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Ouroboros
Posted by Ouroboros on Mon 3 Nov 08, 10:38 AM

Tags: Manchester (M)

As many know I have kinda left the scene. And I only pop on here if people send me memos.

I was wondering if people leave the scene completely do they cut off all contact with it, including the friends they made?

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3 Nov 08, 10:43 AM
Raegan
UK, 2 yrs

Ouroboros wrote:
As many know I have kinda left the scene. And I only pop on here if people send me memos.
I was wondering if people leave the scene completely do they cut off all contact with it, including the friends they made?
I suppose it depends what you mean when you say "left the scene". I go through periods of not wanting to go to munches or post on the boards but I still pop on here every day or so and read posts/reply to memos.

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3 Nov 08, 11:04 AM
Ouroboros
UK, 18 mths
Y!

Raegan wrote:

Ouroboros wrote:
As many know I have kinda left the scene. And I only pop on here if people send me memos.
I was wondering if people leave the scene completely do they cut off all contact with it, including the friends they made?
I suppose it depends what you mean when you say "left the scene". I go through periods of not wanting to go to munches or post on the boards but I still pop on here every day or so and read posts/reply to memos.

I am doing the whole not going to munches or posting on IC (even though I am now, gotta love my logic)
I meant leaving the scene completely (going vanilla (god I hate that term))
All this has happened before and will happen again.
Women are from Omicron Persei 7, men are from Omicron Persei 9.
Yesterday's the past and tomorrow's the future. Today is a gift - which is why they call it the present.

3 Nov 08, 11:18 AM
bohnanza
UK(FK), 9 yrs
Y!
What makes yo0u think BDSM is any different from any other hobby? Do people who stop going to play rugby keep up with their rugby friends? Some do some don't. BDSM isn't any different. Do you keep in touch with any of the people with whom you shared a common activity you no longer do?
You have asked your question to people who are currently involved in the scene, their replies will be skewed as people who have walked away totally won't see your question and won't reply. It is a bit like dong a survey to discover what proportion of the population is ill whilst standing outside a hospital.
Science, the only religion that works even if you don't believe in it.
Women wanted, preferably with their own Rohypnol.

3 Nov 08, 11:26 AM
crystaltips
UK(S), 21 mths
Does it matter what others do? Is there a rule somewhere that says you cant keep friends you like and distance yourself from the ones that you no longer enjoy spending time with? Does being kinky or vanilla make any difference to a good friendship? You should do what you want to do and not ask us to tell you what to do - especially if you are now officially vanilla - lol!

3 Nov 08, 1:51 PM
TheScorpionQueen
UK(CH), 19 mths

The scene & alternative comminity is very flexible & the options are endless ~ take it to where you want it to go, your network suggests you have lots of friends here.
If you are adamant about leaving the whole lot behind then maybe it is time to ask yourself why? Do you have too many expectations from it & feel let down in anyway?
I imagine it would be missed after a time ~ maybe a complete break away from it all may reveal what you want.
Good luck anyways mr
Though the sex to which I belong is considered weak you will nevertheless find me a rock that bends to no wind ~ Elizabeth I

3 Nov 08, 1:53 PM
TheScorpionQueen
UK(CH), 19 mths

bohnanza wrote:
What makes yo0u think BDSM is any different from any other hobby? Do people who stop going to play rugby keep up with their rugby friends? Some do some don't. BDSM isn't any different. Do you keep in touch with any of the people with whom you shared a common activity you no longer do?
You have asked your question to people who are currently involved in the scene, their replies will be skewed as people who have walked away totally won't see your question and won't reply. It is a bit like dong a survey to discover what proportion of the population is ill whilst standing outside a hospital.
You are making the so called scene sound like a conveyor belt of brainwashed people ~ the opinions on here will be just as varied as anywhere else, the more options and support the better

Though the sex to which I belong is considered weak you will nevertheless find me a rock that bends to no wind ~ Elizabeth I

3 Nov 08, 6:25 PM
Ouroboros
UK, 18 mths
Y!
I am not vanilla, I am me. nor was I asking permission for anything. It was a hypothetical question.

crystaltips wrote:
Does it matter what others do? Is there a rule somewhere that says you cant keep friends you like and distance yourself from the ones that you no longer enjoy spending time with? Does being kinky or vanilla make any difference to a good friendship? You should do what you want to do and not ask us to tell you what to do - especially if you are now officially vanilla - lol!

All this has happened before and will happen again.
Women are from Omicron Persei 7, men are from Omicron Persei 9.
Yesterday's the past and tomorrow's the future. Today is a gift - which is why they call it the present.

3 Nov 08, 6:34 PM
Ouroboros
UK, 18 mths
Y!
Being completely honest I don't know what I want at the moment and not just in this area of my life.
I suppose being honest I did come into the scene with certain expectations. I don't feel let down from the expectations.
I just don't like the way some of the people act on the scene.

TheScorpionQueen wrote:
The scene & alternative comminity is very flexible & the options are endless ~ take it to where you want it to go, your network suggests you have lots of friends here.
If you are adamant about leaving the whole lot behind then maybe it is time to ask yourself why? Do you have too many expectations from it & feel let down in anyway?
I imagine it would be missed after a time ~ maybe a complete break away from it all may reveal what you want.
Good luck anyways mr

All this has happened before and will happen again.
Women are from Omicron Persei 7, men are from Omicron Persei 9.
Yesterday's the past and tomorrow's the future. Today is a gift - which is why they call it the present.

3 Nov 08, 10:48 PM
TheScorpionQueen
UK(CH), 19 mths

Don't go pulling out on other peoples behalf, they are so not worth it plus they would be oblivious that you feel this way towards them. People that matter to you are where things are at ~ this is your scene to tweak to suit you, trim off the bad vibes and enjoy

Ouroboros wrote:
Being completely honest I don't know what I want at the moment and not just in this area of my life.
I suppose being honest I did come into the scene with certain expectations. I don't feel let down from the expectations.
I just don't like the way some of the people act on the scene.

TheScorpionQueen wrote:
The scene & alternative comminity is very flexible & the options are endless ~ take it to where you want it to go, your network suggests you have lots of friends here.
If you are adamant about leaving the whole lot behind then maybe it is time to ask yourself why? Do you have too many expectations from it & feel let down in anyway?
I imagine it would be missed after a time ~ maybe a complete break away from it all may reveal what you want.
Good luck anyways mr

Though the sex to which I belong is considered weak you will nevertheless find me a rock that bends to no wind ~ Elizabeth I

3 Nov 08, 11:32 PM
Suadela
UK(M), 13 mths

Ouroboros wrote:
Being completely honest I don't know what I want at the moment and not just in this area of my life.
I suppose being honest I did come into the scene with certain expectations. I don't feel let down from the expectations.
I just don't like the way some of the people act on the scene.

This is somthing i thought about recently, and a chat with a few close friends sort of helped me work out what i want with the hear and now, and what i want more longer term. I find having a good chat with some one you feel you can talk openly with is always a good start and take it from there. Or maybe just sit down and make a list and talk things through with yourself.
Maybe this will provide some clarity for you, or maybe it wont but anything is worth a shot.
Some people say i am evil, i have no idea why they think that.


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