Where Do I begin? (6)

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Mon 6 Oct 08, 2:42 PM
Badboy2
UK(LS), 3 yrs

I am new to this site, and found it educational to say the least. I want to succumb to my urges, I want to learn to be dominant and satisfy what I know i want, but yet it is so difficult to find like minded people who are either tolerant of me learning, or willing to give me a chance. But I won't let this deter me....Any advice that you can give, will be gratefully received.

This is probably the hardest thing i have done. I know deep down this is what I want to do, the urge to be dominant, to display my abilities and to live this. But where do I begin? Its not the easiest thing to find the people who either will allow me to satisfy my urges, or willing to let me learn as I go alo

6 Oct 08, 2:51 PM
Beelzee
UK(SE), 12 yrs

Putting more things in your profile about yourself, what you're looking for, what you like to do and don't, etc, etc. That would be a good place to start.

"It's not who I am underneath, but what I do, that defines me." The Batman

6 Oct 08, 3:17 PM
Jahc99
UK, 5 yrs

saraxx wrote:
The more people you talk to and get to know, the greater your chances of finding what you are seeking.

Very true - you may well be able to find people to help show you the ropes and all that as well. But remember, safety issues aside, there is no one right way, it's a matter of developing your own style.

I second the profile writting too - it's a great form of introspection, examining what you are really into. And remember, patience is the lubricant for success!

ETA: Welcome aboard fella.

Now go and tell an egg how to suck granny.

Edited 6 Oct 08, 3:21 PM by Jahc99

6 Oct 08, 3:20 PM
Little_Miss_Shy
UK(PO), 4 yrs

Make some friends, message people and read the boards is a great way to start.

And I third the profile re-write And welcome to the mad house!

* Honesty is the best policy *

6 Oct 08, 3:34 PM
Snakehips
9 yrs

Writing that 'I know you won't give me a second thought' is massively unappealing. People generally warm to cheerier folk.

6 Oct 08, 4:44 PM
ropeburn
10 yrs

saraxx wrote:
Probably the best way is to go along to a local munch or two. It is not the be all and end all (one was enough for me), but it is a good way of getting to know people.

The more people you talk to and get to know, the greater your chances of finding what you are seeking.

I'm a complete cynic regarding munches. I say get yourself to some good busy clubs and socialise. Munches are generally just a dozen or so folk you'll either click with or be bored senseless by. At a busy club you'll find a wider spectrum of folk and more potential to meet people you fancy and get on with. Better still step outside your comfort zone regarding your local club and pub scene, there are plenty of 'kinky' people out there and much more chance for finding someone you like than on the 'scene'. Poly sexual, gay friendly, local venues are particularly good places to try IMO.

9 Oct 08, 1:51 PM
RopeTopUK
UK(N), 3 yrs

I would change the tone of your profile, make it sound a bit more confident. It's good to be honest about being inexperienced, but you can still put a positive spin on things. Emphasize what you are interested in trying.

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