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Sub anger during play... (34)

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3 Jul 08, 7:59 PM
Pierced_Knight
5 yrs

Oh.

I thought that sub anger during play was normal.

Yep, she gets very angry too.

I bloody love it.

Pierced Knight.

"I'm just a bloody normal bloke. A normal bloke who likes a bit of torture" Mark Brandon 'Chopper' Read.
Educate to Liberate! Liberation through Education!
"ci, jian, bugan wei tianxia xian"

3 Jul 08, 8:11 PM
poutanaki
UK(M), 10 yrs

Yes I get angry sometimes, usually in response to pain. It's a unexpected rage that ignite's inside me, but it has never made me safeword.

It usually disappears very quickly on it's own. Or I work myself to breath through it and get past it.

I see it as an involuntary reaction, a wall to be surpassed, an animal feral reaction.

I also think it's good for me to experience, as i'm not someone who expresses anger often in the normal scheme of things.

Your so pretty when your on your knees. Disinfected, eager to please

3 Jul 08, 8:17 PM
Mabesque
UK(LS), 4 yrs

Yes. Usually early on, a kind of indignant "That hurt!"... "That still hurts!" anger...so long as I don't feel angry afterwards, it's all good

Girls like to be played with and rumpled a little too sometimes - Oliver Goldsmith
Every little girl knows about love. It is only her capacity to suffer because of it that increases. - Francoise Sagan

3 Jul 08, 8:37 PM
Jahc99
UK, 5 yrs

Hmmm. Playing spanking games with mansubs wot is a lot bigger than me is interesting. Especially when they are bragging about how hard they can take it and I says 'yeah, is that right? Make you safeword in one swipe'.

I always win, but one of these days I really am gonna get me head knocked off.

Now go and tell an egg how to suck granny.

3 Jul 08, 8:52 PM
MissLuzies_dobby
UK(CA), 4 yrs

choozy wrote:
Having such a low pain threshold I often get angry during play, this is more with myself though for being such a wuss and not being able to (in my mind) satisfy my Dom or gain satisfaction myself.

Before I start I always say to myself, "Right this is the one, the one where I'm just going to grin and bare it, no matter what".

Always fail miserably !

Choozy. x

With similarities to choozy i also have a low pain threshold at the moment due to medical problems and i get frustrated and angry as i cannot take as much as my Domme would like to give...

This for me is not and enjoyable scenario for me and sometimes i can even feel myself come out of sub mode however this is becoming less frequent im thankful to say...

i can also say that Mistress does not "get off" on my anger but does when the tears begin to flow as She does enjoy seeing me in pain that is also why i get so frustrated that i cannot take as much as i would like to...

Yes i am also in the "woos" club choozy - care to join me or were you here first? lol

I have opinions of my own -- strong opinions -- but I don't always agree with them.

3 Jul 08, 9:05 PM
DragonMaster_n_star
4 yrs

I get so angry sometimes I have this enormous burst of strength that defies limits. I even get so angry that I can seriously hurt myself, once dragging a four poster bed across a room. I get out of restraints, bite through ball gags, rip tape off my skin.

I think Master likes the small anger but when it gets violent He worries!

3 Jul 08, 9:16 PM
silaster
UK, 8 yrs

I am very familiar with sub anger.

It is the main reason I hate after care.

If someone tries to touch me or say something caring I have an immediate feeling of hate/anger/nails on a blackboard, all of which is irrational.

I have thought it was down to the fight or flight adrenalin physiological response of everything my body has gone through.

If I am allowed to calm down for a few minutes alone (sometimes in can be 10-15 mins) I am then ready to be with him, relaxed and happy.

If I am not allowed I have such feelings of hate I cannot get my head in a good space about him.

3 Jul 08, 9:24 PM
MissLioness
UK(LS), 5 yrs

Cant say I have become angry during play, I have never swore at him either ever!! I have however become emotional on many occaisions. Sometimes because I am upset with myself for not being able to take more than id like. sometimes because I have taken everything and I am in that happy place and sometimes because I want more than my body can take but my mind and soul crave.

life saw i needed a true playmate one that compliments me and life brought to me *GoldMane*
NemesisII - friendly club and quality play

Edited 3 Jul 08, 9:25 PM by MissLioness

3 Jul 08, 9:45 PM
Red_Spark
UK(LE), 5 yrs

I love desperation in a sub but I hate anger. Anger makes me angry in return, and that's NOT a good state for me to be in when someone is restrained and at my mercy.

Anger in a sub is a definite no-no for me. Maybe it's just too near the knuckle.

"Be quiet and come with me. I won't betray you."

3 Jul 08, 9:50 PM
totallycoverme
UK(M), 4 yrs

sodsta wrote:
Sub anger during play...

I've found that when I'm engaged in a rather intense scene, with lots of bondage and pain, I tend to run a gamut of different emotions throughout. However, one emotion hits me harder than most when I'm taking lots of pain, and that emotion is anger. Sometimes it's anger directed at the person giving the pain, and sometimes it's just a general frustration at the situation as I try to escape the pain but find I am unable to. But the thing is... it's not at all un-enjoyable. On the contrary, in fact. I find that the anger seems to fuel my desire to take more, and it actually heightens my arousal.

The friend I played with last said she actually got off on my anger, and said it was very obvious I was angry, because I was glaring and cursing and muttering angrily under my breath. She said she liked seeing that anger and frustration, knowing that she'd caused it and there was nothing I could do about it. I have a safeword of course, but despite the anger, I've never once used it. Simply because I don't want to. I don't need to. This anger is a big part of what I enjoy most about S&M play.

What I wanted to ask was... do other subs experience this anger during play? Do you enjoy it, or would you safeword if you started getting to that point? I want to know how common it is and if it's just a natural reaction to that sort of painful stimuli?

And to Dom/mes... do you enjoy seeing that in your sub, or not? Would that level of anger/frustration turn you on, or would it make you slow down?

All input is very much appreciated.

i don't experience anger but as long as you don't find it really unpleasant when you feel it, with it being a normal and healthy emotion, maybe expelling it in the context of bdsm play is a good tension release for you....

if you're concerned though, i guess it's a case of asking yourself the why and how behind it? maybe try to deal with that bit...or maybe try play that doesnt make you so angry if such an emotion isn't so desired..

good luck with it

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