fetish and swinging....do the two meet anywhere ? (86)

This post is on the Other BDSM web board.

Tue 23 Sep 08, 9:27 PM
DJ_phil_draper
UK, 7 mths
Just that really, a simple question i think,
Should swingers fire on a bit of a risky outfit and then go to a normal fetish night in a club and expect or do what swingers do ?
i kind of think never the twain shall meet.
discuss.
I AM THE LAW !
WWW.MYSPACE.COM/PHILDRAPER

23 Sep 08, 9:33 PM
notdesperate
UK, 4 mths personally i think swinger just fuck, now there's nothing in that. My D/s proves that less is actually more, Fetish clubs in my opinion, and many might diagree and you're entitled to, but fetish clubs are generally more erotic, and can have an atmosphere............
fuck it i can't explain
i agree with you

23 Sep 08, 9:36 PM
Masters_Delight
UK(WD), 20 mths

DJ_phil_draper wrote:
fetish and swinging....do the two meet anywhere ?
Just that really, a simple question i think,
Should swingers fire on a bit of a risky outfit and then go to a normal fetish night in a club and expect or do what swingers do ?
i kind of think never the twain shall meet.
discuss.
Surely swingers would only go to a fetish night if they were into fetish stuff also. If i was a swinger i know i wouldnt go to a fetish night if i wasnt into this kind of stuff.

Dont drink water, fish have sex in it.x

23 Sep 08, 9:39 PM
Lady_Lucan
UK(L), 15 mths
Aren't swinging encounters too casual to accrue the levels of trust/revelation needed for BDSM?

23 Sep 08, 9:40 PM
DJ_phil_draper
UK, 7 mths
hearing you. but thinking maybe swingers fire on a bit of a corset ect ect and think yep be loads of "action" for us at "that" type of night...
and re trust, plenty of people go to a fetish night and end up in the dungeon with someone they have met that night, so dont think that will put them off,
more of a "should swingers be allowed to go and do thee stuff ect at a fetish night" question i guess
I AM THE LAW !
WWW.MYSPACE.COM/PHILDRAPER

Edited 23 Sep 08, 9:42 PM by DJ_phil_draper

23 Sep 08, 9:47 PM
rope_bunny
UK(IP), 11 mths

DJ_phil_draper wrote:
more of a "should swingers be allowed to go and do thee stuff ect at a fetish night" question i guess
I was at a club (hosts fet and swinger nights) fairly recently when a swinging couple came in. pretty much vanilla dress code, sat on the edge of the round bed thing and fucked.
Most people ignored them, and those that had occasion to look just wondered why they were there.
Having said that, *we* left them to it, but the girl wandered into a scene with a sub strug up and clearly in some kind of alternate reality and asked "can i lick her?" mid-scene.
I think there CAN be an overlap, but i think it wont happen to a great degree for the most part.
bunny

"That didn't hurt. That didn't hurt. That didn't hurt. That hurt! (Do it again)" ~*~ "It's like she doesn't need other people to define who she is; she already knows."

23 Sep 08, 9:53 PM
Lady_Lucan
UK(L), 15 mths
I'd really enjoy the opportunity to use my sub(s) sexually at a D/s night, but I wouldn't want to swing, so I guess I'm caught between two stools there.

23 Sep 08, 9:54 PM
LovingHusband
UK, 6 mths
My partner and I have been happily merging swinging with D/s for almost ten years. We have never felt a conflict. Swinging is part of D/s for us.

LovingHusband
"Anyone who makes someone else doubt the foundations of his morals has not lived in vain." Marguerite Duras.

23 Sep 08, 9:55 PM
Lady_Lucan
UK(L), 15 mths

LovingHusband wrote:
My partner and I have been happily merging swinging with D/s for almost ten years. We have never felt a conflict. Swinging is part of D/s for us.
Can you elaborate a little on how that works in practice?
Cheers, L.

23 Sep 08, 10:00 PM
Mistress_Susannah
UK(SE), 3 yrs
£ Y!

Lady_Lucan wrote:
I'd really enjoy the opportunity to use my sub(s) sexually at a D/s night, but I wouldn't want to swing, so I guess I'm caught between two stools there.
I'm pretty much in the same camp as you. It's nice to play a little more sexually in public, but I'm not really into swinging per say. It's often quite difficult to find a fetish club where sexual play is allowed, although I understand the reasons - I often get very frustrated!

www.mistresssusannah.co.uk Sessioning in Leeds Sept 14th - mid Nov 2008.

23 Sep 08, 10:00 PM
SubGreedyGirl
UK(E), 3 yrs
Y!
I wouldn't go to a fetish club and expect to 'swing', just as I wouldn't go to a swingers club and expect to have BDSM involved.
I know a guy who has been into both BDSM and swinging for 20 years, and has swingers and BDSM parties, but does not mix then, as he said that 'nilla people didn't 'get' the BDSM side, and were often freaked out seeing a women (or guys) being slapped about/ humiliated etc.
I think a mixture of both would be pretty cool personally..

Next page


	©1997-2009 Informed Consent