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| Thu 6 Nov 08, 7:19 PM Sagely_Sub 5 yrs  |
. You weak pathetic fools! I have come for your Souls! Edited Mon 3 Jan 11, 7:41 PM by Sagely_Sub | |
| 6 Nov 08, 7:32 PM littlenic 5 yrs |
You raise an interesting point, in that the same act can have a totally different result. I certainly revel in bathing and pampering Miss, and am often called on to dry her too. These acts make me feel very submissive and that I'm lucky to be able to give such service. It's very much veering towards "worship", I guess, like massages and other such services.
I assume she feels pampered and whatnot, and rather likes it, but maybe she'll chip in with her thoughts... And yet, when I'm washed and dried, it makes me feel objectified, and pretty humiliated too (although of course it's somewhat less tender/pampering, and a bit more rough/purposeful!). There's no "princess" there at all, but then, I don't really do princess anyway.
(Although I did once get my hair washed and that was just lovely. I'm a sucker for a head rub. Kingston? No, paracetamol. | |
| 6 Nov 08, 9:10 PM Skylord UK(PO), 4 yrs  |
We're currently searching for a really comfortable double bath..... Dom washes Sub: Free access to all body parts and making sure she's clean enough for his tastes and purposes. Sub washes Dom: Worship, worship, worship and giving lots of pleasure.
What fun we have. (PS And it is the ONLY time for going anywhere near the arsehole!) | |
| 6 Nov 08, 9:21 PM Fridayschild 3 yrs |
Bathing together is the kindest thing, i don't really see it as a bdsm thing though...its just a nice thing to do, normal every day thing to do in a relationship  . | |
| 6 Nov 08, 9:50 PM miss_kitten UK(HA), 5 yrs |
I have to agree with how a state of mind / position in a dynamic can evoke vastly different feelings and rewards from the same act. When maidie is bathing me and drying me, I feel like the most spoilt kitten in the world. I feel looked after, pampered and served. It does verge on being worshipped, in the nicest possible way.
When I am the one doing the cleaning and drying, it is generally in the form of scrubbing and being functional, which I know makes maidie squirm and really does objectify it as something that is there for service / use and I have a responsibility to clean it up afterwards. Occasionally, it is done in a nurturing way (depending on the state of said maid
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| 6 Nov 08, 9:58 PM OmnipotentDom UK(S), 4 yrs |
I have never really incorporated mutual bathing into any of my previous BDSM relationships; it hasn't been excluded entirely, just that I haven't really given it much consideration. Showering is often a 'wake-up' aid or a time when I think the clearest, in addition to making me nice and clean...obviously. | |
| 6 Nov 08, 10:03 PM Painted 3 yrs |
In the past it has always been a part of my relationships...an important one because it helps, well it helps me, anyway, to feel closer to my partner. It is very intimate and loving. Having your scalp massaged by another person whilst they are shampooing your hair is one of life's greatest unsung pleasures! It's like a good back scratch.
In the wild, animals groom each other all the time...it's the most natural thing in the world | |
| 6 Nov 08, 10:09 PM GeneralFilthbag UK(NG), 5 yrs |
I thought mutual cleaning was the 69 position. Like Paddington, I like Ma'amalade. Edited 11 Feb 09, 4:17 PM by GeneralFilthbag | |
| 6 Nov 08, 10:55 PM Vortex_J UK(N), 7 yrs |
Well said.
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| 6 Nov 08, 11:10 PM Tadashii_Aikouka 5 yrs |
Taking baths together and being washed can make me go one of two ways. It either makes me feel like a naughty child and prompts mischievous behaviour... I wee-ed on him once and while he quite liked it, he gave me a stern telling off...which I think had been the whole point. Or it can put me in a domme headspace very quickly and makes me feel worshipped, loved and pampered, and usually prompts me to demand massage followed by full body worship and extensive oral. I think it partly depends on the manner in which it is done and also the kind of mood I was in to start with. Either way, it is incredibly intimate and strengthens the bond between you. It feels very animalistic and almost instinctive. Beautiful. ETA: He thinks of it as being like grooming. In the way that monkeys do it, so I guess washing me makes him feel more submissive. I rarely do it for him come to think of it... Edited 6 Nov 08, 11:12 PM by Tadashii_Aikouka | |
| 6 Nov 08, 11:30 PM twisted_kitty UK(OX), 4 yrs |
God I have not done it often but loved it when I did, its some thing I adore doing. He has to be in the mood to enjoy it. I prefer to bath him and massage him. I have done it once spent an hour washing him in a candle lit bath. Then taking my time drying him. Spent ages running oil over his skin and generally perved over him while i did it. I felt almost spoilt. Then this Sunday i was nursing a hang over. He was so lovely made a fuss over me was wonderful. Felt weak and pathetic but he looked after me. Yes i did feel some what child like but loved every second of it. Life is a biatch ... fuck her dont take her too seriously but love her with all your heart! Edited 6 Nov 08, 11:36 PM by twisted_kitty |
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