Weight Issues (97)

I've asked Him to put weight on but He won't and He says He loves me but somehow it feels not too sensual weighing more than your Master does it.

I want to feel small and delicate at His feet.

Argh, the dynamics are wrong.

He doesn't want to put on weight so, really, for you to feel right, I guess it's down to you to lose weight. If you're able to do it, I'd suggest LighterLife if you've got three stone or more to lose.

Also, if you and he decide together to tackle your weight issues, maybe he can order you to eat certain things and exercise, therefore controlling your health and lifestyle more. Knowing you're doing it for your Master and yourself might give you the extra motivation you need.

Good luck!

Your power, our pleasure, my pain.

Sounds like you might not need to lose weight, just accept the fact that your master finds you attractive the way you are.

I know where you come from, I'm not particularly proud of being on the bigger side either, but a year ago I realised that only I can help myself, I got myself together, went to the gym and overhauled my diet, and hey presto - from a size 18 down to 14, over 2 stone lost. You just need dedication and willpower If I can do it, everyone can!

edit to add: my boyfriend is also tall and very slim, and weighs less than I do (but then he's underweight anyway, he just can't gain any weight, as much as he wants to)

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Edited 9 Dec 08, 2:03 PM by Sinmara

I am very small framed but due to back problems had to stop all exercise a year ago for some time. I put on a stone, from just under 8 to 9 and it all went to the stomach-I looked like one of those little pot bellied buddhas, being small to start with really made it stand out and look horrible, out of all proportion.

Once fit, and this is where I agree with the previous poster, the only way forward was exercise. I systematically set myself the target of losing the weight via swimming and completely cutting crap food out of my diet. It does work!

When I met him last summer I weighed just over 10 stone, (I blame having kids...lol). But I hated every pic he took of me, I thought I looked short and dumpy and yes, fat!

I'm not good at sticking to an exercise program, I tried jogging each day but all that achieved was knackering up my knee, so I cut my calories down to only 1500, I cut out all me junk food, except for Saturdays, Saturdays was my day off, it gave me something to look forward to during the week, I cut out my weakness which was crips, I could easily get through 6-10 packets a day if I had them in the house, so simple solution, I stopped buying them! I'm not a great lover of sweet things, but I does love my savory, especially cheese, which of course was also a no no I started doing crunches and sit-ups at home, starting at 20 a day then slowly upping them, and I now weigh 8'8, another 8-10 lbs to go and I'll be happier with my weight, though I do realize I'm never again gonna have the figure I did at 18.

The problem with being small is that weight gain show's a hell of a lot more than it does on somebody taller, and it seems to all go to your stomach, hips and thighs

I never used to have a problem with what I ate, before the kids came along I was 7'8 a decent weight for my height and could eat anything I liked without ever having to worry bout gaining weight, but since having the kids it seems I only have to look at food and I gain a few pounds

It is extremely hard to lose the weight, especially if, like me you are a great lover of food.

td

"A masochist walked up to a sadist, and said 'Hurt me'. The sadist said 'No' and walked away."

Edited 9 Dec 08, 2:52 PM by TaintedDesire

I think it's interesting that it only seems to be female submissives that worry about physical characteristics affecting D/s dynamics. I've never heard (for example) a male sub say a Domme was too small or two short to be one, or a male dom say something analogous about female sub, or anything at all from gay D/s partners along those lines.

It strikes me that any feeling of wanting to be small and delicate for a Dominant comes more from vanilla convention than it does from anything to do with D/s. You might find it helps more if you think about this in more detail perhaps even writing something down rather than concentrating on changing either your own or your Dom's weight.

- Chris

Anyone with a brain is manipulable. Only the truly unimaginative are difficult to control.

Edited 9 Dec 08, 2:23 PM by Backdooruk

You'll get lots of weight loss advice from others. I'm more interested in this bit. Personally, I don't think my weight matters one jot to my dynamics - yes, it might restrict some positions etc., but does it make me any less submissive? Does it affect the power exchange? Does it buggery. I just don't see how it affects the dynamics at all.

I'm small (4'11") but not delicate. Mind, I wouldn't be delicate even if I were 7 stone (and to get there, I'd have to cut a couple of limbs off, I reckon). "Small and delicate" is as much a state of mind as a state of being, as far as I'm concerned.

By all means, lose weight - it's obviously not all that healthy for me to be overweight and I'm trying to get fitter right now - but look at your head, too. Work on those issues as well, your self-image and self-esteem - otherwise you could lose stacks of weight and still not feel any better.

Don't hit my maidie!

Edited 9 Dec 08, 2:26 PM by littlenic

Consider it a lifestyle change. A commitment to exercise your body more. A permanent good bye to certain foods.

Not knowing how you lead your life, I can only provide general suggestions ... like ...

Most definitely talk with a nutrition expert who I'm sure will be able to provide you with many helpful and eyeopening suggestions and help you with something custom-tailored for you.

Get in the habit of counting calories and not exceed a daily maximum suitable for you. To take walks when possible, even if you're not out to run an errand.

If you can afford it, join a gym and buy an ipod and load it with some funky music (or in my case, I load it with audiobooks to be distracted from the misery of sweating and hard workout). Speaking of hard workout, this is best course of action. If you're not completely soaked after a workout, then personally I think it didnt do much good.

What worked well for me at the gym was to do 5 mins light warmup, then 15mins weight/resistance machines to draw the sugars out of the muscles, then 2x20 mins cardio like (small break in between) fast running or x-trainer with medium resistance, which pulls the fat out of your bum etc.

It might be a big pain in the arse to change your dietary and exercising lifestyles, but personally I'd think it's well worth it.

Good Luck.

Your Captain Jack

Why should he have to put on weight just because you're not happy with the size difference between you?

As you say, he loves you as you are - don't you think you should love him as he is too? The issue surrounding this clearly lies with you and therefore lies with you to sort it out.

If you don't feel sexy in your own skin then do what it takes to make yourself feel sexy. Don't expect others to change their body shape to make you feel better!

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