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| Fri 13 Feb 09, 9:44 AM FlayMe UK(DT), 5 yrs  |
Sorry if this sounds like a wind-up (it honestly isn't), but do all professional dominatrices want their slaves to say "Thank you Mistress" after just about every lash of the whip and every other bit of punishment? I know what it's meant to signify, but don't they get fed up with hearing the words, especially when the slave's struggles to get his breath back while tensing against the pain make his voice come out in a pathetic gasp every time? It may sound trivial, but both PDs I have seen wanted me to keep saying it and I actually found found that my lips got sick of forming the same words over and over again, while I also found it a tedious and artificial distraction from the pain. | |
| 13 Feb 09, 9:50 AM MistressMephistoUK UK(RG), 4 yrs £ |
I don't.
A few 'Thank you's' to start with is respectful and pleasent, but then once you start to enjoy and/or sink into sub space, with whatever I am doing I'd prefer silence punctuated by squeaks and purrs..... MM
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| 13 Feb 09, 9:56 AM lisal 9 yrs |
Not really in my experience With current domme those words aren't used at all I guess there can be a sort of base session while the domme gets to know you and what you like. It may well be different if you see a regular domme and she understands what makes you tick The oher thing is pre session discussion. Did you have one with either of these PDs?. It's a chance for you to give some input into what works for you and what doesn't. What you describe wouldn't be high on my list....... | |
| 13 Feb 09, 10:12 AM MistressRouge UK(B), 6 yrs £ |
I dont, I would rather you concentrate on the sensation, then a thankyou lol. " The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it. Resist it
and your soul grows sick with longing, for the things it has forbidden
itself"
Oscar Wilde | |
| 13 Feb 09, 10:19 AM MistressGI UK(BH), 6 yrs £  |
I will say when I want sub to say thank you Ma'am, usualy with last strokes, I find that it disturbs My concentration, ie, stops short sharp quick strokes, so the spontanaity is taken away, so long as respect is shown through body language, that is enough for Me Lifes a Bitch....Isn't it fun | |
| 13 Feb 09, 10:52 AM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £ |
For me, not during....but afterwards it's a very important part of my personal rituals surrounding punishment.
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| 13 Feb 09, 2:32 PM Tara_Red UK(B), 5 yrs £ |
I have found though especially when playing with a new dommes/doms some like you to say it so they know when you are ready for the next stroke, if you are in pain and struggle to say the words then it will be longer before the next stroke arrives. I find it very useful when caning and I wish for a bit of time for the sting to go away before the next stroke is to do a bit of gasping and not say the words on purpose. Doesn't get me far wimping out with a more experienced dom or one who knows me though! Pro submissive (& switch) with great dungeon & LOTS of toys grin! | |
| 13 Feb 09, 4:20 PM Bubbles_2 UK(E), 6 yrs |
One Mistress, Thank you Mistress, etc - quite a nice ritual.. Club Subversion Crossing the Rubicon FleursduMal bobette's MySpace Beginners Guide to BDSM[/ur | |
| 13 Feb 09, 4:38 PM ComfortablyNumb UK(RG), 4 yrs   |
I say thank you once meaningfully at the end. If I'm capable of speech. After every hit would be an impossibility - wouldn't it? *thinks I'm missing something here...* ___________________________________ | |
| 13 Feb 09, 6:38 PM CPeccavi 4 yrs |
Only as an indicator with someone I'm unfamiliar with or if it's the sort of scenario agreed in advance. If you're paying for a service you should feel able to tell the Lady if there's something you find distracting. You are there to enjoy yourself. A Man Is For Pleasure, Not For Life | |
| 13 Feb 09, 7:33 PM FlayMe UK(DT), 5 yrs |
Sorry - I meant after each series of hits. I honestly must have been prompted to say it about 20 to 30 times during my last session with a Mistress. I think a few people here are right in that it's the Mistresses' way of gauging if I'm OK with something and she should continue with it - but then isn't the safe word for letting her know if limits have been reached? I definitely see it as a constant distraction from sub-space though, and wonder why the Mistress couldn't just gauge my reactions from my non-verbal noises, body language etc. |
