Dom/me picking out your clothes (95)

Tue 5 Aug 08, 1:41 PM
sezoswitch
UK, 13 mths So lets assume that your Dom/me has been stating what s/he likes the sub to wear when its playtime. It could be rubber, pvc, uniforms etc.
But how would you feel when they want to decide what you where everyday outside of those private scenes together. Would you feel happy that they want to extend their dominance over you to your vanilla life, or would you be upset/hurt/angry that they want to dominate you outside of it? When clothing is an expression of who you are to the world, would it be ok for you to wear things that you wouldnt dream of wearing i.e a girl that usually wears jeans and pumps, to be asked to wear skirts and heels. Would you be happy in making that shift from bedroom fashion to 24/7 wearing clothes that only the Dom/me wants you to wear?
I feel i've answered my own question but any thoughts folks?

5 Aug 08, 1:42 PM
P_and_s
2 yrs My Master picks all my clothes, be it vanilla or fetish clothing.
It is good that we have the same taste.
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5 Aug 08, 1:47 PM
Marmite
UK(CB), 2 yrs
I put my boys clothes out for him to wear just as I do my son's. It is kinda our way of kinkin' it nilla stylee
Shows him who wears the trousers even when we're not actively scening.
Plus he likes it when I exchange his godawful under-attire for some of my more frilly wear
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5 Aug 08, 1:52 PM
joanie
UK, 3 yrs
Morphia and I share clothes, we have similar tastes in clothes, so its not a problem. Its not something she has asked me to do, we just do.
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5 Aug 08, 1:58 PM
sub_serena
UK(WA), 7 mths

sezoswitch wrote:
Dom/me picking out your clothes
So lets assume that your Dom/me has been stating what s/he likes the sub to wear when its playtime. It could be rubber, pvc, uniforms etc.
But how would you feel when they want to decide what you where everyday outside of those private scenes together. Would you feel happy that they want to extend their dominance over you to your vanilla life, or would you be upset/hurt/angry that they want to dominate you outside of it? When clothing is an expression of who you are to the world, would it be ok for you to wear things that you wouldnt dream of wearing i.e a girl that usually wears jeans and pumps, to be asked to wear skirts and heels. Would you be happy in making that shift from bedroom fashion to 24/7 wearing clothes that only the Dom/me wants you to wear?
I feel i've answered my own question but any thoughts folks?
my first D/s relationship was earlier this year and while i craved his dominance over me ,he told me what to wear ,i was not allowed to wear nail varnish and makeup and i also was TOLD to get my haircut off (had 10 inches cut) ..in hindsight ,i would not repeat this as i feel i have to maintain what makes me ,well me!!
i am obediant and will submit to the right Dom/Domme...but not to that extreme again..xx

5 Aug 08, 2:14 PM
Miss_Lead
UK(E), 2 yrs£
I have been slowly changing the way my sub dresses as I wish her to improve herself - it is all about growth, not that I do not like her the way she is.
She obeys as she likes being controlled and I would only do with her what I think is for her and our growth. Why wouldn't a sub wish to please their owner?
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5 Aug 08, 2:23 PM
ladyjayne
UK(M), 5 yrs
Bikerbutch on occasion chooses my clothes, it's not so much choosing the exact outfit, and telling me he wants me to wear a particular piece of clothing and then I have to build an outfit around that, which then has to get his approval..
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5 Aug 08, 2:48 PM
syndee
UK, 2 yrs

sezoswitch wrote:
Would you feel happy that they want to extend their dominance over you to your vanilla life, or would you be upset/hurt/angry that they want to dominate you outside of it?
Strangely this isn't an issue. I really hated it at first, but got over myself in a week. (And here syndee bites her tongue and tries hard not to comment on how silly and incredibly irritating it is when people expect you to be wearing clothing that you don't have.)

sezoswitch wrote:
would it be ok for you to wear things that you wouldnt dream of wearing i.e a girl that usually wears jeans and pumps, to be asked to wear skirts and heels.
I went through a lusting afterjeans period and got withdrawals I guess. I was extremely shocked one morning after having stayed at someone's house and I realised that the person's sub was allowed to wear jeans and I got a bit blubbery on the way home, but other than that it's been okay.

sezoswitch wrote:
Would you be happy in making that shift from bedroom fashion to 24/7 wearing clothes that only the Dom/me wants you to wear?
Yeah but he can't be arsed and quite frankly I don't blame him as he'd need a tube map and a flashlight to find his way around my wardrobe; he'd get lost.
edited to say actually I realise what I did there- I said "was allowed to wear jeans" when in fact there were no clothing rules in place. It's a concept that I live with and it's really difficult to understand not living with. So I was shocked cos I thought stupidly that all tops made clothing rules for their subs (how stoopit am I- I know) and then I wanted to wear jeans too- but I do have a pair of jeans which are completely crap but I might wear if I asked nicely and I went to selfridges to get that naked body bum/leg scan thing with a view to having a proper pair of jeans made but forgot to follow it up.
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Edited 5 Aug 08, 2:58 PM by syndee

5 Aug 08, 2:53 PM
FetishJess
UK(BN), 2 yrs
The only requests I have ever had is to wear stockings (I do mostly anyway) and to either wear knickers or not depending on the guy. I think I could go down the clothes choosing route but only if they were sensible about it. I can't go to work in a PVC mini skirt, no knickers and a corset...
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5 Aug 08, 4:11 PM
northernwench
UK, 3 yrs
Really, really works for me in my relationship. Love wearing stuff he chooses - my wardrobe has changed massively in past few months.
Even when apart,I love to dress in something he likes, and let him know - I can't explain why it turns me on so much, but it does, in bucketfuls.
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5 Aug 08, 4:15 PM
jokelme
2 yrs she hates high street shopping but she'll happily drag me into clother / suit / latex shops to try and dress me up / down but I am drawing the line at man bags
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