Chastity pros and cons (49)

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Sun 12 Oct 08, 8:41 PM
djin_bleu
UK(NW), 22 mths
I'd like to hear all views on chastity whether male or female, the benefits and drawbacks of both user and keyholder, your views are greatly appreciated.
I would say i'm adept at not needing a device, if i am told not to wank i won't do it, usually it turns me on even more to know i can't but it's intriguing to be bound and have a person hold that freedom and release in the form of a key, like a trophy
I know it would please my owner being the evil person she can be and no doubt she'd simply delight in knowing i was in pain!!!
In my everyday life it's not very practical but i'm sure there is an agreement that could be met to keep it on at certains times and take it off for usual things like work.
Does chastity change who you are as it stops you fiddling with your bits? Have you found that it makes you more aggressive or docile? Are you more maleable or do you switch off?
*She who rides the Demon is afraid to dismount* ~* A hopeless dreamer she said, eyes of cloud and feet of lead *~ ~** NO i'm not O ~fucking~ K!! **~

12 Oct 08, 8:44 PM
velvet_minx
UK(EH), 3 yrs
From past threads on the subject I think it affects males and females differently. It seems to be a much bigger fascination for male subs than their fem counterparts. I like orgasm control a lot but chastity just makes me frustrated and resentful.
I prefer forced orgasms to denied ones
No colours or shapes
No sound in my head
I forget who i am
Dirtier than Amy Winehouse's beehive

12 Oct 08, 8:52 PM
kitty_loves_rope
UK(TN), 9 mths

velvet_minx wrote:
I prefer forced orgasms to denied ones
Me too.
Although a few denied ones before the forced ones is good too

12 Oct 08, 8:55 PM
velvet_minx
UK(EH), 3 yrs

KittyClaw wrote:

Although a few denied ones before the forced ones is good too
Oh yes! Like I say I enjoy orgasm control as well as force, but long term absolute chastity is a complete no no. I once read about a fem sub who had been in chastity for over 2 years, I can think of few things worse.
No colours or shapes
No sound in my head
I forget who i am
Dirtier than Amy Winehouse's beehive

12 Oct 08, 8:58 PM
djin_bleu
UK(NW), 22 mths

velvet_minx wrote:

KittyClaw wrote:

Although a few denied ones before the forced ones is good too
Oh yes! Like I say I enjoy orgasm control as well as force, but long term absolute chastity is a complete no no. I once read about a fem sub who had been in chastity for over 2 years, I can think of few things worse.
I had a convo tonight about why someone thinks all males should wear chastity devices, cos it stops them inadvertantly fiddling with their bits, it's unhygenic etc, quite a different reason but interesting.
When i fondle i get aroused, so it's automatic for me!
*She who rides the Demon is afraid to dismount* ~* A hopeless dreamer she said, eyes of cloud and feet of lead *~ ~** NO i'm not O ~fucking~ K!! **~

12 Oct 08, 9:07 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs

djin_bleu wrote:
I had a convo tonight about why someone thinks all males should wear chastity devices, cos it stops them inadvertantly fiddling with their bits, it's unhygenic etc, quite a different reason but interesting.
When i fondle i get aroused, so it's automatic for me!
When you fondle what... yourself or your Mistress?
Do you need to fondle to get aroused? Is it the only way arousal happens for you?

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

12 Oct 08, 9:12 PM
djin_bleu
UK(NW), 22 mths

chartreuse wrote:

djin_bleu wrote:
I had a convo tonight about why someone thinks all males should wear chastity devices, cos it stops them inadvertantly fiddling with their bits, it's unhygenic etc, quite a different reason but interesting.
When i fondle i get aroused, so it's automatic for me!
When you fondle what... yourself or your Mistress?
Do you need to fondle to get aroused? Is it the only way arousal happens for you?

No, fondle myself ofcourse, the mere thought of fondling her highness would get me castrated, hung, shot, burned and castrated all over again!
I never need to fondle myself when someone says or does something sexy to me, little head has a tendency to pop up to see what the fuss is about!
Sometimes i do fiddle with my self and it gets me going!
*She who rides the Demon is afraid to dismount* ~* A hopeless dreamer she said, eyes of cloud and feet of lead *~ ~** NO i'm not O ~fucking~ K!! **~

12 Oct 08, 9:19 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs

djin_bleu wrote:
No, fondle myself ofcourse, the mere thought of fondling her highness would get me castrated, hung, shot, burned and castrated all over again!
I never need to fondle myself when someone says or does something sexy to me, little head has a tendency to pop up to see what the fuss is about!
Sometimes i do fiddle with my self and it gets me going!
How many times can one man be castrated?
You "fiddle" with yourself and it "gets you going"? Disgusting!!!
You make your cock sound like an engine that needs to be cranked to start it.

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

12 Oct 08, 9:20 PM
Red_Spark
UK, 2 yrs
I've never been interested in keeping a male in long-term chastity - I enjoy sex far too much and artificial substitutes just don't do it for me like the real thing! However, having said that, I do love the aesthetics of chastity belts - the appearance, and... I also love the idea of using it as a tease, keeping him locked up in a chastity belt and preferably also a cage, posture collar and other heavy ankle and wrist restraints while I enjoy playing with myself in full view for a while.
On a day to day basis I guess I can see the attraction as it helps to build anticipation of the time of release, and also the turn-on of knowing you have that much control, but it's something I'd only like to do occasionally - to add a bit of spice to an otherwise ordinary working day or week. In short, I'd prefer to use it as a device to, eventually, increase arousal rather than dissipate it. I don't see any point having a nice bloke if I'm not going to make good use of him.
Having said all that, if I did have another sub as well as my partner (a purely hypothetical situation as I am mono/exclusive and have no inclination to be otherwise), I may consider putting them into relatively long-term chastity to emphasise their secondary nature in the relationship and lack of permitted sexual contact.
"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you."

12 Oct 08, 9:31 PM
djin_bleu
UK(NW), 22 mths

Red_Spark wrote:
Having said all that, if I did have another sub as well as my partner (a purely hypothetical situation as I am mono/exclusive and have no inclination to be otherwise), I may consider putting them into relatively long-term chastity to emphasise their secondary nature in the relationship and lack of permitted sexual contact.
I can see the appeal of that side, the secondary nature to the relationship.
I tend to agree with a few of you that say it would kill any desire to serve and also produce a feeling of resentment so i guess as you say it's important to use the device sparingly.
*She who rides the Demon is afraid to dismount* ~* A hopeless dreamer she said, eyes of cloud and feet of lead *~ ~** NO i'm not O ~fucking~ K!! **~

12 Oct 08, 9:35 PM
slaveboy18uk
UK(RG), 4 mths
Y! I'd try it, but I'd get fustrated quickly and worry a little bit about the health consequences (ie, can you clean properly down there if there's plastic/steel in the way).

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