No Limits (68)

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Sat 1 Nov 08, 11:28 AM
naughty_sub
UK(CT), 8 yrs
I was wondering how others felt about No Limits play.
Would you have to know the Dom/me very very well?
Would you want to have a safe word?
Do you trust your Dom/me enough not to have a safe word?
Does the danger excite you?

Never make someone you're priority when you to them are only an option.....
"No wise man ever wished to be younger." Jonathan Swift Irish essayist, novelist, & satirist (1667 - 1745)

1 Nov 08, 11:32 AM
takemetothenextlevel
UK, 3 yrs
Y!
I have limited experience but dont play with people unless I feel I can trust them and they have somehow proved to me that they have an understanding of what I am about. No limits and no safe words used although they have been in place just in case I got them wrong!

1 Nov 08, 11:40 AM
HisHoliness
UK(KT), 4 yrs
I think that for many of us, "No Limits" play might well be the Holy Grail.
To know someone so well; to have so much confidence in their abilities; to have that much faith in their judgement; to have that much trust in their skills; if you get there, it's a wonderful thing and i know many here have.
And let's not forget that "No Limits" is a two-way thing. For a Dom/me to know a sub well enough for that to happen....that takes work and it takes time.
For a top/bottom relationship to get that far, is for many i'm sure, a goal.
This communication was brought to you from the desk of the Pontiff Elect, the benchmark by which purity, holiness & normality are measured. Bless you.
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Edited 1 Nov 08, 11:47 AM by HisHoliness

1 Nov 08, 11:41 AM
Masters_Delight
UK(WD), 2 yrs

Sir and i have no limits, just how it should be, but then we are in a loving, trusting relationship. With someone new then there would definitetly be safe words and limits.x
Im so fucking fabulous, i piss glitter.

1 Nov 08, 12:05 PM
ByYourCommand
UK(RG), 3 yrs

No limits play might be a little bit of an exaggeration, safer to say I have no limits I set myself - my Master and Mistress do that for me and there are things that I know they wouln't expose me to.
Would you have to know the Dom/me very very well? Personally, yes. I didn't just walk into 'no limits' play with my Master and Mistress. It was something earned by them and given by me freely. They had taken the time, trouble and effort to understand me and to care to for me. It was also incremental in nature. limits that i've forgone; needles, knife play, sounds etc
Would you want to have a safe word? Historically I've always played with safe words, but that was primarily as a result of the nature of the play I'd been involved in, a series of sessions but limited in terms of a 'relationship'. So if it was someone I didnt know well, then yes I would still want safe words.
Do you trust your Dom/me enough not to have a safe word? Absolutely. Not from the moment I met them, but once trust and understanding have been establised we agreed that safe words were not required. It has enabled us to progress things that, perhaps if the safe words were in place, would not have happend.
Does the danger excite you? I have to say yes to this, i love that edginess, gets the juices flowing
darren
"Well keep you chin up, there's someone out there for everbody...you know in some cases there are two someones for one person; I like to call that 'the jackpot'..."

1 Nov 08, 12:33 PM
Katena
UK(M), 5 yrs
Y!

ByYourCommand wrote:
No limits play might be a little bit of an exaggeration, safer to say I have no limits I set myself - my Master and Mistress do that for me and there are things that I know they wouln't expose me to.
I completly agree with you here....I don't beleive that anyone has 'no limits' as there will alwas be something that you wont do no mater what!
To get to the point where you have 'no limits set by yourself' takes time..and negotiating..and getting to know/trust/respect the Dominant.
I was in a 'no limits (set by myself)' relationship...but if the Dominant asked me to do something i didnt agree with...like walk dont the street naked...shag an animal...hurt someone not involved...etc etc...then i wold say no....simply!
So therefore...it isn't no limits!

k
I've ran out of sick days...so i'm calling in dead

1 Nov 08, 12:36 PM
naughty_sub
UK(CT), 8 yrs
I think the point about having limits set by your Dominant (as mine are) you need to be sure that your Dominant will not do anything you really wouldn't like.
Never make someone you're priority when you to them are only an option.....
"No wise man ever wished to be younger." Jonathan Swift Irish essayist, novelist, & satirist (1667 - 1745)

1 Nov 08, 12:40 PM
Katena
UK(M), 5 yrs
Y!
And so really...technically....
It isn't that you have 'no limits'
Is it?!
k
I've ran out of sick days...so i'm calling in dead

1 Nov 08, 12:51 PM
naughty_sub
UK(CT), 8 yrs

Katena wrote:
And so really...technically....
It isn't that you have 'no limits'
Is it?!
k
Reduced limits then...there are several things my Domme likes to do that were limits for me before i knew her. I submit to them because that is the nature of the dynamic we have. I enjoy submitting to what she wants more than i have ever enjoyed anything and i also have a "need" to please her.
I know that she wouldn't kill or seriously harm me so i will submit to anything she wants no matter if i like what she wants or not.
Although not a do anything sub in general, i would do anything for her. Of course in the very unlikely event that she wanted to do something really extreme i would have to say no. But i know she wouldn't do anything like that or i would not have submitted so fully and completely in the first place.
Never make someone you're priority when you to them are only an option.....
"No wise man ever wished to be younger." Jonathan Swift Irish essayist, novelist, & satirist (1667 - 1745)

1 Nov 08, 1:03 PM
SuzannaRaine
UK(LE), 2 yrs

Firstly, I don't think "having your leg cut off" realistically forms any part of a D/s, S&M, BDSM, kink, call-it-what-you-will scene.
If we, therefore, dismiss the "I'm no limits", "I want to break every bone in your hand, I like the sounds it makes" conversations as completely unrealistic and not going to happen in the real world, I think it is possible to have "no limits".
For myself, and speaking only for me, I have found people with whom I would do whatever they asked, when they asked, because they asked it. In those circumstances, the things asked were not necessaily things I wanted to do, things I enjoyed, things I would have chosen to do had I not been asked/instructed etc, and so, in those circumstances, I guess I had "no limits".
This is not the case with everyone.
I tend to say I have "no limits just limitations". You can (as someone I trust) do pretty much what you want with/to me, BUT, you've got to be prepared for the rush to A&E should you decide a cutting scene is a good idea, the triggered scared witless sub in the corner who you can't touch of come near but yet have to help ground from flashbacks if you use certain toys, etc.
I will say, "please don't do that because..." but the choice is ultimately in the hands of whomever I'm playing with, if they want to deal with the consequences or not.
I do not go out purposely picking partners whose limits match my own. As in, I hate violet wands, really, really hate them, would be happy if I never saw one again etc. And yet, everyone I've played with of late owns one, loves it, and has used it on me (bastards :P). I go out picking partners who understand me, listen to me, care about me, and for whom those feelings are reciprocated.
Given the right stimulus and set up most of the (few) things on my "limit" list aren't really there at all. They just pop back onto the list when I play with someone casually. (Nothing like a night of fun no strings kink limited by a preventable trip to A&E cos someone thought it would be fun to get the needles out, afterall.)
bara 'adam 'et 'elohim m'apher
Official CMunch Caterer
Reverend Doctor Raine Quick (but only when Pimping)

1 Nov 08, 1:55 PM
Sirs_Froglet
UK(S), 19 mths
I think it depends on what you consider 'no limits' to mean. Limits are something that I think BDSM is permanently testing, so they aren't something entirely fixed. There are areas of BDSM which don't appeal to me right now and I'm not sure if they ever would, but given the right person, who really knows what their limits are?
For me, the ideal wouldn't be to have a 'no limits' relationship in the sense they could do whatever they liked to me regardless. Being with someone who trusts, loves and understands me and with whom I feel the same, who is my friend and respects me person and who knows where I am at any given time in our BDSM experience is my kind of ideal. If you have that, then technically there are no true limits; just new areas in which you can explore at the right time and pace and feel out what fits you both.
Oh, there is one limit: Doms that don't do cuddling afterwards!

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