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| 1 Feb 09, 8:00 PM mini_velvet UK(EH), 6 yrs  |
incorrect, insulting, patronising, elitist claptrap. No colours or shapes | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 8:13 PM the_fickle_one UK(NG), 5 yrs  |
Seconded. I always thought fidelity was to do with love. Would seem rather silly to base it on a BDSM dynamic, particularly for couples who aren't kinky, just so they can "know each other" better. The amount of people who play casually, swap partners for their SM "play" etc, gives lie to your argument that BDSM leads to stronger relationships. | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 8:18 PM stormywaters PT, 4 yrs |
All sexualities are indistinguishable in terms of their underlying values: integrity, trust, passion, love and so on, because these are actually human values, not the attributes of any particular sexuality. That is why fear and prejudice based on different sexualities is so loopy. I do like it when I see the word love on IC. | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 8:30 PM Mistress_Hypatia UK, 5 yrs |
Yep. A couple who each have suppressed kinky desires may be 'missing out' if they don't do kinky stuff, but some people just don't have the 'kinky' gene. Why should they be denigrated or their relationships seen as less valid simply because they don't like what we like? BDSMers don't have a monopoly on 'good' qualities like the ones Stormywaters outlined. Just as vanillas don't have a monopoly on the bad qualities. The most evil person I have ever personally met is on the scene - but I've also met some wonderful people. I wonder if kinky people might be just like vanilla people really, except they like kink? A bit like trainspotters are just like normal people except normal people spend less time on freezing cold railway platforms? (You almost never see the old class 37s any more, has anyone noticed?) --A lady is never offensive... by accident.-- | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 9:18 PM stormywaters PT, 4 yrs |
Like it, like it. Although nothing wrong with getting turned on by large, warm, powerful, throbbing, trembling things... wherever they are. | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 9:22 PM KinkyRoly UK(OX), 3 yrs |
You have only to look at a handful of threads on any on-line community to observe that people are very inclined to be negative or hostile. Therefore I think it's a good thing to say nice things to strangers. It's even better to say nice things to people you know a little. The people you know well, will already know what you're like anyway. Personally I delight in seeing couples who are very happy in each other's company. I can think of quite a few of them who have all sorts of problems and issues in real life, but who's love for each other rises above everything else and lights up the room. I can think of a few couples who could never be described as being in their first flush of youth, but who have a relationship filled with real passion. They are the luckiest ones of all, but those who are around them are also fortunate to have their lives enhanced by knowing them. If somebody has the courage to bare their soul in a blog and allow strangers to read it, then I see no reason why strangers shouldn't congratulate them when lovely things happen. | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 11:26 PM MDGreywolf UK(NG), 5 yrs |
Do you ever want to send a 'good luck, that's nice, I wish you all the best' kind of message when you see that two people who you don't know at all, have never ever had anything to do with, have found each other and are in love and saying so on their IC profiles? Yes I do, because I feel that I have read about thier happiness, and in a way experienced an element of that happiness, through them sharing it......if that makes sense. And personally, I would feel as though I was being disrespectful, if I didn't offer my congradulations and good wishes. There are times, however, when doing so has produced a flurry of abbuse. And then there are times when it has led to good friends and a great deal of happiness. When you put yourself out on that 'big bad web' you sorta have to take the rough with the smooth. I would love it if we were all true, honest and accepting souls...........but hey thats what I save for my dreams....lol
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| 1 Feb 09, 11:27 PM DaddysTouch UK(RG), 3 yrs |
I sometimes do this. It's nice to see success stories you know, not only does it inspire confidence that things are going work out for you yourself it's just nice to see people happy. On top of that, you know that you've probably brightened up someone's day a little with your message, and that's always good. Love, love is a verb | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 11:46 PM Skyhook 7 yrs |
Therapy and life coaching business going well, is it? "Me? I'm all about the hugs. | ||
| 1 Feb 09, 11:47 PM slutling_angel 4 yrs |
I think it's a nice thread you started here. I used to be a cynic, regarding the Love word in or outside BDSM. Yet fate and perhaps blinded destiny brought himself and I together. I used to cringe at some blogs about how much in love we are and then 3/4 weeks/months later it's all off. We were both hoping that all the feelings we both felt were not just, being swept up in the whole excitement off things. I'm pleased to say that it is not. We both are growing together in and outside of a loving D/s relationship. I actually get turned on soo much seeing himself progressing and how he feeds off my submission. Visa versa. It is really something to cherish when you find someone that takes you as you. If someone had said a year ago, my life would be how it is now, well I would have laughed in their face. We both are very open regarding our feelings not just on IC but wherever we go.
So yes we are both very much loved up......... shall I pass the sick bucket about
If, Rock be the fruit of love. Then be prepared for a good rogering!!!! |
