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| 22 Oct 08, 9:40 PM Nekkii UK(S), 6 yrs   |
Ah, as always tends to be the case on this board, whatever I think of, someone else got there first. Great post. I really identify with these different kinds and frequently the lack of clarification of these in the English language. We really need more words for love. Limerence is a great start | |
| 22 Oct 08, 9:44 PM Grownup_Frankie UK, 4 yrs |
Good point - a different drug. I'd conceed that. Or rather say that I find no difficulty in seeing that as just another addiction. As my oh whats the word.... Whats the word, alternative Frankie? Alternative Frankie: Hypothesis. Ok, as my hypothesis was about addiction being an instrumental drive of love, and the fact that there are many addictions, and many things to be addicted to, and the very real possibility that when I'm saying addiction I'm referring to something as 'human' as laughter or worry, then thats probably true. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't...So we might as well do. | |
| 22 Oct 08, 9:58 PM Grownup_Frankie UK, 4 yrs |
To clarify: I am not using the word 'addictive' in either a negative or positive way, not saying its good or bad, just wondering if its inherent in the human condition, and if it must therefore strongly colour our..well, all our outcomes, how and where we end up in life? I firmly believe there 'are no accidents'. ....whoops, shit, spilled my wine. We're damned if we do and damned if we don't...So we might as well do. | |
| 22 Oct 08, 10:06 PM Count_Olaf UK, 4 yrs |
To clarify, Wine is not an addiction, any more than breathing is. The whole question is similar to the one that asks about 'selfishness'. The hypothesis here is that humans are incapable of being selfless. Any action one takes, no matter how nuch it may benefit someone else, benefits the chooser most. Even if it means giving up your life for someone, you would only do that if it was preferable to the alternative. Probably on moral grounds. I understand that your not saying addictiveness (is that a bloody word?) is bad in itself, it may be just the form of addiction we have. Incidentally, I would imagine, with no real proof, that addiction is part of the human condition. Even a monk would jealously guard his solitude. |
