Am I a Masochist? (3)

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Mr_Foo
Posted by Mr_Foo on Thu 6 Nov 08, 2:09 PM

Now I'd normally say no that I'm not. I don't like pain. I don't enjoy it or get off on it.

But let's go through this definition:

mas·och·ism (ms-kzm) n. 1. The deriving of sexual gratification, or the tendency to derive sexual gratification, from being physically or emotionally abused. 2. The deriving of pleasure, or the tendency to derive pleasure, from being humiliated or mistreated, either by another or by oneself. 3. A willingness or tendency to subject oneself to unpleasant or trying experiences.

Now I'm not the first. Pain hurts, and I don't like it Except for very limited amounts during sex which can heighten things a bit. On it's own it gives me no pleasure or gratification at all, I just go 'Ow'. Emotion abuse is even worse, it's likely to bring out the worst in me, and make me just turn my back on the relationship and walk away.

Number 2 is similar to 1.. Humiliation would be the quickest way to make me grab my things and leave. Mistreatment is a bit vague, but again I wouldn't say I directly gained pleasure for anything that could be defined as such.

Now the 3rd point is where things get a bit different. I do willingly experience pain, unpleasantness and testing things. I don't do it for my own direct pleasure, but I do do it for my Mistress's pleasure, which gives me pleasure. I also experience some nice warm fuzzy feeling after play, which I do directly enjoy.. but those only come when everything's over and I'm not being hurt or anything.

So does this make me a Masochist? By the above definition yes. Ish. But were I to tell anyone that I was they'd probably assume definition 1... So it's all a bit ambiguous.

Replies

6 Nov 08, 2:49 PM
Vylette
UK(G), 4 yrs
Tis confuddling indeed, I'm the same as you. It hurts but enduring it for someone who takes pleasure in it is the thing that gets me and as a result I crave that. I also usually feel pretty good afterwards
I have managed to get short sharp bursts of enjoyment during the pain but it's very rare and they only last a second, if I could tap into that and make it happen more often it would be very cool.

6 Nov 08, 3:03 PM
TheScorpionQueen
UK(CH), 19 mths

I don't actually enjoy the pain itself, it's the sensations moments later, the boundries I have pushed & the fact I have pleased the domly one for doing so ~ add to that the flash backs for several days after then the pain was worth bearing.

Though the sex to which I belong is considered weak you will nevertheless find me a rock that bends to no wind ~ Elizabeth I

6 Nov 08, 3:09 PM
MisterBear
UK(WA), 5 yrs

Just call yerself kinky and have done with it. It covers all you need covering and you can work out the nitty gritty as it's needed. However downside is that just being kinky doesn't help with finding partners as they tend to be looking for something more specific and can't quite tell if your kinkiness covers it or not.
But I'm numbers 2 and 3 if that helps anyone.
I hide the truth.
I hide it out there in the open where anyone can see it.


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