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| 19 Jul 08, 1:25 PM cushlah UK(IG), 5 yrs   |
It depends on the relationship I guess, but you need to make your needs known as part of your communication with your Dom. Since i first met my Master I have always had daily contact as a minimum from the very beginning both by text and phone and on line as arranged (no set format for on line) Now we live together but still text each other and speak on phone during my lunch hour at work. Sometimes as a lead up to play, other time just to connect. This amount of contact seems natural to us (essential for me but He has always set the parameters) and we have never seen a need to change it. Grant me | |
| 19 Jul 08, 1:59 PM slutling_angel 4 yrs |
It's not an impossibilty. Or am I getting wrong end of the stick For me I like regular contact. As others have said it show not only commitment but they are *serious* with the D/s relationship or any kind of relationship.
Just my 2penneth Kind Regards Psl
I only got one destination | |
| 19 Jul 08, 2:36 PM nawty_kitty UK(YO), 3 yrs |
I'd be a tad worried, but then men are weird like that. I would say I send about 20 texts a day to daddy, usually mostly boring ones like, "daddy it is ok if i have a sandwich please..." really gripping stuff obviously... In reply I get about 3 and they are usually short and to the point... ask see what he says... but some men do just 'disappear' for several days at a time... | |
| 19 Jul 08, 4:15 PM ropeburn 10 yrs |
I can't abide being constantly harranged by texts or calls from someone I'm dating. Either you feel secure in a relationship or you don't. Work out which and if you're not happy with it look for a way to change things, concious of the fact that people very rarely change to any major degree, compromise or move on. | |
| 19 Jul 08, 6:42 PM Julianne_751 5 yrs |
Have to agree a week seems a long time without any sort of contact, my Dom and I speak daily, whether on here or by text or phone, I wouldnt want it any other way. Maybe you should ask why you have so little contact with each other | |
| 20 Jul 08, 1:10 AM fred07 UK(MK), 4 yrs |
See, yours is the sort of reply I expect. Which is why I probably end up feeling completely confused! One has to be "in a relationship" before one can feel secure & if parameters such as how many texts constitutes harassment are not laid out beforehand, it can become awfully complicated. I had one partner who was more than comfortable with going for weeks without communication as he was uber busy with work, and others that could not manage half an hour without sending the "you've been awful quiet are you ok" text. I guess it's just a case of setting out your expectations at the start of something. | |
| 20 Jul 08, 2:08 AM maddie_black 3 yrs |
When I had an on-line relationship. My Master would text me good morning and goodnight every day. And he would always find some time to ring me,even if it was just a brife call.
Friendship may and often dose,grow into love,but love never subsides into friendship...Lord Byron | |
| 20 Jul 08, 4:26 PM SoulPossession UK(PO), 6 yrs |
An all too common occurrence it seems G. | |
| 21 Jul 08, 5:59 PM newandconfused UK, 3 yrs |
Well thank you all so much for your replies and advice. In answer to people's questions I feel a week is too long I just wondered what others thought. Prior to last week we were in almost daily contact by text or online sometimes phone as well. So to go a week with nothing is unusual. However I do know he is very busy at the moment so I didn't worry for the first few days but a week does seem a long time IMO. I texted him and he replied (sometime later!) but there has been nothing since. I do kind of get the impression that he has lost interest.
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| 21 Jul 08, 9:18 PM newexperiences UK, 5 yrs |
When i was in a relationship (not living together)my Domme had me call her every day at 7am as her wake up call and chat to her for a few minutes,when staying over i would make a cup of tea at 8am then breakfast 30 minutes later,it solved any commumications issues having direct instructions for contact
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