Homesickness will not go away (12)

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harley_quimm
Posted by harley_quimm on Sun 26 Oct 08, 1:10 AM

Tags: Sheffield (S)

Doesnt matter what I do, how I think.. whatever..

It's still there. So much so, hot silent tears slide down my face nearly every night.

I thought I'd be over it by now, but apparently not.

I would like to go home.

I dont feel grown up, and I dont particularly want to be.

But I cant go home, I would be disappointed with myself if I did.

So any ways of combating this?

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26 Oct 08, 1:32 AM
Skyhook
UK(NG), 3 yrs

It'll never go away, it's part of who you are, keep it as your touchstone.
But, hard as it may seem, you've got to build new memories, make the new place your own; shine, paint it all the colours.
And maybe pop home once in a while...
Though having said that, Mrs S always regarded Bath as her warm safe place, a home she could retreat to, even if only in memory.
For our honeymoon we went on a tour, Bath was one of the stops. And it'd changed. Her little safe places, those retreats, had gone, changed. It hurt her a lot.
So hold the memories of home, but make new dreams of where you are.
"Me? I'm all about the hugs.
And cruelty. Hugs and cruelty basically."
Edited 26 Oct 08, 1:54 AM by Skyhook

26 Oct 08, 1:03 AM
FetishJess
UK(BN), 2 yrs

It took me years to think of Brighton as my home. I missed Cambridge so much. Now, whenever I go to Cambridge, it feels like a different person lived there and it wasn't me. I don't mind that as Brighton is my home now. I've been here for 10 years and love it. I wish I could remember how long it took to feel like that, but I'm pretty sure it was a couple of years. I left my partner behind when I moved and it took me 4 years to break up with him so it wasn't a very fast process!
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26 Oct 08, 1:06 AM
PrissyMissy
UK(LA), 3 mths
One day you'll look back and you'll be so proud of yourself that you did it.
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26 Oct 08, 1:26 AM
Dominel
UK, 5 yrs

Realise that people at home are probably worrying if you're ok.
Talk to them about it.
Realise there are others who feel this way and find one of them. They will be relieved to find someone else feels the same.
Talk to them about it.
Feel it, express it. It's natural. People are usually more interested in whether you're ok than they are in how tough and independent you are.

26 Oct 08, 8:49 AM
Elven_Eyes
UK(LE), 2 yrs
Think of all the tings you did at home when you were alone, things that you enjoyed. A favorite film, a book, listening to a certain CD. Take you most cherished things, a stuffed animal or a poster, whatever it may be, and put them all about you in plain view.
With Your things about you, do those things that you love to do. The comfort that came when you did them at home will come again.
That's how I handle it. No matter where in the world I am, I can still close my eyes and sing broadway into my hairbrush, or watch the Mummy with a pillow in my lap. Those moments I am most surely at home, no matter where I am.
"The chaperon is there to make sure no one else has any fun, but nobody chaperons the chaperon. That's why I'm so right for this job." -Jane Russell as Dorothy Shaw, "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes"

26 Oct 08, 10:43 AM
Swiss_Toni
UK(S), 10 mths
Dunno, really... I've been in Sheffield for just over a year now, and it hasn't always been easy. I have no mates up here, to speak of, so I can't piss off out for a pint with tham, when things at home get on top of me; which is what I'd always do back in London. So I do feel your pain, hun.
I'm sure you'll make plenty of pals up here, hq, as you're a lovely gal.
mpc xx
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26 Oct 08, 6:45 PM
Mimi_69
UK(CB), 5 mths
Y!
Go talk to your personal tutor at uni, they will be able to help you.

27 Oct 08, 3:11 PM
harley_quimm
UK(CB), 16 mths
I dont have one.
�The worst solitude is to be destitute of sincere friendship� Francis Bacon

27 Oct 08, 6:20 PM
MarwoodBramwell
UK(CB), 3 yrs
Well the obvious answers are things like the SU who should have people to chat to, as well as the really basic solution of keeping busy to a degree.
Sheffield is an amazing place, the home sickness fades after a little as you learn the new city and as you feel more comfortable in what took you there (uni in this case)

28 Oct 08, 1:18 PM
Mimi_69
UK(CB), 5 mths
Y!
thats odd, you should do. I'd go to your subject admin office and ask why you dont, their there for this reason!

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