Chastity pros and cons (72)

But .....

I have to confess, that going without certain other forms of 'torture' (and one form of 'treatment' in particular) do seem to make me more .... well .... obnoxious, moody, miserable and generally not very nice to know.

Yes i know that's the norm, shut up.

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But long term chastity I don't think would be too much fun for me personally at all. Especially if it was just passive. A few days of active teasing is really really wonderful - but "Right, I'm off for a few weeks, no cumming while I'm away" would actually seem really dull to me. I'm sure I'd end up playing mental games with myself to take my mind off it and become non-sexual rather than enjoying it... I think a lot of it is about how active it is for me.

And again, as others have said, forced orgasms are just as good as denied ones. Not to mention inadvertant ones that are mocked...

Overall though, in my experience when I'm =really= subbed out, my own orgasm is actually really not on my mind at all, I'm having so much fun that it almost feels like something incidental that may or may not occur, I don't even think about it. If my Domme wants to exert some kind of control over whether I do or don't then that's great for me too, but it's really up to them.

That's a whole barrel of conundrums you're dealing with! Not sure a device is exactly easier though, it just changes things a bit!

Sometimes the worst feeling with a device is around actually being taken out of the thing. If you're told in the morning that release is happening tonight, work is going to be... problematic.

The really weird one, is being told it is about to happen, and being conflicted because you suddenly realise that you like that constant feeling of containment and physical ownership. My head hurts!

I tend to agree with your thoughts on this one, being un-chaste means that you can be manipulated by your Dom/me or owner at a moments notice but this all depends on the type of relationship you share and ofcourse the strength of will you have as a sub i.e. you can abstain form staining!

I have an inkling that if i was in a device i would learn to switch off from any manipulation, i wouldn't have a need to cum as i wouldn't be horny thus it would/could render any need to serve as void. Ofcourse i enjoy knowing i am serving or doing as my lovely owner says but as in any kind of relationship there has to be something you get from it other than just a selfless act, a need must be met and so you wold want to perpetuate that need in your sub i would imagine.

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Now this is one we agree on.

Chastity devices i dont really like the thought of due to the obvious washing problems as a woman. I like the thought that my mind and body are under the command of my dom. Even when his is not there.

No relief drives me to distraction. Touching but not allowed to go over that edge. Which is worse being allowed to get all excited or not being allowed to touch at all. They both show dedication to my dom and the fact that it is a mental thing and not something there to stop me shows it even more.

Makes getting to come even better especially when you are made to beg for it... Sorry when you have to ask in a polite manner time and time again xx

Not only that, but chastity devices for men are commonplace, cheap and seem to be (at least in some cases) very effective. Female devices, however, are very expensive and hard to get if they're to be at all effective. Effective the best ones may be, but if chastity it to be properly enforced they're really only suitable for a couple who are living together as they are not very hygienic and would need to be removed every day, I think.

I was with a girl once who didn't masturbate to orgasm much at all, so I could put her in chastity (unenforced) for a couple of months and she wasn't even that frustrated at the end. A girl I'm playing with at the moment I've told not to cum for five days and she was begging for release after just 12 hours!

I love the idea though, and I do hope that the girl I end up with enjoys chastity.

For me it's not just the joy of control, the sadistic pleasure in denying her orgasms, the smugness of being able to cum all I like, to have her service me in fact, while she cannot even touch herself... but also the practical advantages - how it (in the right person) increases their submissiveness and need to please because they want to make sure they get their release as soon as possible.

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Just wanted to agree whole heartedly in the benefits of orgasm denial/chastity. It increases my submissive feelings ten fold, as really makes the point loud and clear that it is not about me & my needs! Although, I then almost enjoy the feeling of unbearable frustration as that then becomes a feeling my master has given me and then I learn to love it and as much as part of me craves the release, the other part wants to stay like it to please him.

I've had no experience of a chastity device and I think I'd probably hate it. I suppose it would depend on how long I had to wear it

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Have tried chastity and orgasm control at various times. Very different beasts of course, and the OP was asking about chastity so I'll stick to that, though orgasm control is also good fun.

The longest I have been kept chaste is two weeks. Was a long distance thing, so the lady in question wasn't depriving herself. Whilst living with someone, I've yet to find a woman who wanted to go that long without access to and use/abuse of my cock.Of course there is always the combination of orgasm denial during sex with enforced chastity between but can't remember that happening so far.

What does chastity do to me? Well, the first four days are tricky for me, getting steadily harder to endure, but then I get calmer inside and after a week, I am happy to stay in the device and it is almost a regret when it is taken off permanently (in reality the CB6000 I have needs to be removed once a day for cleaning, but that is only briefly).

Never makes me more aggressive, just more agitated at first. But I always enjoy the fact that it turns the focus completely to my partner's needs and pleasure, takes away my ability to get an erection and to come in any satisfactory way. Of course, chastity isn't necessary to focus on her needs but being in a chastity device somehow makes it more up front and centre. And for some reason I cannot identify I have a feeling of guilt about sex, about the male role in sexual relationships, so having that stripped away from me is calming.

My present partner uses the chastity device during times when she doesn't want penetrative sex so that she hasn't to worry about my frequent erections and sex drive for those few days. We can still cuddle all night without my getting hugely aroused by the physical contact and she can still get satisfaction from my tongue when wanted. A win win from her pov and a feeling of control and service I love to provide so a win win there too.

nah, seriously - it mostly depends on the fit of the device (if one is used) and how to keep it hygenic.

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