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| 15 Jun 08, 11:36 AM ClassAct2005 UK(N), 7 yrs  |
I wouldn't like it. It's insitutionalised to an extent in Islam and groups like the FLDS although always in a sexist way - one man, 2 or 3 wives. | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 11:41 AM goodghirl UK, 8 yrs  |
I wonder how unusual our relationship is in that we both equally see different people shoulda woulda coulda | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 11:47 AM littlenic 5 yrs |
I'm intrigued - can you tell me more about how a sexual relationship between your slaves would increase envy?
"If you don't, I will..." | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 12:43 PM Miss_Skelpie UK(ML), 8 yrs |
Surely this makes you poly, in that you have more than one relationship. I don't think it matters if they have relationships with one another or not. I have a history of having relationships with more than one person simultaneously. None of them ever had a 'sexual dynamic' with one another but I always considered myself poly, if only because I couldn't be called monogamous. But back to the original question... I never considered why I was poly, it's just how I was. I was just never attracted to a monogamous relationship. It seemed to me entirely ridiculous to expect to have all my emotional and sexual needs met from one person, in a similar way that I wouldn't expect someone to have only one friend. So why only one lover? I also loved the independence I could maintain from being poly. However, never say never. I now know that monogamy can suit me too, and have learned that there are delicious benefits to being in a committed monogamous relationship. I don't think that my polyamorousness or monogamy have been responses to the society I live in. I think I have the relationships that fit for me and my partner(s) at the time. It's all about what works for individuals. Skelpie x Whatever you dream you can do begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now. Goethe | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 5:32 PM Shamanic_hunt_ion UK, 4 yrs |
I am coming back to this again...trying to work through this for myself... I really need to sort and do something about it...how does one going about finding a partner who is willing to accept other relationships? How does one work through how it is going to work? So many questions? | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 5:44 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
I wonder how unusual ours is, because we both dominate and top other people, but never shag 'em? Is it really so rare, to look another in the eye, make them a promise, and keep it? | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 7:10 PM meadow 4 yrs |
I think Poly relationships are not for everyone, but in an age where marriages isn't mostly about Money we have more freedoms for those people it is for. I think it is all on a sliding scale. I know I'm hardcore monogamous, because I have my issues and that's how they mash me up. I know some people can love several people equally, and some who have strict limits on all but one relationships. I think all consensual relationship arrangements can be viewed as equally valid if you just put them on a scale together, so there's no good or bad, just different. | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 7:13 PM goodghirl UK, 8 yrs |
I do actually think it is pretty unusual, I mean the no shagging part not the promise part shoulda woulda coulda | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 7:33 PM Jahc99 UK, 5 yrs |
Thanks. When I look for encounters outside of my love for Her, it is just because She don't switch. If she did, I doubt I'd be thinking on this at all. She fills my world, and then some. But, to cut several very long stories short, I have found another love for, and a very strong and unselfish love, for more than a few. None of who I have, or ever intend to have sex with. Maybe it's a Clanger thing. But I care for them beyond the fetish, beyond the BDSM, it seems one can learn to love people through this, without burying me dick in them, and hell can hang convention. | ||
| 15 Jun 08, 8:44 PM Pierced_Knight 5 yrs |
I can certainly relate to this. I am a very 'emotional' person, in the sense that emotions mean a lot to me. I have fallen in 'love' with people in the past, that I would never have sex with. What I'm saying is that I have fallen in love with people for who they are, whether or not I could have a physical relationship with them. I think that polyamory is a natural human state that isn't common due to social and cultural influence. I think that polyamory is a wonderful and beautiful dynamic that I admire and respect. Why aren't *I* poly? Simple answer: jealousy. It's an awful human trait, but it's there. Regards, Pierced Knight.
"I'm just a bloody normal bloke. A normal bloke who likes a bit of torture" Mark Brandon 'Chopper' Read. |
