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| caprycorn |
Someone asked me to explain more my stance on poly relationships.
Except I don't really have one. A stance, that is. I do have a poly relationship and a rather nice one tyvm. Except I do have a stance, sort of. Come on, you knew that was coming.
Everyone is poly. Everyone has the capacity to love more than one person. We love friends, family. We love parents, we love children. It might not be love with all the sexual shenanigans thrown in, but it's still love. It is still a deep and meaningful emotion.
Love isn't finite, surely. Why should it be deemed so difficult to understand that one can love more than one adult, to have more than one full on adult relationship at a time? Considering the huge capacity for love that most people have, it seems logical to me that some of us choose to extend that to partners as well as friends and family.
I don't know and I really am not that bothered about what other peoples definition is of poly, of a poly relationship. Mine is the only one that's relevant to me. And it's loving my male partner and my female partner, and being really quite chuffed that they love each other and being even more chuffed that they love me.
Being loved by more than one person doesn't give me superpowers. It doesn't make me special, apart from to them. It doesn't mean that I am a higher breed of woman (although obviously I am) (irony alert there for the terminally stupid). I am not more worthy, not more loveable. I'm just extremely fortunate.
All of us have the capacity to love more than one person. All of us. Its just that some of us exercise it in a way that isn't the societal norm of monogamy. One size really doesn't fit all and theres no reason why it should. Nothing wrong with having the one. Nothing wrong in my world with having the two, and in others worlds for more than that. Personal choice.
I'm no poly posterchild. I don't care at all that some think I'm lying about my life or that I can't possibly love more than one adult in the way that I do. Of course it's possible, because I do it. They do it. We are what we are. We're a poly triad and more than that, a poly family.
And it's bloody marvellous.
