Posted by stormywaters on Sun 1 Feb 09, 6:19 PM to stormywaters's blog.
Do you ever want to send a 'good luck, that's nice, I wish you all the best' kind of message when you see that two people who you don't know at all, have never ever had anything to do with, have found each other and are in love and saying so on their IC profiles?
I do. It seems a bit impertinent in a way to send strangers a message, but I find it somehow pleasing, reasuring and strangely self-affirming that people with my kind of sexuality, that gets so little recognition in ordinary day to day life, have found happiness and fulfilment with each other. It makes me realise how 'different' I do feel in such a tyranically, militantly conventionally heterosexual society. And how deep down, almost unconsciously, I kind of resent the happiness of 'nilla couples. Or at any rate I can't really commit a hundred per cent to wishing them well. Whereas I just instantly do with BDSM couples because the fact that they have found each other makes me feel better in myself.
Anybody else feel like that?
| 1 Feb 09, 6:24 PM xCallyx UK, 5 yrs   |
definitely  The bottom half of GC INC |
| 1 Feb 09, 6:27 PM stormywaters PT, 4 yrs |
Ta. Btw I didn't mean to post this twice, honest, it's just my naff computer skills, so it is on the relationships web board as well. Apologies. |
| 1 Feb 09, 8:54 PM Mistress_Hypatia UK, 5 yrs |
It is nice when you see two people who appear to be well-suited getting together - although I don't tend to want to congratulate them in person unless they've started a thread or a blog. After all, reading an unsolicited memo from someone they've never met uses up valuable kissing-time (or xxx-ing-time). But it gives one a nice warm feeling inside. Good to see you again, Stormywaters... --A lady is never offensive... by accident.-- |
| 1 Feb 09, 9:52 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs  |
Yep, and I do post to those types of blogs. 1. it's a great way to meet people. 2. if they are posting it on here, then they want people to see it and are thus inviting comment. Don't have to know them to wish them well. What if someone you know introduced you to two people at a munch, and mentioned that they just got engaged. Would you feel out of place wishing them congratulations even though you've just met? Why is it different here? Pen You say Ouch like it's a bad word. |
