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| 8 Oct 08, 10:25 PM Ghedes_Princess UK(SW), 5 yrs    |
I always would want my Dom to be older than me (preferably at least 10 years) but then I am still quite young, it might change when I am all old and there isn't anyone left who is older than me  hehexxx | |
| 8 Oct 08, 10:31 PM Miss_OL UK(YO), 6 yrs |
My subs have all been older than me, not necessarily a preference, just the way it has worked out. ~Put me on a pedestal, but be there to catch me if I fall~ | |
| 8 Oct 08, 10:36 PM IndelibleMarker UK(E), 6 yrs   |
I think to be honest I put some importance on age, but very little. Others seem to generally consider it far more of a factor than I do. Because of my age I'd say that the people who I've Dommed have tended to be older than me more often than not, in some cases substantially older than me (as in over 2x my years). Some older subs appear to find it very hot to be controlled by a young whipper snapper who's still wet behind the ears. Others seem to find it borderline offensive! Tuam matrem feci, Edited 8 Oct 08, 11:29 PM by IndelibleMarker | |
| 8 Oct 08, 10:48 PM Illuminated UK, 3 yrs |
Both my limited sub experience and my current Dom learning curve have been with/are with younger women. Generally though I'm drawn to older women when I have the urge or need to be submissive. | |
| 8 Oct 08, 10:49 PM antolico UK(SL), 5 yrs |
I Have no preference. The important is the relationship quality and the confidence between both.
Kind regards.
Antonio,
Antonio Eduardo Lico | |
| 9 Oct 08, 2:20 AM angelskij UK(NR), 4 yrs |
I do think most Dominants tend to be older than their subs, especially male Doms and fem subs it seems. I don't think the age gap necessarily makes a D/s relationship any more successful though, it all depends on the skill of the Dominant and whether they're well matched to their subs.
I suppose an age gap can be useful if you're going to do roleplay based around that.
Personally speaking I've always tried to be open minded regarding a Dominants age whenever I've found myself single and looking for a Domme. I do think it's important though to have something in common and to be able to relate to the person you're going to submit to, so it might be difficult to have that kind of connection with someone who is say more than 10 years younger than me. Plus they're unlikely to have as good a taste in music as I have. Once it was just innocence, brash ideas and insolence, but you will never get away with the things you say today | |
| 9 Oct 08, 8:13 AM The_Fox UK(EX), 4 yrs |
I prefer to take older play partners, and in general I get on better with people who are 35 plus in my every day life. But it's all about chemistry and if a guy closer to my age came along and we clicked then the years wouldn't be an issue. I have had a couple of very nice potential play partners who put me off completely by suggesting that my younger years added to the humiliation factor and I just don't think of it like that!! | |
| 9 Oct 08, 8:24 AM saraUK UK(W), 10 yrs |
If I am brutally honest, yes age does figure in things for me to a certain extent. I'd obviously never play with anyone under 18, but now I am the ripe old age of 46, I have kind of set myself upper and lower age limits of 35 - 55. When I was younger, I used to go for the older man. Now I tend to prefer around my own age. I have played with guys a bit younger than me, and had one partner who was about 10 years younger. As I am advancing in years now, I don't like to go too much older than myself. As others have said though, age isn't the be all and end all of it. If I found a guy who was 34 who was Dominant towards me and pushed all the right buttons in the right order, then his 'sell by date' wouldn't be an issue. The only thing I do find is that in general (but not always) the older guys have more experience, and the younger ones are wanting to learn. Having spent quite a bit of time 'teaching' younger guys, I now want to have some fun for myself and be 'taught' rather than teaching (if that makes sense).
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| 9 Oct 08, 8:33 AM redflamephoenix 5 yrs |
I've never gone for younger guys, even before I realised I was kinky! When I was 16/17, the average age of a guy I'd be dating would be 25 ish. I always found going out with guys my own age to be akin to babysitting! I've had a few disasters that now go in the "I was young and stupid, they were old enough to have known better" box, but I'm glad I experienced those because they both taught me valuable lessons. Now, I'm 2 1/2 years into a fab relationship with Sir - He's 10 1/2 years older than me, not that we notice the age gap! He often forgets that the stuff he watched on TV as a kid wouldn't have been on when I was a kid, etc etc. In my opinion it all boils down to mental attitude for me. And obviously how you click together.... Just my 2p! "Being submissive may have put rope on my body, but it has released my soul from bondage" |
