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I just sat and read a loooooooong blog about bdsm first aid and noted a singular lack of any mention of having bothered to check the medical background of anyone you're playing with prior to doing anything!
Why does this no longer appear to be of any, let alone paramount importance?
OK now everyone thinks of the submissive being the only one who suffers and may need help. This is not the case.
Whilst submissives are indeed most likely to be the ones in need of medical after care, there are situations where the Dominant may be the needy recipient of assistance . Often these will be due to pre-existing medical conditions which have either been forgotten or ignored by either party. I speak from my own personal experience here when I suffered the recurrence of a major shoulder dislocation because I hadn't warmed up prior to administering a flogging at a club several years ago. Luckily I was able to talk someone through getting my arm back in joint. Now this isn't a common or likely problem but when I hit the deck in agony, the bystanders thought I'd had a heart attack.
I have played with people suffering from hypertension, having blood pressure problems, kidney problems, diabetes and even partially detached retina situations. Now those of you who may want to sit in judgement may well decide I was a fool for doing it but take careful note - at least I had ascertained that there was a pre-existing medical situation.
Obviously I tempered our play to take more than careful account of these conditions. For example the submissive who had hypertension and blood pressure problems was almost addicted to asphyxiation play. Like I wanted to find myself incarcerated on a murder charge ! So it was all played by mind games. She was never being asphyxiated however due to being in the throes of subspace her brain was nicely receptive to a 'mock' strangulation which actually never applied any pressure to the windpipe. It was her brain which convinced her she was being strangled and my brain that kept me out of court.
Let's face it, our pastime is inherently fraught with danger and it's a nice idea to discuss bdsm first aid but more useful is having discussed the medical problems that may be there before you start.
People seem able to forget even the simplest inherent problems which can affect us all. Take rope bondage. Emergency scissors? How many people even bother with them? Yes I know many who do but most of these are almost what i would call professionals and I know many more who don't. And lets not forget the potential problem from a rapid removal of tight ropes - blackout/fainting. The moment you loosen tight ropes the blood which will have been restricted can start pumping at full bore again. On more than one occasion I have seen a sub faint due to being unbound too quickly! You must remember that fainting is the body's way of getting the entire circulatory system to the same level to equate pressure so DON'T help them to their feet, help them to the floor; help them lie down and massage their hands and feet. Blue extremities is a bloody good sign there's something wrong but how many of you check these by the simple expedience of a soft touch during play to check that the body temperature hasn't fallen due to loss of circulation? Not being cynical but I already know the answer to that from observations over the years. And if the submissive has a circulatory problem then you're making things a bloody sight worse.
So yes, basic first aid is a bloody good idea but basic information about your play buddy is a bloody sight more important.
Edited Fri 14 Nov 08, 11:42 PM by The_ICM
| 15 Nov 08, 1:37 AM misstressclare UK(TA), 4 yrs £  |
I have to say I ask all sorts of things before playing I have just heard a terrible story about breath play, No questions asked like, do u have asma or other conditions. First time seeing someone a Mistress or Dom should be in controll and tacking responsablity, many new subs are so nervouse they dont ask and unsure, when some one does some thing like breath play,well First meet should be about getting to know someone any way/ let alone health. Trying things out yes, but breath play mm I wonder Im not sure I would with out knowing someone ? and asking questions. Find a level first before some thing like breath play (breath play not some thing lightly done) This poor sub was so put off deleted profiel on IC and thought never again . This really does give D/S such a bad name. I care about subs I play with. Besides I dont want one dead on my floor Play safe folks. xxxxxxx |
| 15 Nov 08, 2:08 AM shyslave01 UK(BS), 9 yrs |
I totally agree with you, every care needs to be taken to make sure all ground is covered regarding this type of play and to make sure the sub is 100% comfortable with what he/she is doing. Care should be taken with most forms of play especially with first time subs and always ask about the subs health and background so that as the Dom/Domme you are sure the sub will always be safe. Safety always comes first. As Mistress Clare says; play safe and have fun. |
| 15 Nov 08, 4:00 PM Mrs_Edge UK(ME), 6 yrs |
Ive run a first aid/medical play work shop to answer peoples questions, but apart from a few people, most just scoff at my idea insisting they know everything anyway, well those are the dangerous people. I dont see the problem with seeking advice, at least then you know your safe and help others who maybe experiancing problems All Women have balls, we just arent stupid enough to wear Ours on the outside! |
| 15 Nov 08, 7:15 PM shyslave01 UK(BS), 9 yrs |
Glad to see there are a few people still around here who take safety seriously good for you Miss Deviatrix hope your work shop in safety is going well.Hopefully the people who so say 'know it all' will gradually stop and think for a few seconds before they begin any play, lets hope we can begin to rectify peoples perceptions. Good luck with your work shop. xx |
