Poly subs ridiculous or not? (96)

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Mon 13 Oct 08, 12:14 AM
slave_guy
UK(KT), 3 yrs

It seems that only Dom(me)s can be polyamorous, apart from the few exceptions of pro female subs that may serve more than one.
A few reasons for this spring to mind.
Is this because...
It's just not BDSM etiquette for a sub to serve more than one.
Dom(me)s are very protective of their subs, and prohibit it.
It's the uneven split, there are far fewer Dom(me)s around than subs.
There is no desire for a sub to ever serve more than one.

Perhaps there are lots polyamory (non-pro) subs out there. Though if there are, I suspect there are more poly female subs than male ones.

Conclusion to my original post
So popular this post was I had no where to place my reply except here just below my OP. Very interesting to read everyones poly-centric or mono-centric opinions.
I certainly agree that polyamorous behaviour isn't specific to the BDSM community, I too believe that some are "poly wired" (nice term that Grownup_Frankie) others not. Not sure whether it's down nurture or nature though. Some of the Dom(me)s that are poly seem to allow their subs to choose to be poly if they so wish, though it seems that the Dom(me) always holds the power to veto.
The reason I initially posted this was just plain curiosity, but more on a personal front, I just to see how many pure male subs are poly. Evidently there are very few, based simply because all the replies from subs here that said they are poly, were all in fact female (with the exception of one male switch).
They say that answers pose more questions, so I now am wondering why it is only pure male subs that apparently remain mostly monoamorous.
Just noticed that this post continues... http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/posts/211524/
Edited Wed 15 Oct 08, 12:32 PM by slave_guy

13 Oct 08, 12:19 AM
Tara_Red
UK(B), 22 mths
£
No it's not ridiculous, I serve a dom/domme couple so there's another suggestion you hadn't thought of!

13 Oct 08, 12:38 AM
Grownup_Frankie
11 mths
Perhaps it has a lot to do with the feeling one wants - as a sub, I want to feel totally 'captivated', enthralled, and loyal, to someone I hold in higher esteem than all others. Thats the FEELING and the SPIRIT I want to inform my every action, when I am with that person and when I am apart from that person. I think its hard to 'genuinely' feel that for more than one person, without mental struggle.
My personal metaphor for this view is that I am a moon, and know myself to be a moon, and as a moon my one wish and desire is to be in orbit around THE planet, you know, the best damned planet in the universe, and as a moon I think its impossible to orbit two planets at the same time without being pulled apart by the gravitational pulls of each. And, any way, it destroys the feeling I want most.
Whereas, of course, a dommly one is a planet, and a planet can quite easily have several moons in orbit around them at the same time, without feeling any struggle.

We're damned if we do and damned if we don't...So we might as well do.

13 Oct 08, 12:41 AM
Miss_OL
UK, 3 yrs

Grownup_Frankie wrote:
Perhaps it has a lot to do with the feeling one wants - as a sub, I want to feel totally 'captivated', enthralled, and loyal, to someone I hold in higher esteem than all others. Thats the FEELING and the SPIRIT I want to inform my every action, when I am with that person and when I am apart from that person. I think its hard to 'genuinely' feel that for more than one person, without mental struggle.
My personal metaphor for this view is that I am a moon, and know myself to be a moon, and as a moon my one wish and desire is to be in orbit around THE planet, you know, the best damned planet in the universe, and as a moon I think its impossible to orbit two planets at the same time without being pulled apart by the gravitational pulls of each. And, any way, it destroys the feeling I want most.
Whereas, of course, a dommly one is a planet, and a planet can quite easily have several moons in orbit around them at the same time, without feeling any struggle.

that's quite a beautiful post! wow!

~Put me on a pedestal, but be there to catch me if I fall~

13 Oct 08, 12:50 AM
MasterCyn
UK(CH), 2 yrs
Y!
I think it again depends on the people, a lot of people in this lifestyle are poly and it seems to suit the "Stereotype" of a Dom havin a load of slaves scurrying about them, or loaning out thier subs to other doms, which can make either sub or Dom poly.
But if your not poly, your not poly. I quite enjoy a relationship between Dom and sub to be mono, unless the sub suggests it I couldnt see myself lending them out or using another who is owned. All depends on the peeps.
Its all fun and games until somebody looses a bollock.

13 Oct 08, 12:58 AM
slave_guy
UK(KT), 3 yrs

Grownup_Frankie wrote:
My personal metaphor for this view is that I am a moon, and know myself to be a moon, and as a moon my one wish and desire is to be in orbit around THE planet...
It is a lovely analogy, the solar system being so immortal and awesome. I do remember reading it before in another poly related post.

MasterCyn wrote:
I couldnt see myself lending them out or using another who is owned. All depends on the peeps.
Yes I agree it is very subjective.
Edited 13 Oct 08, 1:07 AM by slave_guy

13 Oct 08, 1:00 AM
Grownup_Frankie
11 mths

Miss_OL wrote:

Grownup_Frankie wrote:
...stuff...
that's quite a beautiful post! wow!

Tis nothing. My old 'moon in orbit around a fantastic planet' metaphor - I dust it off and bring it out every few months - but for a really beautiful, intelligent post, you should read Feminine's words of wisdom, truth and poetry - look at 'beauty and intelligence...'.

We're damned if we do and damned if we don't...So we might as well do.

13 Oct 08, 1:03 AM
Grownup_Frankie
11 mths

slave_guy wrote:

Grownup_Frankie wrote:
My personal metaphor for this view is that I am a moon, and know myself to be a moon, and as a moon my one wish and desire is to be in orbit around THE planet...
I do remember reading it before in another poly related post.
see, I told you I dust it off and bring it out every now and then. Well...w-e-elllll, there's always the possibility of someone who hasn't read it before.
*smile*

We're damned if we do and damned if we don't...So we might as well do.

13 Oct 08, 1:31 AM
wayoflife
UK, 6 yrs

Miss_OL wrote:

Grownup_Frankie wrote:
Perhaps it has a lot to do with the feeling one wants - as a sub, I want to feel totally 'captivated', enthralled, and loyal, to someone I hold in higher esteem than all others. Thats the FEELING and the SPIRIT I want to inform my every action, when I am with that person and when I am apart from that person. I think its hard to 'genuinely' feel that for more than one person, without mental struggle.
My personal metaphor for this view is that I am a moon, and know myself to be a moon, and as a moon my one wish and desire is to be in orbit around THE planet, you know, the best damned planet in the universe, and as a moon I think its impossible to orbit two planets at the same time without being pulled apart by the gravitational pulls of each. And, any way, it destroys the feeling I want most.
Whereas, of course, a dommly one is a planet, and a planet can quite easily have several moons in orbit around them at the same time, without feeling any struggle.

that's quite a beautiful post! wow!

Intelligently put. One of the most astute posts I have read in a long time. Thank you for making sense of my feelings too.

13 Oct 08, 1:33 AM
Purrverse
UK(N), 3 yrs

Grownup_Frankie wrote:

slave_guy wrote:

Grownup_Frankie wrote:
My personal metaphor for this view is that I am a moon, and know myself to be a moon, and as a moon my one wish and desire is to be in orbit around THE planet...
I do remember reading it before in another poly related post.
see, I told you I dust it off and bring it out every now and then. Well...w-e-elllll, there's always the possibility of someone who hasn't read it before.
*smile*

I hadn't, and I like it, though for me I enjoy submissives who I can offer up to others, or co-Top. ::shrug::

"I can't tell if you're playing some kind of feminazi mind fuck game on me or if you're trying to seduce me." -Sex and Death 101

13 Oct 08, 1:41 AM
ToakReon
UK(RH), 8 yrs
Y!
Poly subs happen - perhaps not as frequently (in my experience) as poly dom/mes ... but there are definitely a few around.
Toak
FEMALE, BONDAGE-FRIENDLY MODEL SOUGHT. I am seeking to update my "How To" shibari bondage pictures (see my profile pics, the clothed blonde tied in red and black) with a model more "enthusiastic" about BDSM, and who is happy to be photographed nude. MEMO ME if this is you.

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