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What is it You Like About Receiving a Flogging? (24)

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26 Feb 09, 9:08 PM
biglittlegirl
UK(NE), 3 yrs

What a great thread, all these intelligent articulate people out there ....

I want it now!

Firstly I have to say I would not explain to friends as I am a private person but if I did it would go something like this:

Unlike others on here I am not a pain junkie but Trillium states the psychological benefits. I find the apprehension before the flogging or spanking extremely exciting. As I have just said I don't like pain so I start to feel hot, nervous and excited and then it is time.

At this point I have already built my mind up. My excitement then changes to the excitement caused by submitting to another and wanting to please them. The actual flogging, spanking or stick can only then lead to further pleasure. In this state I then find it difficult to remember to count correctly which can only then lead to more strokes. Strange for someone who studied Quantitative Mathematics. I suppose it is just the way my mind works.

I am not sure others have this as I do not discuss my sexual proclivities with anyone. The pre-amble for me is as exciting as the act itself. This maybe because I do not have regular partner so I suppose this magnifies the experience as I feel I have to make the most and be the best I can as I do not know when I will play again.

Afterwards I am smiling for a good few days afterwards. It is life affirming. I feel awakened for a short while at least.

trillium wrote:
Their can be many different levels as to why one feels benefit from a flogging. I shall break it down into four (from the bases that the flogging is past a sensually comfortable point), these apply to me but I shall write in 3rd person form.

1) Psychological benefits include; stimulation, increased attention span (theoretically), appreciation for life/ones self (takes away the predisposition for self destructiveness), increased self awareness...

2) Physical benefits are that it can be restorative and strengthening to the body.

3) Psychological-physical benefits are that of; invigoration (lasting anywhere from half an hour to several days), increased general comfortably...

4) Physical-psychological benefits can include; eventual control/stability over breathing (and therefore the mental state), increased balance and bio dynamic control, heightened senses...

Discomfort will bring one more into the present, 'the outer mind', it 'kick starts' the almost dormant instinctive part of the mind. While sensual play/comfort brings one more to 'the inner mind', a philosophical state, 'a step back to see the mirrors'.

Note that these points are purely from my experience and speculation (not based on any academic research). If any one has anything to add or confer to this please do.

Ben/trillium

Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it.
Now I know I'm being used but that's okay cause I like the abuse.
I can resist everything except temptation.

26 Feb 09, 11:15 PM
iamafls
6 yrs

Some wonderful responses and, at the risk of echoing what others have said, I'd explain it in terms of the 'rush' and of the connection.

For me there is a psychological aspect to submitting to Mistress, a completely different role from my day job, which is very relaxing and centring.

The pain aspect is both a high/adrenalin rush as well as a hugely intimate experience, submitting completely to Mistress, placing my body, mind and soul in her hands and knowing she will look after me is hugely liberating as well.

And I'd be lying if I didn't mention the fact that there is something very very sexy about the rhythmic thuds and sting of a flogger, and the soft touch of her hand on my throbbing, red, tender skin.

27 Feb 09, 9:14 PM
Adverse_Camber
UK, 3 yrs

i like the way it lifts me up and away from myself, lets me let go, stops the ache inside...

The way it pleases the one doing the flogging, the gift we are exchanging, the connection we make...

And afterwards, the silence, the calm and the wonderful peace.

some changes are external, some are internal: all can be assimilated