Posted by Elvenkind
on Tue 10 Feb 09, 9:01 PM to Elvenkind's blog.
Once upon a time n fairy tale land I started chatting to a guy who thought he was an alpha male (clears throat). He did the usual crap that's spouted from these alpha male types; the shit was coming quick and fast. I told him NO. He then after a few weeks sent me a message asking my opinion of a club. I gave my opinion and hoped that he has a good time when he attended. He told me he was escorting a friend because she'd never been before. I like that kinda trait in a man, so I opened contact again. Maybe I was wrong about him and his alpha male crap was a mistake. I know I'm a married woman but for the past few years I've played alone. I thought finding someone a little closer to home would fill a void and hopefully some regular play would pass my way.
The fairy tale will take shape as the story progresses.
I'm not your timid little submissive. I'm a strong woman who knows what she wants/likes/loves etc etc.
The male of this story told me he was ex army, then it was ex RAF. I was a bit confused but pushed it to the side of my mind to bring it up at a later date because I had other issues I was wanted to raise. We were talking about being play partners after all.
The chat was fine; he did lack experience which doesn't really bother me. I'm a lets learn together type of person. It's not like we were about to enter into a d/s dynamic we were in the play partner process.
Anyway as our chat progressed these lies appeared, which made me question a lot more. I asked about references, he told me his last play partner wouldn't give him a good reference because she was erm, too couply for him.
Well. I'm sorry but she's the first person I'm going to ask. She was still on his network so it couldn't be that bad, could it?
I contacted her explaining I was thinking about playing with him and could she give me an honest account of her time with him. The lady in question was lovely. She gave an honest account of what happened. It wasn't the best but not the worst, though the guy did have a temper, so be careful. 'Couply', she laughed, that was the last thing on her mind, she also has had reservations, and that temper was the last straw, which is why she ended it.
The lady went on to explain that the guy didn't have his own toys, which I thought was a bit suss. I'm sorry but even a total novice at least has some sort of toy bag or am I being picky? A dominant doesn't turn up for play emptied handed, well maybe at a spanking party..LOL. She also paid for lunch because he was skint.
Hey, no toys, skint..
The lady and I exchanged email addresses and we've chatted in messenger at length, even called each other. We found we had a lot in common because the guy had been asking about me to said lady. Apparently his friend was interested in me. What a load of bollocks. The guy was talking to me and the instant I said I was bisexual the guy instantly brought up said ladies name. His head is up his ass. Why do men instantly go into hyper drive the moment you say your bisexual?
The more I talked to my new found friend, the more the lies grew from said guys' mouth. Who else had he lied to? He told me I was his only play partner and that he was tested regularly. I contacted another lady from his network and asked the same questions I had the first lady I spoke to. Erm, I wasn't looking for what was about the happen. The poor said lady was still in a relationship with him. She'd paid for flights and everything; the guy didn't turn up and made excuses. The same said guy was talking to me most of that particular weekend. We were planning our first meet. He told me again I was his only play partner. This new found lady didn't even know about me. She thought it was still on; well he was due to spend the weekend so she didn't have a reason not to think anything different. The same lady told us that he'd also threatened to break her legs. Is this guy for real? The answer is yes, unfortunately.
We all decided that a messenger chat would be in order. We'd all be able to tell our story, see if anything matched, or if the lies got bigger. Well as you imagine. The lies spun out of control. Certain things matched, but all spoke of a temper, temper tantrums, likened to a little boy. The slightest comment setting him off. His words filled with anger.
Well, we won't settle for it. We won't settle for being lied to. We won't rest until he apologises to each of us, even the ladies, who are hiding from this bully. Yes you're a bully. There's talk of you storming off because you'd cum too quickly. There's talk of you sitting back and watching the submissive's you've trodden on paying things on your behalf, these range from Lunch, hotels and flights, all being bought because your skint, stoney broke, the little subtle things that don't count, well they do in this blog.
This blog is for the newbies out there, looking for that dominant, please be careful, remember, and don't mistake domineering for dominant. This guy does really well apparently. He's so nice to start with, then, well, it all goes down hill from that. He'll give excuses to everything. He snapped at me last night because I wasn't responding to his messages quick enough. I put him straight and he apologies this morning, with an excuse he was ill. He's been ill with every submissive he's had contact with. He also drinks lots when he meets his submissives, one suggesting he has a drink problem. He's also told every submissive he's been with that he's in the forces. Which force remains a mystery as he's told different stories, he's been in the navy, 2 para, and the raf so far. Maybe he's a wannabe solider? Who knows? Is he a danger? Can anyone see a pattern forming?
This blog is for the women who are being bullied by domineering men, passing themselves off as dominant sadists. This man calls himself a sadist. Does a sadist ask if he's doing ok whilst fucking you? A dominant sadist, who is a sponger, drinks excessively, lies and god know what else. Maybe I should add small cock and cums too quickly into this equation or is that being nit picking?
Don't settle for anything less in a dominant.
This guy is a compulsive liar, he peddles backwards when he's caught out and questioned. This guy wants so desperately to work with children. This guy is full of bull shit. This guy bookmarks people and is secretly plotting his next victim. I've obviously told him that I've caught him out and that I won't be meeting him. The stupid pillock replied saying it was all lies… Hmm, 5 different women saying the same story can't be wrong, can it? This guy is a danger to newbies and broken women. He targets them, worms his way in until he's turned them into a doormat.
It has to stop right here, right now.
