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| 5 Nov 08, 7:42 PM MissKimberley NL, 8 yrs      |
With my partner I play without sex, have sex without play, and have sex combined with play (before, during, and/or after). With other subs I play without sex, usually, be they professional clients or not. My sense of fulfillment doesn't change when I have sex, or when I don't have sex. My sense of fulfillment increases when I know someone better and have a deeper connection on an emotional level. Of course the deepest emotional connection I have is with the man I love, therefore the play and/or sex is most fulfilling with him. But I can't say that I don't find the others unfulfilling, they're just different experiences. "You say that my way of thinking cannot be tolerated? What of it? The man who alters his way of thinking to suit others is a fool. My way of thinking is the result of my reflections. It is part of my inner being, the way I am made." Marquis de Sade | |
| 5 Nov 08, 7:44 PM twisted_kitty UK(OX), 4 yrs |
I think being tied up and brought to the point on orgasum with out coming for hours would be completely delious and horrific and delightfully unbareable. Very good restraints would be needed!! Life is a biatch ... fuck her dont take her too seriously but love her with all your heart! | |
| 5 Nov 08, 8:32 PM just_six UK(CH), 10 yrs |
In our dynamic the BDSM part is very sexual, i'm a complete slut and proud to admit to it, but we don't indulge in penetrative sex...just about everything else, but for me that would change our dynamic. i would, personally, find myself becoming emotionally attached, and having previously been in a long term psychologically and physically abusive relationship find that very difficult to handle and adjust to. It doesn't mean i'm mentally unstable in any way, just that i have discovered that separating the two has made for a very good, and long term M/s relationship with Master. He for reasons of His own feels the same way. It doesn't mean that neither of us get great pleasure out of giving and receiving though...in my case pleasure from being allowed to serve...and indulge my sluttiness! | |
| 5 Nov 08, 8:39 PM MasterCyn UK(L), 5 yrs |
I dont think I could be in a D/s without sex, youve still got a Top an bottom to that to. But its not nessacary in every scenario, fun to attatch and detatch from play due to the situation. Also its fun to make the bitch wait. Its all fun and games until somebody looses a bollock. Edited 5 Nov 08, 8:40 PM by MasterCyn | |
| 5 Nov 08, 9:02 PM unicornjo UK(FY), 3 yrs |
The play leads to such a state of excitement that to not have sex afterwards would be such an anti climax  | |
| 5 Nov 08, 9:36 PM subspace_junkie UK(M), 4 yrs |
i was talking to a vanilla guy about BDSM he was very interested and then he said "so you still get to fuck right?" it was then that i realised why i love the kink! | |
| 5 Nov 08, 10:00 PM dreamscapes UK, 3 yrs |
to shag, definitely. It is the cherry on top of a delicious sundae. "Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.- Marcus Aurelius"~~~"Neither a lofty degree of intelligence nor imagination nor both together go to the making of genius. Love, love, love, that is the soul of genius.- Mozart" | |
| 5 Nov 08, 10:02 PM KinkyRoly UK(OX), 3 yrs |
My partner and I play in such a way that there's a tremendous blurring where BDSM ends and sex begins. BDSM is an important part of our sex life and our sex and our kink involves lots of variety - which suits up perfectly. However we both play with others at our parties and on those occasions, the BDSM is likely to be very sexual, but will stop ( just ) short of penetrative sex. People are under no misapprehensions about what we do and don't do and it seems to work perfectly well for all parties. | |
| 5 Nov 08, 11:16 PM silver_lotus UK(CB), 3 yrs |
Ever driven a very powerful and well-engineered car on a race track, and thoroughly enjoyed putting it through its paces whilst at the same time thrilling at being in control and being so aware of having the ability and opportunity? Or flying a small plane?
Well for me its in a similar vein but with loads of colours compared to black and white. Cars and planes don't wriggle and make sounds and have expressions in their eyes or move their bodies in quite the same way....or say thankyou quite so nicely | |
| 6 Nov 08, 1:47 AM BadWulf UK(TA), 6 yrs |
Totally accepted, but its still best when you can cross the finishing line 
My, what sharp teeth I have. Edited 6 Nov 08, 1:48 AM by BadWulf |
