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| 19 Oct 08, 12:50 AM mini_velvet UK(EH), 6 yrs  |
can I opt out of that "us" please? thanks. No colours or shapes | |
| 19 Oct 08, 11:04 AM poutanaki UK(M), 9 yrs |
My preference is for a Dom/me of a similar age to myself. I tend to look for people 24-37, though I have dated younger. As others have said, age isn't hugely important, if I met someone fabulous who was older, it wouldn't matter how old they were. I just have never *clicked* in a romantic sense, thus far with anyone over 35. :-S Your so pretty when your on your knees. Disinfected, eager to please Edited 19 Oct 08, 11:11 AM by poutanaki | |
| 19 Oct 08, 11:07 AM witch_girl 3 yrs  |
Not about age diference , its about attitude difference for me. "He" could be 10 years younger or 10 years older if He possesses that attitude. Mentally people act different in different situations anyhow, I can act my shoe size or like some old dear depending on whats going on!!!! "I really want you to really want me, but I really dont know if you can do that" | |
| 19 Oct 08, 11:25 AM x_Raven_x UK(CR), 6 yrs |
Difficult one for me this because when I was younger I always preferred older guys, some guys I dated were a good 10-20yrs older than me, I liked their maturity. I did date guys my own age too, never younger though, guys my own age though always seemed so immature and childish. I did marry a guy my own age the first time and the second time my hubby was 10yrs older than me. Since being in my 40s though I do have a real thing about young guys, especially the really cute ones, the youngest I've ever seen being a good 25yrs my junior. Whilst I do enjoy these younger men from the point of view that they're really good to look at and I do enjoy corrupting them I can't see myself in a proper relationship with one, unless he's mature for his years. I do feel very protective of them too, perhaps never having kids means I tend to be quite motherly with them when I'm not making the most of their abilities that is. I am also still attracted to older guys, unfortunately most guys over 40-45 tend to let themselves go, they lose their hair, ok they can't help that fair enough, they just 9 times out of 10 look a good 10-20yrs older than their age and whilst I loved my grandad I never fancied him. I do like being with a grown up though, we have more in common and it's somehow easier to be with someone older than someone younger. Anyway in answer to the original question yes I've had a D/s thing with mostly younger guys and have enjoyed it and I dare say will continue to until Mr Right comes along, whatever age he might be. ETA: Preparing myself for the shooting down in flames from the older guys and also cus I hit the return key too soon to add this. Live your life in such a way that when
Your feet hit the floor in the morning,
Satan shudders and says:
"Oh Shit! She's Awake!" Edited 19 Oct 08, 11:27 AM by x_Raven_x | |
| 19 Oct 08, 12:55 PM mini_velvet UK(EH), 6 yrs |
Nobody's stopping you but please don't speak for everybody. Or is the "us" just you and your involved parties? No colours or shapes | |
| 19 Oct 08, 1:16 PM Kitti_Whitaker 5 yrs |
It matters to me on paper. In real life what matters is whether I like someone, so age doesnt come into it when playing. It would again if I wanted more than just pure play, because I need someone who wants the same things I want. (Many would go along with lots of things because they need a domme but I need someone who actually wants the same things I want, so age gap can be an issue there.) In general I prefer older men because there is more to them, I have met young men like that as well but they are rare. I find it difficult to divide age from the actual person, I only see people. Edited 19 Oct 08, 1:22 PM by Kitti_Whitaker | |
| 19 Oct 08, 1:46 PM BlondGuy101 UK(G), 3 yrs |
I find that age matters little to me as well (though that could be the desperation talking  ), but very often I fear that other people look down on me for not being older and not being serious of disposition. As much as I am apparently an old soul, I fear other people can't see past my youth and frequent silliness. I just really hope I don't have to relinquish my delight in things in order to become attractive. | |
| 19 Oct 08, 2:22 PM JudyInDsGuise UK(E), 8 yrs |
I keep reading this thread, and I'm trying to work out how the age thingie works for me. Is it because I don't find older men attractive? I mean, am I (subconsciously) sending out "go away" vibes so they don't approach me? Is it because I have a younger-than-my-years outlook, so older men don't find me attractive?
I don't intentionally look for younger men, but I haven't seriously dated anyone older than me since my teens, either vanilla or kinky. The occasional date with older men has always ended up as "just friends", as the connection isn't there (once the initial sex is out of the way Most of my partners have been 2-10 years younger than me, although I had a 4 year vanilla live-in relationship with a man 19 years younger - and my current Dominant is 23 years younger than me. Younger Daddies are fab <G> judy
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| 19 Oct 08, 2:37 PM LittleMissEvil UK(BR), 4 yrs |
hmm tis an interesting one, personaly at the moment i think i want some one about my own age give or take a few years. These are the people i feel most comftable with in a romantic setting. I think you can devide people up by their age and what they like and dislike, not in a bdsm sencse but in a whole general context. those 18-21ish tend to be more in to going out and having fun. 22-35 is when people tend to be more mature and start looking at life in a different way, and those 35+ tend to know what they like doing and can be set in their ways. Having dated people from every group i do feel more comftable with those more my age than older or younger, though its always flattering to have some one younger than you ask you out or flirt with you a bit.
Some people say i am evil, i have no idea why they think that. | |
| 19 Oct 08, 2:45 PM My_Girl 3 yrs |
Really doesn't make any difference to me as I don't age play. Not interested in having a 'daddy' or anything else that donates a difference in standing or age. Give me a 'Dom' that exudes masculinity, testosterone and complete dominance and I will be quite happy regardless of their age. PS: they have to be legal!!!!! Many a slip twixt cup and lip. |
). If I can't converse with them, or have a laugh, it's not working for me.
