| 17 Mar 09, 5:45 PM shyslave01 UK(BS), 9 yrs   |
I'm a fellow sub, I understand what you've said & think its great but on a personal level I've never been too self confident,I'm never moaning or 'whinging' but I am kind,caring have a good sense of humour and always respectfull, thoughtfull and giving. My little arguement is this,why can't someone be accepted for who they are, surely as long as someone is polite,kind well mannered etc then their strenght-confidence should'nt be too much of an issue. As I've said I've never been the most confident, that does'nt stop me from talking or meeting people and why should the fact that some one does'nt have a lot of confidence be off putting to a potential partner whether in nilla or D/s. The person can still be loving,careing and well mannered, you can never I think completely change your personality. I've also been told in the past being soft,a little shy perhaps and careing in a male can be attractive to Women, so where's the problem. | |
| 9 May 09, 6:34 PM misfit UK, 3 yrs |
I do not whine about being single and refuse to rush into anything. There are a lot of beautiful women but choosing the right one is the difficult decision. I refuse to rush into such an important decision. Compatibility is key. I know I probably think too much of myself, hardly the worthless sub type. I do not believe in competition as we are in competition every day. I can only do the best I can do so why I should I worry about competition. Afterall I was in competition with about 100 people for my job but I got it. I have stopped going on vanilla dates as they inevitably lead to short term relationships for me which inevitably end badly when I disclose the real me but I enjoy my own company and go out regularly whether to comedy, gigs or theatre. I am not very good at putting people on pedestals, probably not a very good quality for a submissive (ha ha). I value equality in a relationship and I am certainly not looking for a fantasy Domme. I do not even have an ad up because when I meet the right person I will know and until this time will continue to have fun but refuse to continue to misrepresent myself on vanilla dates. I have been made to feel this is unfair by some girls and have come to the conclusion they may well be right. I have recently started a new book and on a date are the words Hobbies, pets, unusual proclivities. Sometimes I think it is a shame I can not disclose the latter at the beginning of a relatonship as it would save a lot of heartache later on. M Space travels in my blood. And there ain't nothing I can do about it. | |
| 13 May 09, 12:37 PM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Great blog, and thanks to Mirren for givin it extra visibility via her profile. I think along similar lines; we are all people first and foremost, with the variety of human experience. I prefer to relate to people as people as well as in role. But to be a person, a full human, is a wonderful thing and worthy of great respect. Ubi caritas et amor, Deus ibi est. http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/226772/ | |
| 20 May 09, 11:39 PM sublion UK, 10 yrs |
OH MY where to start..........well i suppose at the end the now....i have 99% given up at finding 'her' (though there is one possible lady on the horizon - but she is entangled in a rather complex life so this looks like a friendship thing only) tis a long time since i came on here for a 'wee' peek to see who is on here now.
I am for sure a dominant demanding secure assertive confidant male who 'needs' a {more}dominant lady in my life someone who is into controlling their man using all that she is a female a lady a woman using her sensuality sexuality femininity intellect personality behaviour her mind and of course her body.........one that i am totally compatible with in many many areas for sure not only in a BDSM D/s M/s way..................i want a relationship i want it all something that meets both of our needs in all important aspects of our lives. I have an 'aura' 'presence' and that for sure separates the dominants from the wannabe dominants. I have met a few ladies and had relationships with them where i could be totally submissive so i know it is not just a dream but possible sadly none of these 'relationships' have been lasting because they did not meet our 'other' needs in a relationship. I do know what i want and i hope i know what i need however they could be two different things i suspect i am seeking the first dominant woman in my life 'my mother' not for any incestuous reasons but to make that more clear the lady who will take me mould and shape me teach and train me to be all that she wants and needs but this time wont push me out into the big wide world to make my way in it but will hold me close use me love me and we will have a wonderful life together. I have tried vanilla and i have tried coming out at various stages in a vanilla relationship from day one to month six......even though these have been with lovely and generally very attractive and beautiful ladies they leave me empty and unfulfilled. One thing i dont do is moan about my situation or feel sorry for myself....i read the profile of the lady who said this initial post appealed to her and thought she sounds nice so came here to read what got her interest......rambling rant over |
