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| Talena_Caro |
This year has started not so bad, I am 25 weeks gone with a baby girl, which I'm thrilled about everyone wanted a boy but I wanted a girlto dress up and have as a good friend for my other lovely daughter. The pregnancy has been really hard with a seperation under the lining of her sac causing bleeding, and swingng the axe of miscarriage over my head. But that part is all gone and the seperation is tiny now thank god and I can begin to buy clothes and toys.
My partner is fantastic, I love him so much because we're so intune with each others, we can talk about anything at all and never have of lead to an agrument. I respect and love him for his ability to see me as I am, a little mess and complety stubborn, and ditto wtb his very minor flaws, like refusing to eat beard on it's last bed before date. He's held my hand all through this hard time with the pregnancy and showed howuch he cares for my little girl as well as means other unborn child.
I've also had a hard with being bad mouthed and bullied by certian people, who are still after 4 years trying to make people believe ((and themselves)) believile I am a bad person for doing what must be done.
Any single parent will know how hard it is to get by when the other parent doesn't pay for their child, yet asks on the days (some times two months apart) they take the child if they can have the little money you have, to fed your child becuase they don't. But only next time to hear they buying iPod touché, motor bikes and going on the piss every night. When your busy paying for their education, food, clothing and shelter, it also means you can effort the wild life style the other parent is.
I was being bullied by this other parent (I will not say dad as anyone can become a father but it takes so much more to be a daddy) to take down a previous post. I now refuse why should I take something down when I stand accused of being a bad person. I'm untitled to my say along with every one else.
Anyone that knew me then and has seen me now will realize I'm not that bullied, stressed out and very sad girl I was over a year ago, I'm no longer chained to a hateful relastionship which was damaging.
I am how ever stronger than I ever was, I'm happier, loved has positive people that love me in my life. I am a fantastic mother, and beautiful person, I will not be bullied. Never again!
Thank you everyone I've continued to speak with year and offline,your a star.
XxX
Edited Tue 27 Jan 09, 2:08 PM by Talena_Caro
| 27 Jan 09, 7:55 AM tails_SB UK(CB), 6 yrs  |
Good to see things are lookin up this year  ------ | |
| 27 Jan 09, 7:58 AM Talena_Caro 6 yrs |
Thank you Hun, I hope this year is a good year for you to. I am a dominant gene - live as I die, Never say forever 'cause forever's a lie. I can see right through you so I can ignore you, The story changes but the ending won't bore you. | |
| 27 Jan 09, 8:15 AM happysub79 UK(RM), 4 yrs |
I can empathize with the words you've written as i've had a similar experience. My daughter is now 4 and her father has moved lock stock and barrell to canada without a second thought for her and refuses to pay anything to support her. To be honest nothing matters to me anymore as long as she is happy and she is the happiest lil girlie. I gave up on a few people who I thought were friends...but friends don't treat you like that. As for the bad mother comment...does your daughter love you...if the answer is yes then your the best mother there can be!
I have to say your experience will make you a much stronger person and you seem to be getting your good stint of luck now x novaslave x | |
| 27 Jan 09, 8:30 AM Forsaken1 UK, 7 yrs |
Regardless of goings on and past events, it's good to see your still about on here and moving on with your life, and have the strength of character to face your convictions.
That and the fact that your still a sexy mofo! ((Huggs)) Damien xx Head of The Tribe. | |
| 27 Jan 09, 9:06 AM XX_adeena_XX 4 yrs |
There are many benefits to taking the total respnsibility for your own child. Especially if the missing parent isn't a good one. Relax into it and enjoy it!! Edited 27 Jan 09, 9:07 AM by XX_adeena_XX | |
| 27 Jan 09, 10:37 AM Saffron38 UK(ST), 6 yrs |
Been in that place, no money, no support off the father. Its been a long hard road, so you have my best wishes for all that you have done and all that you will continue to do for your children. Bullied you may have been but ultimately you were, are and always will be the stronger person because you have the hardest road in the world as a single mum xx BUT the payback off your kids is great, the love and the connection that you have is unbreakable xxx Saff |
