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| 18 Jun 08, 2:02 PM Kitti_Whitaker 6 yrs  |
Well if you go to do the cleaning for a complete stranger you meet on IC, someone you can't connect to, then it is "just cleaning", maybe fun the first time round when it's new. Personally I would rather get a cleaner it only cost £7 an hour, and there is no emotional involvement. I had live out/live in cleaners and can not compare them to a "houseboy/sissy" at all. Being a houseboy isn't about cleaning it's about service and pleasing someone you care about.
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| 18 Jun 08, 2:26 PM Toys_R_Us 4 yrs |
But surely, you have exactly what you offred, and received exactly what you asked for. We are so lucky to Have found our houseslave - Sabina. A wonderful Victoriana-style TV chamber maid. She turns up, cleans, scrubs and does all the hard work we can throw at her with no complaint. We give her discipline not because she is bad, but to remind her of her place. She has no issues at all serving both of us, and as an aside, neither do any of MistressNikki's boys have issue serving when Professor_Tim is in the house. As we said, we think we are very lucky to have such an integrated house and clan.
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| 18 Jun 08, 3:53 PM male2shemaid UK(SA), 4 yrs  |
Spot on.
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| 18 Jun 08, 5:00 PM Ms_Tytania 7 yrs |
Well, if this service and pleasing someone else takes the form of cleaning -and that's what I'd expect from a domestic-, then the cleaning and how's done are very important. Sloppy cleaning, imo, would show a lack of interest in serving. Cultivate your inner whore | |||
| 18 Jun 08, 7:04 PM skivvymale 5 yrs |
Absolutely. The goal is a purr of contentment at a job well done from the Dominant and relief that you don't have to do it yourself | |||
| 18 Jun 08, 8:04 PM Julissa_Pequenita UK, 5 yrs |
I've read a lot about Houseboys, slaves, maids etc doing domestic service for specific sessions/shifts, eg a few hours at the weekend or an evening in the week. These kinda slaves may vary in quality of their service, but there seems to be a good number of them available. But what about "full-time"/"live-in" servants? Does it work? Is it possible? I've chatted to a few subs, who like the fantasy of it, but in reality they admit that they would probably get a bit bored - and it would be difficult to juggle any vanilla/family commitments. But for a single person, they could become a live-in slave and still hold down their dayjob - but be expected to live by the houserules, a bit like a 19 year old girl or boy living at home with their parents, but working or studying outside. Naturally in a BDSM household the slave would be expected to return from work at agreed times, go to bed and get up when specified, do the majority of the domestics. Perhaps, having a full-time job and maintaining a spotless home etc is too much? But many vanilla working wives do it (and may be some husbands). Perhaps the ideal scenario would be a houseboy, who only needed to work outside the home part-time and who had an independent income and could afford to be a "full-time" houseboy/slave. But I guess his owner/s would be at work or college during the week, so there would be no one to supervise him! It opens up a whole can of worms! Sounds like having a skivvy in once or twice a week to scrub would be a lot simpler than accomodating them. Interested to hear what owners and houseboys/servants think. Would you dare to go 24/7? | |||
| 18 Jun 08, 8:23 PM skivvymale 5 yrs |
24/7 might work in the following scenarios: 1. Slave works professionally for a Domme (earning an income) and spends all his/her spare time dedicated to service. 2. Domme is the main breadwinner and slave acts as 'homemaker' 3. Slave is a lodger and earns an income but spends all spare time in service. | |||
| 18 Jun 08, 8:30 PM Kitti_Whitaker 6 yrs |
I would look at it the other way round and start with say two people, one man and one woman, and an "average" lifestyle, and then look at fitting kink around that as opposed to talking about subs and doms and 24/7. Edited 18 Jun 08, 8:35 PM by Kitti_Whitaker | |||
| 18 Jun 08, 8:59 PM male2shemaid UK(SA), 4 yrs |
That is the cornerstone for any BDSM relationship. All too often people try to do it from the wrong way round or just do it about the BDSM. Yes, too some of us BDSM is so important that we seek it in our relationships and many hope to oneday be able to have it as a regular part of their life with their partner... but whether you are into trainspotting, BDSM or anything else together... the foundations of the relationship are ever so important.
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| 18 Jun 08, 9:27 PM Kitti_Whitaker 6 yrs |
So in all the options you've listed the Domme is providing the financial stability. In the real world 70% of money is earnt by men and spent by women, that's why advertisers target females. This means that our hypothetical houseboy/sissy maid would not only be looking for a domme which is hard to find as it is, but one that's into domestic and will also fall into the 30% financially, but would still have the time for a 24/7, without being supported by another man which would complicate things even further.
Edited 18 Jun 08, 9:33 PM by Kitti_Whitaker |
