Self indulgence and the benefits of restraint (4)

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Posted by wonderer on Mon 27 Oct 08, 5:56 AM

I've been reflecting in recent times on the pros and cons of a gentleman such as myself being free to indulge in the hedonistic pursuit of personal pleasure. A truly civilised person enjoys pleasure in moderation, with refinement, exercising a measure of self restraint. Is there not something a bit grotesque about gorging oneself, like a child let loose in a sweetshop?

Images of Monty Python's Mr Cresosote http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=BlK62rjQWLk come to mind. (This link is gross - not for the faint hearted - perhaps best left to the imagination.) He gorges himself on food until he vomits spectacularly. This is a humorous example of an innocent and indeed necessary act of self gratification turning into self abuse. For some people eating disorder is a very serious matter. I'm not trying to make light of this; I'm using food as a metaphor for other forms of self gratifcation.

In moderation, the act of self-pleasuring is harmless enough, indeed healthy and enjoyable. But some need to learn the lesson of self restraint rather than excessive self indulgence. And some who don't indulge to gross excess might also like to find a higher level of discipline. I don't think this is necessarily excessively puritannical or anally retentive. Sometimes an obsession with receiving pleasure can be a distraction at times when one should be concentrating on giving pleasure to another. And indeed sometimes a person appreciates one's gift or service all the more when it is clearly selfless or better still given in a context of self denial.

Not only that, but sometimes they enjoy being able to help a person whose level of self indulgence is not at all problematical, but who feels most fulfilled in learning the lesson of restraint and discipline and can learn it most effectively under some kind of externally imposed discipline.

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I suppose the whole of that is just an obtuse way of saying that some of us dirty little wankerboys ought to be put into chastity for our own benefit and for the amusement of those who enjoy such things.

In fact if the truth be known, I've been enjoying a movie clip of a man in a chastity device giving oral pleasure to a Domme woman who teases and humiliates him about his inability to give himself any pleasure.

Edited Mon 27 Oct 08, 7:00 AM by wonderer

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27 Oct 08, 7:16 AM
DanesWood
UK, 17 mths
Over indulgence is not good for a submissive and out of control masturbation even less so.
I suggest a period of abstinance to make you appreciate the privilege you have.
"The most powerful sexual organ in the body is our brain, open your mind and allow your fantasies free reign. Mutual pleasure between consenting adults is a wonderful thing."

27 Oct 08, 7:44 AM
wonderer
UK, 2 yrs

Yes, good suggestion. A period of abstinence can be a good thing and can lead to a sense of greater well being and gratitude when the abstinence is over.
ETA I guess it is a privilege to play with oenself if under supervision, but otherwise a basic right.

Edited 27 Oct 08, 2:32 PM by wonderer

11 Nov 08, 10:08 AM
Cinnamon_Tart
UK(S), 2 yrs

wonderer wrote:
Yes, good suggestion. A period of abstinence can be a good thing and can lead to a sense of greater well being and gratitude when the abstinence is over.
Or perhaps there are other ways to generate well-being and gratitude...
What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the Master calls a butterfly. - Richard Bach, Illusions

16 Nov 08, 3:57 PM
wonderer
UK, 2 yrs

I'm not sure what you're thinking of there Cinnamon Tart - care to elucidate?


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