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| 1 Dec 08, 10:53 PM Attitude_Adjuster UK(N), 6 yrs   |
Before I say anything, there is no suggestion here (from me) that anyone is fleecing anyone 
No its not a huge amount of money, unless you are to frame it as a regular occurrence in your lifestyle. Of course what a huge amount of money looks like varies from person to person. But that wasn't my point...
perhaps, I wouldn't know.
Maybes I'm being naive here, but the organisers quite rightly should be able to remunerate their efforts. The non-organising participants are expending the same amount of time, the same travel money and (as emphasising your words) having a similarly good time, irrespective of whether they are D or s, m or F. So why are they not expending similar $$$ on the event itself? I'm not anti-pro- at all, and if it were couched as a pro- event, then fine. Its this its-not-a-pro-thing-but-teh-girlTops-get-in-free area which is muddy, and as I say I feel has a negative connotation. Cheers, M And all men kill the thing they love, By all let this be heard, Some do it with a bitter look, Some with a flattering word, The coward does it with a kiss, The brave man with a sword! | ||||
| 1 Dec 08, 11:39 PM KnightToDreams UK(CW), 3 yrs  |
i dunno im just saying its not something id personally be interested in for reasons ive mentioned, Admittedly ive been put off fem-dom events to an extent after a bit of a bad experience at the last one i went to(and no i didn't pay to attend). the OP came on asking for opinions and she got them. Im sure that she can see from the responses from various people that it would interest some and not others. i take it the event is aimed generally at older men than myself, as they are the ones who have that kind off disposable income. also i might add that to some people £200 is the best part of a weeks wages for some people. its not a negligible sum of money if you have worked in a factory or a call centre for a week to get it. | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 12:33 AM slave_vs UK(TQ), 5 yrs |
Work hard play hard ,if is worth it to you ,you will find the the money, there's is a lot of organization in these events ,which is a lot of hard work for the Dom's ,things have to run smoothly and every body has to be compatible,
and we as subs should be so grateful that the Dom's put so much effort in organising such events, if you have to question your self about this then may be you should be questing your roll as age has nothing to do with this.
Be careful for what you wish for it might come true! | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 12:51 AM Sorceror UK(HU), 9 yrs |
I went to a Femme Domme night at Nem organised by Sweetiejar and it was very enjoyable. May I make one comment though - the set up described isn't vastly different from that of Cynthia Payne's parties except in relation to budgeting and distribution of receipts. Bearing in mind there is clear evidence that we have tabloid journalists lurking on the site I'd suggest keeping the actual location secret and revealing it only to your actual attendees at quite late notice. There is also the issue of having 20ish people who might not know each other before hand occupying 10 bedrooms. Could be ... cosy. S....x. | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 1:05 AM Littleboots UK(B), 6 yrs |
Some rather predictable replies to this thread. I was involved with the first Femme-Dom night that SJ organised back in April 2006 at Nemesis. (It's an urban myth that my yelling weakened the roof structure). I can only say that anyone who does go to one of these events will have the time of their lives! You get a range of highly experienced Dommes who will offer a number of different experiences. You get to network with well known people on the scene who can and will open (metaphorical) doors for you. You will be able to experience 48(?) hours of continuous play, something that many well known players have never done. You will be able to explore various aspects of BDSM in a short period of time which will help you determine what's right for you. In any BDSM journey, this is a first class express ticket towards self-discovery. (Am I overdoing this?) Don't deceive yourselves. Most of the Dommes involved will already be in relationships and will be able to call on any number of subs to play with. They do this as a way of opening up the scene to people who have little experience. If you doubt SJ's altruistic motives, just spend a while in her company. She has made a loss on many of the events she runs. £200 may be a lot of money, but you've got 4 months to put it aside. When I was floundering around trying to work out what "did it" for me I spent a hell of a lot more for a lot less return. Go for it! A dirty mind is a joy for life. Edited 2 Dec 08, 1:06 AM by Littleboots | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 1:32 AM rubberswitch UK(WF), 4 yrs |
id defo be up for that been the play tart that i am as you very well know sweety hun but carnt aford it  miss you and all of nem crew hope to catch you soon yer, ill be at york munch and kinkdom comeing up. btw reply please via memo and can we network yet lol. Martin x xrubberswitchTM | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 3:22 AM TVPtvp UK, 6 yrs |
Well done all the people who have objected to this kind of shit due to either having to pay £200 or getting a free weekend! This kind of discrimination is obviously against the law, or if not, then it should be and probably soon will be. Save your £200 and put it into a robot Domme fund or something like that. | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 7:11 AM wonderer UK, 5 yrs |
Good point TVPtvp. Perhaps we should have this kind of service available on the NHS - it's obviously good for us and has wonderful therapeutic benefits. Then all the Dommes can be paid as therapists and we can go to our GP for a referral whenever we need a fix.
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| 2 Dec 08, 9:14 AM Sweetiejar UK(S), 11 yrs |
I have had quite a few memos from people wanting to come along. It is important to get the right mix though so if you think you would like to come and want to drop me a memo please remember to tell me the things that particularly interest you about the whole idea. Also if you have any particular talents to bring along, please mention those too. Still looking for someone who can cook....... Sweetiejar | ||||
| 2 Dec 08, 9:39 AM tartfuldodger 5 yrs |
The big thing sticking out for me is ensuring the balance between a) making sure that the organiser is confident the subs will actually pay the money so that one person isn't left with the burden of overheads. b) making sure the subs are confident that the organiser isn't going to be walking away with the money. c) having a clear cancellation policy so that money is returned if not enough people pay so that it's not all lost on a deposit should the full costs not get covered. I'm guessing that female subs pay the same rate as male, btw? If however there are any ways where a female sub/switch can be more involved in the hard work and and have a reduced rate then I'd be very interested in hearing about that too. Miss Pixie |
