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| 6 Nov 08, 2:15 PM Souci_X UK(BA), 5 yrs   |
Many reasons, I need rules i like to know where my boundries are, if i dont then i tend to step over them. I like to know that if i piss my partner off they will tell me so, that it will be dealt with and then forgotten not cherished in a big ball of bitterness and left to stew. I am rubbish at making decisions or becoming motivated if it were up to me id probably never do anything. I have always looked for relationships where i get to make a differance, where I can make my partner happy, problem is many people dont like that and sometimes what people want is fairly hidden. This way i can indulge in doing things for other people all the time. Its pretty selfish really. It just works for me, it fits me very well. |
| 6 Nov 08, 2:32 PM Sirs_Froglet UK(S), 3 yrs |
It's taken me some time to realise that I feel incomplete without being allowed to submit to another. It feels neglectful of myself and ignorant of a part of myself that is important to make me happy. I need to feel protected, feminine and adored and a part of that for me is to feel the boundaries of a relationship, to know that they are there and to know that there are consequences to crossing them. It makes me feel safe. Importantly, I have a desire to make the other person in my life happy. I want to be able to show my complete trust in them and for them to be able to have everything they want, and to be able to provide it for them. |
| 6 Nov 08, 2:33 PM smallwitch UK, 4 yrs |
I am not sure yet how submissive I am, but at the moment I would say that now and then something has clicked in, not really a direct choice as such, (although obviously at some level) more a physical reaction. I feel very serene afterwards and very intensely in the moment at the time..
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| 6 Nov 08, 2:54 PM twisted_kitty UK(OX), 4 yrs |
I can relate to what most have stated before me. I have a need to submit, I crave it but i find it very hard offering my submission, he helps me a great deal with this. I find letting go of the control difficult but he gentely prizes my hands from the reigns and takes over. I enjoy making sure he is happy. In return he never lets me down takes care of me and is always honest. Somedays I feel a burning sensation to please to be used and hurt. A need to be small, weak and less than. I feel very passive utterly submissive. I don't know what triggers this. Other days I am very feisty and he has take whats his. It's not rape. Its him over powering me, taking whats his. The harder i fight the more intence and sexy things get. I always end up alot more bruised and bitten. The feeling of being broken to the point of tears to me is very erotic. I have stopped trying to make sense of it ... it is just how I am!! Life is a biatch ... fuck her dont take her too seriously but love her with all your heart! |
| 6 Nov 08, 3:11 PM naughty_chicken 4 yrs |
It wouldnt work if you didnt feel it was right or that the person you submit to didnt deserve your submission. The respect that I have for my big bad domme makes submitting such a natural course to take. If the respect wasnt there neither would be a kneeling delphian. |
| 6 Nov 08, 3:16 PM Masters_Delight UK(WD), 5 yrs |
Submitting, hmmmmmmmm *strokes chin ponderingly*
I hate to admit this but i only submit when i want to or maybe that should be, i only enjoy submitting when i submit because i want to. Does that make it submitting still? Or is that a kind of topping from the bottom? Only submitting when i allow myself too? I haven't got a clue! I am not a 100% submissive, it is a massive failing, at least it seems that way to me. Im not one of the born submissives that you read so much about. I find it very hard to submit, Sir has to work really hard to get me too. Its almost like, when i do, i begrudge it, i don't but it sometimes feels like that to me. If i do something i want to do it because I want to, not because i am being told to.
Im still new to all this really. I have been on IC for, i think, 19 months and my joining here was a big step in my life. A brand new experience. Sir, my first Dom, alot of firsts with Sir actually. Im so fucking fabulous, i piss glitter. |
| 6 Nov 08, 4:30 PM Needy_Pickle 4 yrs |
I don't really know why I enjoy being Submissive. I do know that anytime I have tried to dominate it has been a complete and utter turn-off. The feeling of being: punished, use, abused, called a tart or slut, is just a complete and utter turn-on!!! C |
| 6 Nov 08, 4:37 PM x_flaire_x UK(OX), 10 yrs |
Why submit? 1. I find immense satisfaction in serving another. 2. It gives me purpose. 3. The home runs better. 4. I'm happier. 5. It makes me complete. 6. It seriously gives me the horn. 7. I need rules and boundaries.
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| 6 Nov 08, 8:17 PM moodstar 3 yrs |
The consensual removal of control can be intoxicating. As a sub with limited experience, for me the reversal of my general personality's polarity is exciting. I don't have a hard or fast answer to why I like to submit, I know it feels good, and thats a good start. One thing I do understand though, it is not escapism from my day-to-day, more domiant persona, it just sits alongside. Better to have discovered it late than to not have discovered it at all. |
I do think that i haven't been able to get to grips with the submitting on demand because Sir and i only see each other at w/ends so there is never enough time to get into it. There is always other stuff going on so to have Sir all of a sudden go into Dom mode it throws me a bit and i don't want to let go of who i am at that moment and then it becomes a battle of wills. See i said i wasn't a born submissive. Does that make me any less of a submissive? I do worry about this alot. 
