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| Sat 3 Jan 09, 9:33 PM perstephone JP, 5 yrs  |
Has anyone here who has given birth been able to use any BDSM experience to help with pain? My partner/Daddy and I are trying for a baby and I can imagine I might be able to be open to the experience rather than resisting it as I try to in a scene. | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 9:42 PM fuschia UK(SE), 11 yrs  |
I thought I was a masochist, until I gave birth.. if I was to score pain in a BDSM scene on a 1-10, childbirth is 100! So for me it wasn't something I could approach at all in the same way as I approach play. One is well under my control, one is not. However, using hypnobirthing techniques and making sure I was in a private and safe space helped me to relax into things and I have no doubt it was a huge rush of endorphins that helped me deliver quickly with no pain relief. It is a tremendous rush. But is it an experience like no other in our lives. Amazing.
Currently throroughly fed up with all the moaning. | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 9:46 PM lil_Pup NL, 5 yrs |
Don"t try to worry the poor girl or anything
How can we grow old when we are not trying *The Delays | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:01 PM Ghedes_Princess UK(SW), 6 yrs  |
I think that you might have to seperate the two. Childbirth is not "good" painful. Also you wouldn't have the excitement that you have when you are in a scene that helps you deal with the pain. But good luck with that. xxx | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:19 PM Switch_Angel 4 yrs |
I on the other Hand fully enjoyed giving birth I focused on myself and my child. I didnt feel any pain at all,
and no I wasn't high on drugs.
I had a drug free and pain free birth Anna x x x memories will always be strong | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:28 PM Incandescence UK, 3 yrs |
Epidural !  life is like a box of chocolates ........ too many coffee creams ! | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:31 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
Thoughts: 1) It is hard work- they don't call it 'labour' for nothing. So it's actively participating in adapting to physical changes, whereas I'm not doing that when H is dealing with me, I'm remaining neutral or squealing in agony or ecstasy. In childbirth it's up to you, you're doing it, but neither agony or ecstasy spring to mind really. 2) I didn't get into a different mindset when giving birth- it was 100% effort 100% of the time. 3) Breathing techniques I used in labour aren't allowed me in submission. (bstrd.) (But then I'm not allowed to resist either- no breath control allowed, no resistance accepted, so I'm not sure I can relate to what you refer to.) 4) When I reach subspace I'm not in control- for childbirth I needed to stay in control. (They love to hack and slash your fanny with sharp things- if you get out of control they'll come at you with scalpels.(editedtosay this is just syndee experience- it may not be yours) I had three children- the first in a hospital with gas and air and complete with water-bursting, catheter - inserting, scalpel-wielding maniacs, the other two at home with no need for pain relief- (I don't think it's bad pain- it's a pain that tells you what to do imho) and with me calling all the shots. Guess which ones were more fun?
Let our love be a flame, not an ember, Edited 3 Jan 09, 10:37 PM by syndeetoo | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:38 PM viragoangel UK(FY), 5 yrs |
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| 3 Jan 09, 10:38 PM Ghedes_Princess UK(SW), 6 yrs |
As it happens I have to agree, home birth is the way forward, and much less scary! xxx | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:46 PM fuschia UK(SE), 11 yrs |
I think childbirth is the best pain, pain with a purpose... and while i think you need to feel safe, I don't think childbirth is something over which you have control. It's something primeval where your body takes over and does it by itself, in my experience! Currently throroughly fed up with all the moaning. | ||
| 3 Jan 09, 10:54 PM syndeetoo UK(WC), 6 yrs |
I don't know- your labour sound like my (fortunate) sisters, whereas mine were 18 hours, 14 hours and lastly a 20hour marathon. I felt that I had to help and assist as my body was sluggish and weird, it took forever and it felt like it. My sister got it all over and done twice in under six hours each. I was able to 'shut up shop" and switch off from the whole third stage for 40 minutes during my last, because I wanted to eat some banana and ice cream as I was worn out. The only reason I was allowed to get away with that was cos I had my own GP there as a family friend, who had never attended a birth but backed me up, and two agency midwives who were more interested in doing the crossword in their magazines which they had brought along. (But then again it was noo year's day) Let our love be a flame, not an ember, Edited 3 Jan 09, 10:56 PM by syndeetoo |
