Gay advice (8)

Posted by sweetsurrender1 on Tue 9 Sep 08, 4:11 PM to sweetsurrender1's blog.

Ok, believe me if this seems weird to you then imagine how it is for me!!! LOL

I'm at my brothers and his life partner. They know i am "in the scene" but have never really delved into it with me.

Today they have asked my advice on where 2 gay men, who do not want any other partners, can go to learn more about "the scene" without feeling like total prats and complete novices. They are not sure what, if anything, they are into but want to explore and see for themselves. I have suggested that i take them to events but my brother feels this may be a bit too weird as i'm his kid sister.

They live in Blackpool and don't have transport so would need good public transport links.

Can anyone advise please?

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9 Sep 08, 4:15 PM
Forsaken1
UK, 7 yrs

Why not get in touch with DT I'm sure he could help.

Damien x

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9 Sep 08, 4:16 PM
JudyInDsGuise
UK(E), 9 yrs

I'm not sure what being gay has to do with it? If they want to learn techniques, or what's "out there", they can find out just as much from heterosexual people. Therefore the usual advice about munches/clubs/reading applies.

judy

9 Sep 08, 4:27 PM
sweetsurrender1
BE, 6 yrs

I think that the whole idea is to find like minded friends. They are gay, they enjoy gay company. They feel more comfortable learning from people much like themselves. Thats not to say they wouldn't go to mixed events, of course they would, but for this forage into the unknown they just feel more comfortable with other gay men.

JudyInDsGuise wrote:
I'm not sure what being gay has to do with it? If they want to learn techniques, or what's "out there", they can find out just as much from heterosexual people. Therefore the usual advice about munches/clubs/reading applies.

judy

9 Sep 08, 4:29 PM
JudyInDsGuise
UK(E), 9 yrs

sweetsurrender1 wrote:
I think that the whole idea is to find like minded friends. They are gay, they enjoy gay company. They feel more comfortable learning from people much like themselves. Thats not to say they wouldn't go to mixed events, of course they would, but for this forage into the unknown they just feel more comfortable with other gay men.

Ah I understand now, thanks! Sorry I can't be of any help, but hopefully someone will be able to advise.

judy

9 Sep 08, 4:31 PM
MisterBear
UK(WA), 8 yrs

Well there's IC, the Blackpool Munch, the Preston Munch and everything that's going on in Manchester. Munches should be ok to go to with a little sister, it's clubs where playing goes on that can be somewhat uncomfortable, but tend to be the places where family members seem to bump into each other.

Ahh if they are looking for the gay kink scene then I don't have much idea. But I guess Manchester might be a good place to ask around. They do have the SM Dykes events, not sure about any male side to such activities though.

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Edited 9 Sep 08, 4:32 PM by MisterBear

9 Sep 08, 5:03 PM
sweetsurrender1
BE, 6 yrs

Forsaken1 wrote:
Why not get in touch with DT I'm sure he could help.

Damien x

LOL, when i showed them DTs profile i think it scared them to death!!! BTW, they are now members of IC but can't post for 7 days so i can say what i like

9 Sep 08, 5:31 PM
bohnanza
UK(FK), 12 yrs

There is a gay BDSM scene in Manchester separate from the straight one. They would get off to a good start by e-mailing the people at MUD in Manchester. They will know what is happening and whom to contact.

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9 Sep 08, 5:34 PM
sweetsurrender1
BE, 6 yrs

bohnanza wrote:
There is a gay BDSM scene in Manchester separate from the straight one. They would get off to a good start by e-mailing the people at MUD in Manchester. They will know what is happening and whom to contact.

Thankyou, i'll pass it on