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Posted by Devil_HafMia on Sat 10 May 08, 8:34 PM

Can one get everything SO wrong. I must be a really nasty person, to have endured what I have. Only wish I knew. Knew what? I dont know anymore. I would be shamed if I said I couldnt look after my children, people would say 'oh my god how on earth can a mother do that'. So why is it ok for a father to wash his hands of his child or children. You know it hurts real bad inside. How can one get everything SO wrong.

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10 May 08, 8:39 PM Kinky_Embrace UK, 18 mths	It's not ok. My ex did it too, he turned his back on his kids for 4 years, he's now back in contact with them and truth be known I don't think he could cope with fatherhood and having to return them on a Sunday evening, so he took them home one weekend and never went back. I know he thought about them, and it was only after he had counselling for his anger problems etc. that he actually got in contact with them again. I know it's easy to say, but it's not a reflection on you or your children - it's about him, and one day he'll get his head sorted, I just hope it's not too late. Sending hugs xx Devil_HafMia wrote: Can one get everything SO wrong. I must be a really nasty person, to have endured what I have. Only wish I knew. Knew what? I dont know anymore. I would be shamed if I said I couldnt look after my children, people would say 'oh my god how on earth can a mother do that'. So why is it ok for a father to wash his hands of his child or children. You know it hurts real bad inside. How can one get everything SO wrong. Don't judge me until you've walked a mile in my shoes, and I shan't judge you!
10 May 08, 8:47 PM Devil_HafMia 8 mths	I know its me he disppises me for being honest, now my child has to be without her dad because of me.
10 May 08, 8:49 PM Kinky_Embrace UK, 18 mths	Sorry hun, but a real man and a real father would put whatever's happened between you and him to the back of their mind and focus on their child. His lack of ability to do that is NOT your fault!! Devil_HafMia wrote: I know its me he disppises me for being honest, now my child has to be without her dad because of me. Don't judge me until you've walked a mile in my shoes, and I shan't judge you!
10 May 08, 8:55 PM Devil_HafMia 8 mths	In my head your right but in my heart i know i am.
10 May 08, 9:04 PM Kinky_Embrace UK, 18 mths	Give yourself some time and tlc, the heart will catch up with the head - emotions are not easy things to have or deal with. Devil_HafMia wrote: In my head your right but in my heart i know i am. Don't judge me until you've walked a mile in my shoes, and I shan't judge you!
11 May 08, 9:50 AM Crystal_Eyes UK(SA), 2 yrs	In an ideal world, parents should love a child more than they hate each-other. Unfortunately, Jeremy Kyle teaches us that this is not always so. ------------------------------------------ "Oh bother," said the borg. "We've assimilated Pooh..." Official member of the Pants on Head club