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I've just been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
This got me thinking... I'd be curious to know how many of us kinksters have mental health issues too. How common is it for people with frakked up brains to resort to BDSM-related activites as a way of dealing with their other problems, or as a relief from them?
Are people on the fringe of society automatically drawn to other 'fringe' pursuits?
I've already covered my thoughts on BDSM 'pain therapy' in this blog but is it something about the surrender of power that also appeals to those who struggle every day with mental health?
I know I myself feel comforted and relieved by the act of surrendering into another's control - it's like, just for a few hours, I don't have to worry about the things I usually worry about. I can let someone else switch off my brain, which is incredibly difficult for me to do. It also has a lot to do with having that kind of intense connection with someone - when you're suffering from a mental disorder, it's so easy to find yourself feeling outcast, isolated and distanced. Having someone out there who you click so well with... someone who you trust that much and who trusts you... it fills up a void that is all too common.
But then comes the harsh question. Do I only enjoy BDSM because I'm 'damaged'? Should I even be partaking in BDSM from a mentally/emotionally insecure position?
I'd truly love to hear peoples' viewpoints on this.
| 1 May 08, 12:20 PM razyplaits UK(PE), 4 yrs  |
bdsm can be cathartic but anyone can benifit from that.i know myself that its almost like meditaing when iam being sub i can go right "under" and ride with the pain turning it into pleasure and breaking pain barriers,yes you may have got more out of it due to youre problems but in my opion not sexually but scoaily we are differant from scoieties point of view so being able to disscus things on here and at munches etc is great because we all understand each other,like disscusing anything with like minded peapole its refreshing, so ergo is helping you to feel more "normal" but i say theres no such thing as normal its a cycle on my washing machine!good luck Edited 1 May 08, 12:22 PM by razyplaits | ||
| 1 May 08, 12:40 PM dominalush UK(RG), 5 yrs  |
i too have borderline personality disorder...when i got my diagnosis i was relieved that the total apartness and isolation i have felt for as long as i can remember was actually something that was recognized...had thought it was just me!!i advise you to find out all you can about p.d.s....many folk are very ignorant about them.i cant answer your question about submitting as i am totally dominant but i do think that overall those of us who live,for whatever reason,on the fringes of "NORMAL"society are ofter more open to experimentation,one thing bdsm is good for,pushing the boundaries.good luck sweetie the fluffiest Domme you are ever likely to meet | ||
| 1 May 08, 12:46 PM Emmaline  UK(B), 7 yrs £    |
*puts hand up as a BDSMer with BPD*
...It seemed like a good idea at the time... | ||
| 1 May 08, 4:33 PM SuzannaRaine UK(NG), 4 yrs |
Not borderline, but bipolar and dissociative. I tend to appreciate that at times, I shouldn't play, cos the motives are wrong, for me, but otherwise, I understand the calm, safe, someone else can deal with it feeling. It's peaceful. bara 'adam 'et 'elohim m'apher | ||
| 1 May 08, 5:45 PM HobGothlin 5 yrs |
http://www.informedconsent.co.uk/boards/ukds/186...
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| 1 May 08, 8:17 PM untamedwildchild UK(SS), 5 yrs |
Atypcial bipolar and borderline personality disorder....apparently BDSM is therapy for me ....wonder if now i have taken a step back iff i am going to go nuttier...UG theres a thought!!! | ||
| 1 May 08, 9:18 PM Mister_D UK, 4 yrs |
Not to dispute psychiatrists knowledge and skills however you do need to consider that the psychiatric yardstick for normality was set back in the twenties.
Yep we all live on the fringes. All the creative smart and interesting people huddle together outside society to avoid the people watching Richard and Judy whilst eating a ready meal before leaving for hols in Malaga. (many of whom are psychiatrists)
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| 1 May 08, 10:02 PM electricfog UK, 7 yrs |
I don't know what I am. Despite seeing psychiatrists/psychologists off and on since the age of about 4, I have no idea what they thought of me - nor do I much care. Kierkegaarde (spelling?) said 'If you label me, you negate me'. I can go with that. Even if I underwent serious 'shrinkage', I doubt if anyone could come up with a diagnosis that wasn't tainted by the brain damage I suffered. The first psychiatrist I ever saw described me jokingly as a 'crazy, mixed-up kid'. That'll do. ef | ||
| 1 May 08, 10:18 PM penwiggle UK(CB), 5 yrs  |
Well said, and probably quite accurate. My ex-wife believed that everyone in the scene either had a mental disorder or had been abused at one point in their life. Course, I think she was trying to turn me against the scene at the time. She was diagnosed with BPD, funny how they missed the multiple personality disorder (all 8 of them!). As a transsexual, I technically have a mental disorder. Although now that I've had the surgery, I'm not technically a transsexual, so I'm technically cured. But, I still love bdsm. I got into BDSM at around age 9 when I'd tie my balls with shoe laces and try to pull them off. Then discovered pain was pleasure. So, did my adversion to my genitals make me kinky? Whatever! I like it, I need it, I want more of it. And since it makes me happy, I'll call it normal and be done with it. Pen Empty. | ||
| 3 May 08, 12:17 PM pleasureswitch UK(E), 6 yrs |
I believe that BDSM people are as sane or as mad,ill or well as the rest of society. The more people I have met roundabouts here the more I have come to feel that there isn't a "type of person" who's into BDSM, just people.Ofcourse this is anecdotal, wouldn't it be very difficult to prove one way or the other especally as there are many people out there who obviously (in my opinion) have problems that they simply arn't prepared to admit to,even if asked directly.I do agree with the point that things like mental health can be more easily and openly discussed on a site like this due to the tolerance(mostly) shown for other peoples lifestyles/kinks.This is good. I do have (at least) 1 mental health issue myself, I choose to deal/admit to this in another forum away from here. Probley for fear of misunderstanding I'm not saying this is right or wrong, just simply my way of dealing with stuff. Everyone here should have the right to post as they wish, this should be a safe space. As regards the "play as therapy", I say yes.It dose for me fulfill a deep need within in me. To be bound and beaten ( and to bind and beat)is very,very important to me and my sense of wellbeing If a thing brings pleasue and relief from the stresses of life then why not, as long as it isn't doing you or those around you any harm.I know this can sometimes be a tough call in the real world especally around the subject of addictions.If on the other hand you're unhappy with a situation or your use of it, then walk away. One final thought, personally I dislike people, anybody, describing themself as being on the "margins of society". Marginal people end up getting marganalised, abused,hated,attacked.Much better and healther to say we are society, we are normal,we take the centre ground, we are just like you and frankly seeing how fucked up things are in this world it seam to be a pretty reasonable claim! Peace n Luv. Edited 3 May 08, 12:21 PM by pleasureswitch |
