Attraction, compatibility and posting history? (72)

Yeah, sounds about right! And 'Will you be my mentor...?' usually means more than that too!

Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you?

You really think that?? OK initial attraction is important ... but you would not get together with some one if the chemistry was not right? So posting introduces you to an online persona to the point of meeting the person in the flesh. If I liked some ones arse I would just tell them I would not use there posts as excuse to contact them.

Life is a biatch ... fuck her dont take her too seriously but love her with all your heart!
comments are always edited cause i is a typo princess innit though ... am i bothered

As a general rule I find it quite easy to be sure when I know someone isn't right for me, but much harder to be sure they are. I'm certainly not saying that I can always, or even mostly, be sure someone isn't right for me from their posts, but there are some things people can say and do which can make me sure that I would not find them right for me in a long term relationship.

Maybe it depends what you are looking for in a relationship, but there are some things a person could say and do which would make me sure they weren't right for me. Not to say I wouldn't like them, or find them interesting, just to say I am sure they wouldn't be compatible with me in a serious relationship.

I don't want to make too big a thing of this, though, as it would sound like I am rejecting hundreds of people on relatively spurious grounds. I said it was something you could sometimes tell from people's posts, not something I frequently read into them.

of course if the pictures are nice then i will read the rest .. posting history is prety irrelevant

all for one and fuck the rest

You really think that?? OK initial attraction is important ... but you would not get together with some one if the chemistry was not right? So posting introduces you to an online persona to the point of meeting the person in the flesh. If I liked some ones arse I would just tell them I would not use there posts as excuse to contact them. [/quote]

I'm not cynical, I've just been doing this a while! As with all things, I advocate openness and honesty.

Why poison your liver when I could eat it for you?

I think there are two things about that:

1) Its an inevitable logical result starting off from a default position that everyone is suitable and looking to see who isn't rather than the opposite way around: I suspect anyone actively searching would do it like that

2) I wonder if there might be a cognitive bias going on here? I can think of several that might apply, the most obvious being the fundamental attribution error (the tendency to attribute situational behaviors to personality).

- Chris

Anyone with a brain is manipulable. Only the truly unimaginative are difficult to control.

I've just had to stick my hand down to check the old meat and two veg are still there!

I'd say 90%+ of the memo's I've sent to people have been as a result of seeing something they've posted that has caught my interest, and therefore made me interested in them.

Of the remainder, I've certainly checked out their posting history before memoing anyway.

It's SO easy to write a profile that you think will appeal to your target audience, and because it's so easy I think it can be abused. A good posting history though, is much more difficult to fake, and I think it tells you much more about a person.

Sure, if you just want a random shag, go for pretty pictures. If you want much more than that though, surely it pays to try and find something out about the object of your desires, their personality and likes and dislikes, before you contact them on the basis of what could be completely the wrong impression.

all for one and fuck the rest

That's all very well, but how big is your cock?

I'm a Genuine Fake.