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| 18 Aug 08, 12:34 PM Raegan 5 yrs |
I do think it's a great idea, I'm just not sure how practical it would be. Realistically, do you think those type of people would show up? I don't care who you are... I'm not giving you my spoons. | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 12:46 PM silvercat UK, 10 yrs  |
At some point these newbies will still have to face the rest of the big bad world at a usual munch. They can't stay new forever. So why not mingle from the start and talk to people who are experienced. We were all new once so can empathise.
I have never seen any newbies ignored at any of the munches I attend so why not jump straight in. You can only perceive real beauty in a person as they get older. Anouk Aimee | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 2:59 PM AlNxee 4 yrs |
In the last few months we had our first visit at some NW munches. Chester is next this Wednesday (and has been given advance warning, Leeds had better watch itself!) Not a clue if there's enough people in any NW area for a new munch, but I did find the bewildering array of munch options in Manchester a bit off putting. On all occasions we have been offered early meeting and greeting as well as advance phone calls, emails and introductions, depending on the venue. Some munches were open and welcoming, we met several new people and had a blast. Others were very difficult to get into, as people were already very much in their own groups. This was regardless of venue, one month was great then the same munch next month, very hard to break into. Luckily we always attend as a couple, so have each other to talk with. (it helps that one of us is rather mouthy when nervous, so will happily pester people who would probably rather be talking to old friends) Breaking into a new social group is never easy, regardless of how much support is available. So far, we have found exactly what we expected, people are people everywhere, some warm and welcoming, some rude and clique orientated. For the most part our experience over the last couple of months has been overwhelmingly positive, as our increasingly hectic social calendar proves. Thank you to those of you who after knowing us for such a short time, have already invited us on days out, to parties and even into your own homes. As a couple who knew at least one other person locally this has been easier than it would be for someone single and not knowing anyone. At one munch we saw a single male sub welcomed, talked to for a very short time, then ignored for the rest of the munch as the greeter(s) talked to friends. It seems that the biggest advantage as a new person was having committed and attentive greeters on the day, volunteers in that role and doing it well is what helped most. Xena | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 3:04 PM Mrs_Smith 6 yrs |
nooooooooooooo, is that possible
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| 18 Aug 08, 3:18 PM bohnanza UK(FK), 12 yrs  |
Who is going to run a new person's munch? And how many times can you go before being chucked out for not being new any more? Science, the only religion that works even if you don't believe in it. | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 3:24 PM Temuchin UK(M), 11 yrs |
Wouldn't the mere existence of a newbies munch actually create a worse impression of the other munches? In that newbies would THINK munches are so scary there HAS to be kindergarten munch and put them off even more? We have two ears and one mouth, thats because we are meant to use them in those proportions | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 3:28 PM Rhoobarb UK(FK), 12 yrs |
We have often said to people that if they are nervous about going to a munch they should get there as early as they can after it starts. That way there are fewer people to meet, (fewer names to remember) you can sit where you like and get to know a few people calmly before the influx of regulars happens. http://desocialized.com/ | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 3:41 PM Mrs_Smith 6 yrs |
That is what is suggested for the Manchester Munch. | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 4:37 PM Master_Geoffuk UK(PE), 6 yrs |
Agree Ex
We at the Manchester Spanko's Munch also have newbies each month and have no problem accommodating them.
I think we have something for everyone at the moment.
MG Master_Geoffuk Strength and Honour I never turn an upturned female bottom down | ||
| 18 Aug 08, 5:01 PM chico_martinez CA, 5 yrs |
I would guess proposing this munch is a way of gaining a little bit of the confidence you at first found lacking when you were first a newbie and still occasionally do. And whether it was percieved to be a good idea or not, well done for having the balls to put yourself in the firing line Onward and upward our kid. "Is that an armed respnse team in my garden?" said Little Red Riding Hood. |
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