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| alexandraa |
Tags: North West London (NW)
I get confused with all the discussions I see on here about people who don't have sex. Don't want it, don't like it, don't enjoy it, enjoy the feeling of not having it, enjoy the feeling of resisting it, enjoy the feeling of not allowing their bodies to respond sexually, enjoy the feeling of having their sexual release controlled (ok that one I can understand), enjoy announcing how long they haven't had sex for, enjoy sado masochistic activities but no sexual intercourse. …
What? Head and way way over. They speak a different language. Or at least their bodies do.
My body is very demanding. It wants sex, wants sado masochism, wants control and pleasure. It wants it all in one go and it wants it now - meat, potatoes, veg, gravy and apple sauce all on one plate served fast and hot.
I see no need to restrict those things. I wonder am I lucky or ignorant? My body tells me what it wants and I listen to it and feed those desires. Simple as that. Maybe its as simple as that for those people who don't want sex. I sometimes wonder if I am completely delusional because so many people seem to struggle with their sexuality, while I don't. What if I really am a repressed in some way but have no clue?
Bollocks to that. I know what I like and I enjoy pursuing what I like.
I think I can't resist the blogs and posts that announce chastity in their titles because it utterly horrifies me. It's like a car crash moment, something horrible to look at but really I cant stop myself going and looking.
Some of my greatest pleasures in life are sex related. That feeling as an orgasm sweeps my body, that compares to no other feeling I can think of. The depth of thrill and following satisfaction, the contentment and happiness, the positive mental attitude, that feeling of all is right with the world as I cosy up to my sated Dominant. The rush, the heat, the waves of bliss that orgasms bring. The pleasure of knowing I've pleased him, the joy of knowing he has played my body to screaming point and back, the mutual satisfaction and self congratulatory pillow talk, why wouldn't someone want that? The simple sheer joy it brings.
Bewildered look.
Get out there and get some sex is my advice.
| 8 Nov 08, 11:11 AM Sweetiejar UK(S), 11 yrs |
I understand exactly what you are saying, I can never understand femal orgasm deprivation. HOWEVER its a whole other thing when we are talking about male orgasm deprivation. To deprive a man of orgasm makes him far more compliant and attentive in my experience, especially when coupled with deliberate arousal. But then a lot {pedants out there please note, a lot does not mean all} of men are completely driven by their cock.
Sweetiejar | ||
| 8 Nov 08, 11:23 AM newfavourite UK(S), 4 yrs  |
No I don't think you are repressed! There are other areas of life, apart from sex, that I find it very strange that others don't enjoy. I love walking in the countryside, it is a completely natural and integral part of my life. If I had to choose between no more country walks and no more sex, I would have a very difficult dilemma on my hands. But some people, even those with easy access to the countryside, never go out into the fresh air and nature. Weirdos. Off_Topic Has Left The Building | ||
| 8 Nov 08, 11:45 AM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs  |
Now from a sadistic point of view, you'd be ideal for chastity as it would be nicely cruel to keep you away from those orgasms you love so much. And you have your mouth, arse and hands for his pleasure.
If only it was that easy. I hide the truth. | ||
| 8 Nov 08, 11:49 AM MisterBear UK(WA), 8 yrs |
I find that after an orgasm, all the chemicals and stuff that made everything so exciting and thrilling kind of get flushed away and I'm left running on empty until I can recharge. Fortunately I'm not that sexual when submissive, probably as part of a desire to keep my head in that pre-orgasm happy place so that I'm more motivated. Not sure if the same thing happens to women though, but I'm guessing not. But this probably explains why men tend to fall asleep after sex, especially if they have been doing all the hard work. I hide the truth. | ||
| 8 Nov 08, 1:30 PM fen_fatale UK(CB), 8 yrs |
I guess there is always the theory that they could be perhaps just saying they don't want it, don't enjoy it, don't like it etc as a way of defending themselves and their reputations from the truth that simply they can't get it or haven't the confidence to try to get it, don't know where to get it or are not in a relationship?
Kind of 'attack it, before it attacks me' theory? A subconscious defense mechanism perhaps. Or they might have some kind of psychological factor that makes them not enjoy it, a fear or past hurt: I may be a nympho now, but there was a time when i was frigid as anything, celibate for years, terrified of the idea of sex and decried it as an unecessary evil. That was down to being forcefed that sex was wrong, and by being humiliated regarding sex acts, having my sexual desires being called as wrong, and being found undesirable in the bedroom over a long term (and having this verbally reinforced). Trying to enter a new relationship after this meant hiding myself under a pillow while i had sex, so they couldn't see my shame and i couldn't spot any hint of revulsion on their face, until the person finally made me feel comfortable and attractive enough to accept that i was allowed to enjoy it! that it could be fun and it was ok to have it! i then couldn't get enough of it! There were a couple of 2 steps back occasions, and i still cannot actually physically open my eyes during any sexual act, but my god i do now enjoy every second of it!
nuqDaq yuch Dapol? | ||
| 8 Nov 08, 5:21 PM DarrenIndeed UK, 6 yrs |
Isn't your (fen fatale) signiture Klingon for "do you have any chocolate?" | ||
| 8 Nov 08, 9:25 PM DewiCinci UK, 9 yrs |
I had an uncontrollable sneezing fit while reading this weblog. I am not sure if it was connected to the subject matter or not. Dewi There are few problems in life that cannot be partially-solved by a bowl of chicken soup. | ||
| 9 Nov 08, 11:25 AM fen_fatale UK(CB), 8 yrs |
yep nuqDaq yuch Dapol? | ||
| 10 Nov 08, 9:08 PM MissLioness UK(LS), 5 yrs |
I have just purchased my first male chastity device lol smiles looking forward to recieving it in the next day or so lol grins most evily  |
