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on Wed 23 Jul 08, 1:00 AM to DKLeather's blog.
So I'm sat, yesterday morning, in the doctors surgery waiting room. It's a busy morning and the waiting times are long. Naturally I'm surrounded by the merry (though presumably poorly) folk of Chesterfield; men, women and children. I'm sat there in my camoflage jacket, jeans, boots and vest top (as usual); sat in my usual 'stance' so to speak. OK, so I was pretty nervous by virtue of my reasons for being there, but otherwise I was perfectly calm and contented.
During the next 20 minutes these things occur: an elderly man can't stop looking at me, derogatorily. The look on his face says "what the heck is that supposed to be". A younger man strides in, cool as a cucumber and sort of grunts/grins/acknowledges me ("wotcher mate") as I smile at his gait. A younger girl keeps eyeing me up, glancing then blushing. I smile warmly. Bless. Other women either disregard me after a cursory glance, or self consciously look anywhere else possible, not wanting meet my eyes. A child running by stops, looks directly at me questioningly, until their parental call them away embarrassed.
I'm not obviously male, except perhaps to some. Masculine, definitely yes. However I'm also far less obviously female than in the past, but naturally some still spot me. It wryly amuses me, this dance. I smile, contented to just be me. Some will be cool and some will be arses; that's on them, only my behaviour is on me, and that's just swell by me. I trust my own behaviour to be mostly good, despite challenges.
So I'm sat there contemplating (even enjoying) all this and then over the loudspeaker comes "would Mrs (wtf??) K... ... please come to room ...". I cringe, sigh softly and stand up.
I swear, american werewolf in london all over again, the whole place stops, the kids stop squawking as though they feel something, all eyes watch me stand up, either grinning or disdainful, ignorant or pleasant. Either way they look and watch, a little surprised by my (incredibly) girly legal forename, as I walk through past reception. Being me, not being remotely bashful or backwards in coming forwards, I simply laugh out loud, continuing to chuckle as I make my way in to see my lovely doctor.
And she IS lovely, for what am I here to discuss with her but my gender journey. Bless her, she's superb.
As a direct result of that conversation, along with the incident in the waiting room, I wrote this post.Name Change
Today I took a pretty big step, for me. I changed my name legally i.e. by deed poll. My surname remains the same, but for those who know and care my legal forename is now DK.
From changes that began barely perceptibly way back in 2001 (the first 'appearance' of DK so to speak), my life, self and gender identity has evolved to the point where I am simply no longer remotely comfortable being addressed as Kat or LMG. I hope that those who know me by now understand, and respect the change. I'm not doing this to be awkward, believe me ~chuckle~ ...for once I'm trying to finally be comfortable. This is me, finally doing something that's important for me.
However, for those of you remotely uncomfortable with this:
Yes, formerly and for several years I was known as *leathermgoddess* or *Kat* (that's online nicknames for you); so yes plain old K will do if you personally are remotely uncomfortable with calling me DK. For reference, Kay was actually the name I've been known as (by friends, family, professionally etc) since age 12 anyway, so it's easy for me to deal with and fairly gender neutral.
FINAL AFFIRMATION: my name is now *legally* DK."
Thanks for your time
~doffs cap~
DK
Edited Wed 23 Jul 08, 2:04 AM by DKLeather
| 23 Jul 08, 1:26 AM LeatherDykeUk UK, 12 yrs |
Yay!
Go you! Dance with a demon: www.leatherdyke.co.uk | |
| 23 Jul 08, 1:27 AM DKLeather UK(S), 11 yrs |
~grins and doffs cap~ Thank you! KINKFEST4 - DON'T MISS IT! | |
| 23 Jul 08, 2:06 AM DKLeather UK(S), 11 yrs |
Thank you ~grin~ KINKFEST4 - DON'T MISS IT! | |
| 23 Jul 08, 2:36 AM LeatherEagle UK(S), 7 yrs |
Change? What changes? You have always been magnificent and my hero. I love you. Luisa xxx "Fear is the ultimate sensation" | |
| 23 Jul 08, 2:38 AM DKLeather UK(S), 11 yrs |
Thanks wyfe, your support means more than the world to me x KINKFEST4 - DON'T MISS IT! | |
| 23 Jul 08, 2:38 AM DKLeather UK(S), 11 yrs |
~grin~ thanks wyfe, I love you with all that I am, and all that I will ever be x KINKFEST4 - DON'T MISS IT! | |
| 23 Jul 08, 3:05 AM Crystal_Eyes UK, 5 yrs   |
Congratulations. A relatively minor external change but perhaps more importantly, a significant internal recognition.  ------------------------------------------ | |
| 23 Jul 08, 4:30 AM DKLeather UK(S), 11 yrs |
~soft smile~ thank you. KINKFEST4 - DON'T MISS IT! | |
| 23 Jul 08, 6:00 AM WaterDragon UK(LN), 6 yrs |
Congratulations DK, an important step, and a major one. We have not met, but I can feel for you and your journey. I have also done the waiting room thing, can be funny at times too.
Good luck to you, a young feller should cleve his own path. Hugs, Irene.
Yet Dom as I am _
Still I crave the wind from your sub wings | |
| 23 Jul 08, 7:25 AM LaRouge UK(L), 7 yrs |
I am happy for you. It is a pity when people find it a struggle to accept difference, especially when it hurts no one. Its good you are a strong woman.
It can be an uncomfortable moment in any situation where your name is going to be called out, spesh if it contains more than four letters (so you may be OK from this point Warmly La Rouge I don't want to be anyones girlfriend, I want to be EVERYONES!... Edited 23 Jul 08, 7:40 AM by LaRouge |
)...My second name was, an almost typically long Greek one. A receptionist once called it out as 'Pocahontas'...Kids and adults turned thier heads to me (I imagine) to see if I had escaped from Disney...