A day full of Milestones. (2)

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Posted by submike_m42 on Mon 16 Jun 08, 12:51 AM

This blog is full of milestones for myself.

Firstly its my 20th blog. Ok compared to some of you who have written hundreds or thousands, its a small milestone, but a milestone none the less.

There have been other milestones today though. I got a memo from someone whom I do not know, and have not memo'd myself first. That was a first, another milestone.

A dear friend wrote her first blog, another milestone there.

It is perhaps though, this last milestone that has got me thinking, and prepared to ramble again.

I could go on about validity of a person. There is scope, especially for those of you who are inteligent enough to work out who this friend is, and what their blog was about. But to do that would be a cynical action on my part. I do not wish to gloat on their errors of judgement.

What I do wish to ramble about, regarding their blog, is the fragility of trust, when two people meet over the internet.

Lets be honest.........Would anyone come on here and say anything other than they were trustworthy?

Of course not. It would be self defeating to say the least.

Could you imagine the profile that read:

Married guy, sneaking around at home whilst the wife is out, or in bed, seeks depraved Domme for kinky one off sexual gratification, etc. How many responses would they get?

So everyone talks about being the real deal, being genuine.

Unfortunately, as we all know, not everyone is what they say they are. It is this fact that makes it hard for trust to be anything other than fragile, when meeting people over the internet. Sometimes, we let our imaginations run riot, reading more into what someone has typed, good or bad. Beleiving our own slant on their words and actions, rather than seeing the truth. Its easily done.

The other issue that springs to mind here, is the typed word. Yes it can convey feelings, when typed from the heart. We have seen this with some peoples blogs, when they are feeling down etc.

But on a personal/relationship level, there is quite often one key ingredient missing from the typed word.

Inflection.

The tone in which those words were said. Take a simple phrase like "come here".

How many ways can that be taken?

"COME HERE" bossy Domme to sub as an order, perhaps?

"awwww come here" reassuring perhaps sympathetic.

"Come here" even telling someone exactly were you wish them to orgasm.

There are lots of different conotations to those two words alone.

Inflection within the spoken word, tends to remove the doubt, as to which way something is meant. Yet inflection is almost impossible with the typed word.

Maybe this is why people fall out via text messages or converstations based over the internet, wether that be by messenger or misread emails.

Heck this is getting deep, so I am going to stop.

Lets hope the next blog is another silly story, or something with humour in it.

thanks for reading anyway

mike

Replies

16 Jun 08, 1:07 AM
claimme
8 mths Well in places yes this does sound like you are Questioning other peoples brain power!!!
You sound just a tad pompus, or is it pompas, or even pompASS.
Of course as you point out that is the lack of intonation

16 Jun 08, 1:27 AM
submike_m42
UK, 8 mths
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I do not wish to question peoples brain power, or to sound pompus, merely to explore the limits of trust within the internet relationship. I also do not wish to conduct any private conversations in public.
I could of written about vindication, but that would not have been fair.
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