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| 12 Jan 09, 11:21 PM pinkylucy UK(M), 9 yrs      |
Crying used to be a very very rare thing for me during BDSM play, but I have cried quite a few times since being with my Mistress which I know is because this relationship is more meaningful and intense to me than any other I have had. I have cried for various reasons, once through sheer joy at having found her and what we are capable of creating together. On this occasion we both just clung to each other on the rack at Lash and wept. It felt beautiful. On other occasions it has been due to a deliberate intensity played for heavy emotionally masochistic effect. I sobbed my heart out and wished to die on that occasion - wow what a scene that was! At home I have tended to cry when I'm being punished by being sent to be early or once when I thought I had been forgiven but was being sent away anyway. My Mistress was kind and let me lie on a blanket on the floor by the doorway instead when she realised how upset I was. All this crying is quite new and surprising to me, but I see it as a positive sign of how bonded I am to my Mistress. "Don't Dream It - Be It" - The Rocky Horror Show 1973 | |
| 12 Jan 09, 11:26 PM Mistress_Susannah UK(SE), 7 yrs £  |
This recent thread may help you understand crying within a scene and what it does both for submissives and Dom/Dommes. | |
| 13 Jan 09, 12:35 AM Cassius UK, 3 yrs |
Sometimes the experience my beautiful one gives me is so exquisite that there are tiny pools of salty pleasure in my eye sockets.....but wah! Chaps never cry,damme..... Practise senseless acts of beauty. | |
| 13 Jan 09, 12:39 AM Avada_Kedavra UK, 7 yrs |
I find it to be a release... sometimes during a scene I feel so connected to Her, that the tears just flow.. she only has to say a word or two and she can reduce me to tears... http://uk.groups.yahoo.com/group/westlondonmunch/
M: Its only a baby needle, you wont know the difference. I am not a one dimensional needle obssessed domme...
J: Its going to be about sutures isnt it? | |
| 13 Jan 09, 7:57 PM FlayMe UK(DT), 5 yrs |
I cried during my last session and continue to feel serious disappointment with myself about it. I had long wanted a serious thrashing when tied, facing the wall, to a St Andrews Cross, it's been a fantasy since I was a kid seeing films in which sailors got thrashed like this. But I had been finding it hard to enjoy the pain the Mistress had been inflicting on me throughout the session (especially as she was throwing in a bit too much verbal abuse, just seemed to be in a bad mood - I am too sensitive for verbal abuse as I take everything to heart, truth in jest and all that...) and the thrashing was a hell of a lot more painful than expected. There were clamps on my nipples that were aching like f**k, the whip curled round my back and caught one of them and the sudden extreme pain made me cry. The Mistress warmed, was sorry and became gentle with me, but I felt like an absolute fake, not a real masochist at all and so didn't enjoy this sudden 'closeness'. I've been having to re-evaluate just WHAT I want from S&M since, long-held dreams and fantasies had been shattered. Hopefully it was just a matter of not being in the right state for a session, or bad chemistry with the Mistress that day. | |
| 14 Jan 09, 2:03 AM Viskan IS, 6 yrs |
For me when I cry it's a release... of everything really  I've sold my soul, my body -
Swept away by dreams, illusions -
Fragments of my own imagination -
Played by feelings emotions | |
| 15 Jan 09, 5:27 PM RopeTopUK UK(N), 3 yrs |
I agree, it sounds like she pushed you past a limit and you learned more about yourself. If you only wanted to experience things that didn't shake you up a little now and then, you'd be safer but less rich. It's for the Top to decide whether or not crying is a sign of weakness. It can be a sign of strength - you're hitting the wall but not giving up. It didn't kill you, it made you stronger. Steep curve, fast result!
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| 15 Jan 09, 5:39 PM SheilaBlyge UK(S), 4 yrs |
I cried once, recently, on the 10th stroke of an extremely hard flogging. It was amazing.
The one responsible may well read this... er... more please?
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| 15 Jan 09, 5:46 PM newexperiences UK, 5 yrs |
Is this a female thing?I would quite like to be made to cry but it hasn't happened yet,do male subs cry?
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| 15 Jan 09, 6:24 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs  |
When I first got into the scene, I cried several times after intense play - needed the emotional release I suppose. I still sometimes cry after pain play. Once I was flogged to the point of tears, and far beyond. That was just wonderfully intense. Now though, it seems my upper shoulders, especially around the neck, are very sensitive. If I get flogged there, I'll burst into tears. Can't stop it. And it isn't that it hurt too much. There is just something about it that makes me cry. Was really frustrating when a Mistress didn't like my crying, thought I was trying to get sympathy. ME! Never. But I couldn't stop it either. Pen You say Ouch like it's a bad word. |
