Compiling BDSM Hierarchies (30)

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2 Jul 08, 11:26 PM
TheMarquise
UK, 2 yrs
Glad it struck a chord and congratulations on recently finding your one.
As part of humanity we all have the potential and the duty to be responsible for ourselves and in a community like ours that is still under threat and not understood by the majority it is even more necessary. The brotherhood of man is vital. Hang together or be hung alone, divided we fall, united we stand; these are all slogans that contain a lot of truth. As social animals we need the support of others at some time in our life.
To weaken any human is to potentially endanger one's self. I disagree with any belief in supremacy granted by accident of birth, be that of gender or of a role in BDSM and rather lend my support to those who have forged their strength through a hard life and strived to live as honourably as possible and those that wish to do so but lack the means. They are the ones who have my respect, whether female or male, top or bottom, on the basis of the only equality that can interest me, our equal recognition of what is wonderful in the singularity of each one of us. Only in this way can we experience and create the enchanting world of BDSM in all of its beauty and wonder.

3 Jul 08, 2:46 AM
Mnemosyne
UK(NW), 2 yrs

You are very inspired and inspiring Madame La Marquise.
Majestic Red
... for some a dream, for others .. a nightmare..

3 Jul 08, 2:32 PM
Jahc99
UK, 2 yrs

Yeah, well said.
Self appointed custodians of the 'real' and 'true' and 'pure' do get on my tits rather.
Now go and tell an egg how to suck granny.

3 Jul 08, 6:52 PM
syndee
UK(WC), 2 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:
There is no "real" bdsm to measure up to.
That is soooooooooooooooooooooooo refreshing to see in black and white! You rock!
I am sick to death of people debating 'twooness' online. It seems to me that it must be the people with the greatest insecurities who are the very same people who perpetuate that sort of nonsense.
I can only hope that they will read your very sensible comments and learn to get on with it and give up squawking about daft issues of no consequence..
You see her, you can't touch her,You hear her, you can't hold her
You want her, you can't have her, You want to, but she won't let you

5 Jul 08, 8:49 AM
Mistress_maria_XTC
UK, 2 yrs
Y!
The world of BDSM is wonderfully rich and varied. Putting others down and raising oneself up according to some objective standard is misguided. There is no "real" bdsm to measure up to.
I being in the scene some 10 years + now be that cyber (in my mind so as to escape a form of Domestic slavery as wife to Alcholic husband and house mother)The later I would not change and would do again a thousand times over! Or in the real world as a Lifestlye Dominatrix (Post my mental captivity) I actually find that the Lifestyle has saved my life and me from myself in some ways, personally I feel that there is no hand book or degree course to give us the qualifaction to say I am better because! Yet I do believe we all excel and in some way we are all un qualifide experts in what we do. yet in certain situations i.e. the club scene there are those who have much inflated ego's. That itself lets them down badlyand the BDSM scene because most of these people are great people personally. I have witnessed Dom's albeit peeling their subject alive merely for the performance rating, with no communication prior or after to the subjects welbeing! I say subject becasue most of these have been lone males in search of their dream dom and all they appear to get is a damn good beating with no thought care or consideration to their inner being. This is not a slate on any individual but a obsservation in general. My self guilty of some things. which I thnik I have learned greatly from. In reality all it takes is the simple factor of remembering that after our performace what we are left with is a person who one would hope that during thier time of giving we have lifted to an higher plane and that we both come out of a session with some form of inner satisfaction. being a host for BDSM /Fetish parties I like to think all our guests leave with a smile on thier faces and to be more open here, we have no room at XTC2XS for any one who thinks they are better than any one else and in all cases the SAFE SANE and CONSENSUAL Guidlines alppy.
Edited 5 Jul 08, 8:50 AM by Mistress_maria_XTC

5 Jul 08, 10:08 AM
Miss_Namio
UK(BA), 2 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:
The world of BDSM is wonderfully rich and varied. It encompasses many different types of participants, interests and notably, assumptions about what BDSM represents. ......
The diversity of this wide-ranging BDSM community inspires a lot of creativity, intelligence and support to those within and without it. Yet the very broadness of the scene can generate a tendency for pigeonholing and categorising people in order to simplify the complexity of difference. But sadly, there is still a hierarchy of "realness" in BDSM perpetrated by some. As antithetical to our world as this would seem to be, there are people who set themselves up as appointed guardians of bdsm truth and want to delineate that their kink is substantially different to, and usually better than yours.
Dear M, what an insightful piece of writing. I truly enjoyed reading your analysis and agree with you wholeheartedly.
I almost turned away from the world of BDSM soon after I found it exactly because of the attitudes you describe (quoted above).

But I am a total N00B feel free to L your As O and flame me

5 Jul 08, 3:11 PM
TheMarquise
UK, 2 yrs
So glad you didn't, from all accounts and my online communication with you, you are just the type of person one wants on the scene.

5 Jul 08, 11:19 PM
Miss_Namio
UK(BA), 2 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:
So glad you didn't, from all accounts and my online communication with you, you are just the type of person one wants on the scene.
Thank you so much for the compliment - just the type of medicine I need at the moment! I'll always value your early advice to me.
But I am a total N00B feel free to L your As O and flame me

9 Jul 08, 9:00 AM
AlanSir
UK(LS), 12 mths
Y!
Thank you for writing something I wish I had the wordpower to truly express
A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life.

10 Jul 08, 10:20 AM
Mistress_Serenity
UK(BN), 2 yrs

TheMarquise wrote:
As part of humanity we all have the potential and the duty to be responsible for ourselves and in a community like ours that is still under threat and not understood by the majority it is even more necessary. The brotherhood of man is vital. Hang together or be hung alone, divided we fall, united we stand; these are all slogans that contain a lot of truth. As social animals we need the support of others at some time in our life.

A well written weblog and you raise many points that others would do well to take on board.
Much love S xx

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