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| 18 Aug 08, 7:09 PM Mistress_Hypatia UK, 5 yrs  |
Why is the fact that the lady is 63 even relevant? Either a) she is mentally competent, and mentally kinky, and can therefore embark on a BDSM relationship with anyone she hits it off with, with due regard for any physical problems she may have (and physical problems of pretty nearly any description are not a bar to a BDSM relationship - you just have to take the problems into account regarding what you do). or b) she is not mentally competent, and therefore there are a whole bucketload of issues to worry over and you're probably best keeping clear, in a purely self-protecting way or c) she is not kinky, but instead thinks that this would be a cheap way of getting help around the house. In which case, steer clear, no question. It is worth remembering that having someone in to 'do' for you, does not make them a 'carer'. I have cleaners in - does that mean that I'm not competent to have a BDSM relationship? There is a big difference between 'carer' and 'domestic service engineer', or whatever the current term is for someone who cleans the loo because you can't bend down as well as you used to (or, because you've lived long enough, and got enough money, that now you can afford to pay someone else to do it). The only worry I would have in this situation is that the lady has a false expectation of what a BDSM Mistress/slave relationship is, and would provide. She is probably best off dipping a toe in the BDSM scene (if she is kinky) on general principles, but at the same time finding her domestic help through another route. That way, if she does find the help on the BDSM scene, she can integrate this slowly, and build a strong relationship without having to worry about the rate of build-up of limescale in the sink. --A lady is never offensive... by accident.-- | |
| 18 Aug 08, 8:09 PM pain4pleasure 6 yrs  |
Well I would say that if she has managed to make it through life for 60 odd years she can, pretty much, look after herself and as someone has already said on here it sounds like she knows that she wants. I think your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to assist her with your experience of the scene, put her on IC to take a look at whats available and let her decide for herself. Anyway if she is looking for a sub she's most likely a dominant personality so will rapidly take control of the situation herself. | |
| 18 Aug 08, 8:42 PM page_boy UK(CR), 6 yrs |
You mention on your profile that you have two subs at your beck and call. One is you live in slave and knows your neighbour and therefore not appropriate, but what about the other one, could this one not be lent out? As someone else has mentioned is it handy man or sub she is looking for. I would recommend a different approach for the two different roles. Yu might find a handy man who is a sub and you should be able to find a sub who is handy. | |
| 18 Aug 08, 8:48 PM Judge_Judy 5 yrs |
Seems to me that she is just looking for a way to get work done for free and if that is her real motivation wanting to get into the D/s thing then she should be discouraged, strongly. get over yourself Edited 18 Aug 08, 9:01 PM by Judge_Judy | |
| 18 Aug 08, 8:58 PM Mad_Monk UK(BH), 4 yrs |
If your neighbour is bored by the prospect of mere striplings, then I may have found the perfect sub for her. "He took a single sip of her pain and found it exquisite" Edited 18 Aug 08, 8:59 PM by Mad_Monk | |
| 18 Aug 08, 9:54 PM Charless UK(WC), 11 yrs |
Since when did the ability to think for oneself affect the present, nanny government's stance that one should not be allowed to? |
