What is "switching"? (16)

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chartreuse
Posted by chartreuse on Tue 2 Sep 08, 12:37 PM

I had a very interesting conversation, earlier today, with a Dom and it has led to a train of thought which has caused me to question what my style of switching is.

For the purposes of this blog I am only going to relate to the sexual part of me.

My mind is dominant... I like to control, I also like to please - both in my domination and my submission.

My body has desires and as long as it receives what it desires (sexually) it is satisfied.

I think that my style of switching is not to give my mind but to give my body and in doing that I am relinquishing control of the part of my mind that is sexual - by allowing someone to do to me the things that they wish to do, knowing that those things are also what I desire.

I see no possibility of my mind being controlled 24/7 by someone other than me, nor do I see my body being totally satisfied with doing what someone else wants it to do all the time. I enjoy both taking and giving - though they may not both be with the same person.

The dynamic between two people may not be one that would permit me to be both dominant and submissive within that one relationship, however, both of my desires (sexually dominant and submissive) need to be sated... though not both at the same time.

If I am in control I remain in control of every part of a sub (mind and body) - if I am sexually submissive to someone I remain sexually submissive to them.

I own my mind and I like to be in control... but I also sometimes need someone who can do with me things that they know I enjoy without being told what to do.

My mind, however, will always be mine.

*Edited to clarify a few points.*

Edited Tue 2 Sep 08, 12:57 PM by chartreuse

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2 Sep 08, 12:55 PM
Jahc99
UK, 2 yrs

You might like this thread on fet life: Save me from binary thinking!
ETA: And this one: http://fetlife.com/groups/34/group_posts/7514

Now go and tell an egg how to suck granny.
Edited 2 Sep 08, 1:00 PM by Jahc99

2 Sep 08, 1:10 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs

Jahc99 wrote:
You might like this thread on fet life: Save me from binary thinking!
ETA: And this one: http://fetlife.com/groups/34/group_posts/7514

Thank you... I have just read them both and they make a lot of sense to me.
I was asked how it is possible to be both Domme and sub and I struggled to explain it. I am what I am, I desire what I desire - sometimes I desire to be taken and sometimes I desire to do the taking. I adore controlling the mind of some and not of others but I won't submit to things I don't desire just to please someone else.

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

2 Sep 08, 1:17 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs
Some people may say that if my mind is not controlled then I am not a switch... say what they will, I have no idea what else to call it and a label really isn't required - I am an individual.
"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

2 Sep 08, 1:21 PM
Original_Rebel
UK(CT), 7 yrs

chartreuse wrote:
Some people may say that if my mind is not controlled then I am not a switch... say what they will, I have no idea what else to call it and a label really isn't required - I am an individual.
You are who you are and you do what you want because it is what you want....what else do you need
"No wise man ever wished to be younger." Jonathan Swift Irish essayist, novelist, & satirist (1667 - 1745)

2 Sep 08, 1:26 PM
Jahc99
UK, 2 yrs

chartreuse wrote:
Some people may say that if my mind is not controlled then I am not a switch... say what they will, I have no idea what else to call it and a label really isn't required - I am an individual.
But who ever said there is just one kind of switching?
It's hard to express, though some of the comments in the binary thinking one are very good. I don't cease being a dominant when I submit. I don't cease being Master of my own mind either. But I am willing and able to place that at the feet of another, for her to use as she sees fit. And she would be the first to tell you I am not yer average submissive, but that's just me. I do know the pleasures of surrendering my body and soul, through service and control, and the deep joys of subspace. I am just that kind of dominant guy.
Now go and tell an egg how to suck granny.

2 Sep 08, 1:41 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs
A thought forms in the mind... when that thought leaves the lips and floats through the ether into the ears of the recipient it depends on the mind of that recipient as to whether it is understood or not.
To some people it's as though I'm speaking a foreign language and they fail to capture the thought in the same state as it was despatched.
Sometimes, the confusion is not caused by the mind a thought leaves but the mind into which that thought is delivered.
"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

2 Sep 08, 1:47 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs

esstosea wrote:
You are who you are and you do what you want because it is what you want....what else do you need
*Shrugs shoulders*... nothing!

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

2 Sep 08, 1:55 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs

Jahc99 wrote:
But who ever said there is just one kind of switching?
It's hard to express, though some of the comments in the binary thinking one are very good. I don't cease being a dominant when I submit. I don't cease being Master of my own mind either. But I am willing and able to place that at the feet of another, for her to use as she sees fit. And she would be the first to tell you I am not yer average submissive, but that's just me. I do know the pleasures of surrendering my body and soul, through service and control, and the deep joys of subspace. I am just that kind of dominant guy.

No switch ever questions what another switch feels/wants... they understand. It's the one's who feel there is no room for "swithcraft" that need to dig, delve and interrogate.
All I can say is what I feel; what I know about myself but, to those who believe it isn't possible to both give and take I pose a question... isn't it possible for us all to be capable of both?
I have taken subs to subspace but I have never experienced it and I would like to - but not with just anyone.

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."
Edited 2 Sep 08, 2:01 PM by chartreuse

2 Sep 08, 2:00 PM
Original_Rebel
UK(CT), 7 yrs

chartreuse wrote:
I have taken subs to subspace but I have never experienced it and I would like to - but not with just anyone.

Have you experienced Domme space?
"No wise man ever wished to be younger." Jonathan Swift Irish essayist, novelist, & satirist (1667 - 1745)

2 Sep 08, 2:02 PM
chartreuse
UK(BA), 2 yrs

esstosea wrote:

chartreuse wrote:
I have taken subs to subspace but I have never experienced it and I would like to - but not with just anyone.

Have you experienced Domme space?
I don't know... what is it?
If it's a feeling of total and complete control/power over someone then.... Yes, I have.

"Truth is stranger than fiction."
"It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for who you are not."

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