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| Mon 19 May 08, 7:57 PM Mistress_Avralivia UK(RG), 4 yrs £   |
I mean really couldnt someone have left room for me to post? I dont check IC for 16 hours and its full!! lol  I have had a relationship before that worked without sex. But I missed it, I missed the closeness it brings, I missed the joy of the purely physical. I can honestly say I dont know how I could go back to a relationship without it now, because sex is not so much important in my relationship as an intrinsic part of it, and a big part of how we are together. Dont get me wrong we spend a lot of time talking and discussing things, having fun, playing etc. But the sex is amazing and just makes us even closer. So I guess what im saying is yes it could survive without it if it had to, if something happened to one of us and we had to stop then I really dont think our relationship would end, we would find ways around it. But at the end of the day, my god id miss it! "Dance like nobody's watching; love like you've never been hurt. Sing like nobody's listening; live like it's heaven on earth." | ||
| 19 May 08, 8:03 PM GentleButch UK(M), 4 yrs |
Yes it could. I'm not in a relationship of any particular sort right now, but unfortunately, I am the one who is not particularly interested in being sexual as much as being loving and intimate. There has to be a lot more there for me to keep me interested- I am a cerebral being. Sex, when engaged in, is one of many ways in which I express my love for a romantic partner. I find my mind wandering to other things for the time being... -sb | ||
| 19 May 08, 8:04 PM deelish UK(RM), 11 yrs |
If someone I loved deeply suddenly couldn't perform anymore, I'd hope they'd at least engage in 'other' pursuits. If they just gave up, refused help, refused any forms of physical intimacy then, no. It's not the be all and end all of a good relationship but it bloody helps and I wouldn't want to be without it. deelish Yes, I do realise my gob is writing cheques my arse can't cash, but I have a very accomodating banker. | ||
| 19 May 08, 8:06 PM ChildeRoland 5 yrs |
Most relationships require physical affirmation. Sex is just one way of achieving this. However, for me it's a combination of both mental and physical fulfilment. Could I do without it? Yes. My wife is more to me than just sex. Were she physically incapable, that would be something I'd learn to live with. Emotionally incapable would imply other, possibly external, issues that needed dealing with. To fight and conquer in all your battles is not supreme excellence; supreme excellence consists in breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting.
-Sun Tzu, the Art of War | ||
| 19 May 08, 8:35 PM Intelligencia UK(GU), 5 yrs |
Could it survive? I expect so, like a fish can 'survive' out of water. Could it thrive and grow and be all encompassingly wonderful? I seriously doubt it. Been there, got the tee shirt, never again. What the hand dare sieze the fire? | ||
| 19 May 08, 9:07 PM DevilMayCare UK, 4 yrs |
Not having been in a sexless relationship, I can only say that if for some reason things eased off, I would find a way to cope. OK, would be hard as my lady is a sexy sexy woman and I know I would find it difficult not being able to pounce when the mood took me, but our connection as a couple emtionally is far greater and holds more importance. Edited 19 May 08, 9:08 PM by DevilMayCare | ||
| 19 May 08, 10:08 PM enigma56 UK(B), 4 yrs |
Think this just about sums it up for me as well...without some form of physical intimacy the relationship would just fade away...it's not the be all and end all, it's the icing on the cake..but the cake would be pretty dull without that icing... | ||
| 19 May 08, 10:27 PM FluffySub UK(NN), 6 yrs      |
When I met M I was having serious gynae problems that resulted in me having a fairly urgent hysterectomy. What a start to a relationship..... but as a wise friend said, "if he'll stick with you through this, he's a keeper". We did engage in 'other' pursuits but the day that post-op 6 week deadline passed couldn't have come soon enough. I love the intimacy, the flesh-on-flesh, the closeness and (let's be honest here) the sex for sex's sake. I'd not want to go without again, but we proved we could if we had to.
I'm a threadkiller, twisted threadkiller | ||
| 20 May 08, 4:55 PM RastaPasta 9 yrs |
Well I would also hope that the lack of sex would not mean the end of the relationship, I see my partner as more than just a person who helps me get my rocks off, so to speak. I think it's the intimacy of sex, rather than any sexual act itself that is important. But then we have a healthy sex life, so that's easy to say... If you are willing to look at another person's behaviour towards you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than as a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time, cease to react to them | ||
| 20 May 08, 11:32 PM silaster UK, 8 yrs |
I have had a relationship without sex, twice. It was called marriage. If I wanted a sex free time I would have stayed married to at least one of them. For me, it is not about if it can survive without it, its whether either of us would want it to | ||
| 24 May 08, 5:46 PM Viskan IS, 6 yrs |
I really do prefer sex in my relationships! Could it last? For a while probably, but then in the end I am a rather physical person with the ones I'm in a relationship with. I've sold my soul, my body -
Swept away by dreams, illusions -
Fragments of my own imagination -
Played by feelings emotions |
