Posted by feitheachd on Thu 3 Jul 08, 5:12 PM to feitheachd's blog.
| “Freedom is nothing else but a chance to be better.” - Albert Camus – |
I often come across the attractive proposition that simply by being submissive I am somehow strong; however, to me that is more or less the same as saying that simply by being right handed I am somehow shallow. Being wired in a particular way bestows neither strength nor weakness; however, I do think that being submissively wired allows me a certain freedom from some of the more unattractive instincts that are sometimes exhibited by my gender, and that may allow me an opportunity to display strength of character.
As a heterosexual man I adore and lust after women, and as a submissive male I particularly adore, admire and lust after women who are self confident, forthright, focussed, ambitious and successful. Those characteristics are not the sole prerogative of dominant women, so I know that it is the trait that I respond to, not simply the sexuality of the woman displaying it. When I encounter a successful woman my impulse is towards admiration and my instinct is to offer support and encouragement. Unfortunately, in my experience, the impulse of some “differently wired” males is towards mistrust and their instinct towards opposition and even hostility.
Of course that freedom from some of the more base instincts isn't enough if I then yield to the peer pressure that almost always accompanies the articulation of those instincts. This is where strength of character and a submissive wring can work together to give me the freedom to do the right thing.
Freedom from ignoble impulses that may arise in some males in certain circumstances is one of the joys of being submissive, but any resulting noble act requires a strength of purpose and, no matter what I read, I know that doesn't come as a standard fitted submissive attribute, it has to be worked at.
Still isn't that also a blessing?
