can be somebodies doormat if you choose to be. I agree though, there is a difference between being a weak person and being submissive - the two are not synonymous.I think the problem may lie in either not reconciling with who you are and who you think you should be, matters of incompatibility and/or maybe passive aggression (learned helplessness and resentment).
We are all in the gutter, just some of us are looking at the stars (Wilde). | |||
| 6 Mar 09, 12:24 PM night_porter UK(G), 4 yrs  |
'Choose' being the operative word in both these quotes. And, indeed, nothing wrong with that. And conversely, and I hope this doesn't sound too arse-y, being strong and a dominant are also not synonymous. The dominants (for want of a better word) I know have their moments of vulnerability, loneliness, confusion and, indeed, weakness like everyone else.
Cause Holy Cow I Love Your Eyes And Only Now I See The Light | |||
| 6 Mar 09, 12:59 PM spankAlicious UK(N), 4 yrs |
well i don't dislike myself but over the past two years my friends have seen a change from me being confident and out going to being a little more quite and not speaking up. my best friend hates the way when i am in a conversation and people speak over me i just shut up and stop. he says people see my weakness and use it. i have been in some hard situations where i have found myself being too submissive or trying to fight my submission. other times people have wanted to take me further than i wish to go and it has caused trouble, Master says people see what's in the eyes and can tell. the only problem i find is not being able to talk to friends who understand what it is that i do, i have tried and then our friendship is never the same again. i would say that is my only regret. xx squidy smiles and kinky fun!!! Edited 6 Mar 09, 1:01 PM by spankAlicious | |||
| 6 Mar 09, 1:24 PM George_Michael 5 yrs |
This sums up my own submissiveness, it's about knowing enough of yourself to be happy and enjoy it, in every way. Subsiding is fun. | |||
| 7 Mar 09, 2:25 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
Ditto Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. |
